Road Cycling - Men hitting on men at Memorial

OK, this is embarassing, but I've had to deal with this type of thing before at the gym. I went for a ride last Friday at Memorial Picnic Loop (Houston) -- a 1.1 mile closed track in the park that is popular with roadies. Convenient location for training rides.

I'm back at my car stretching out before I get in for the drive home, and a "nice young man" pedals up and in an effeminate voice strikes up a conversation. I didn't want to embarrass him, so I wasn't rude, but I made sure my tone clearly reflected my heterosexuality and didn't do anything to suggest I was interested. Think he finally got the point and rode off.

Now, I am a pretty tolerant guy. I have a few friends and acquaintences who are gay. I generally show respect and tolerance and get respect in return. HOWEVER, I don't exactly want to be HIT on by other men. :eek: Makes me appreciate what women go thru all the time.

Questions:
1) Can anyone clue me in as to the "schedule" Memorial Park follows? I may have been there on the "wrong" day.
2) Aside from avoiding Memorial, what else can I do to signal in advance that I happen to LIKE WOMEN? Is this just one of the hazards of wearing lycra???

I don't discriminate -- Advice from gay men is equally appreciated here -- maybe I am doing something to look too cute? :D

It's probably the tight pants

What did he say when he talked to you? Why is it that if the guy is "gay", he's automatically hitting on you? I mean, just saying some dood came up and started talking to you doesn't give me an idea of what is happening there. Enlighten us?

Koffee

It's probably the tight pants

Could be - although I intentionally put on baggy b-ball shorts over the lycra as soon as I got back to the car. I also stretched from a sitting position (not a conspicious standing toe-touching position).

this happens to me to once in a while, but very rarely. just casually mention something about a girlfriend or wife, and that's enough. anyone would get the hint after that. but, yes, as you mentioned above - women have it 100 times worse.

What did he say when he talked to you? Why is it that if the guy is "gay", he's automatically hitting on you? I mean, just saying some dood came up and started talking to you doesn't give me an idea of what is happening there. Enlighten us?

Koffee

It's one of those things you have to kinda trust the assessment of the person who was there (me). I could attempt to detail the circumstances, the surroundings, the reputation of Memorial, try to relate his inflection or innuendo or its similarity to the line of conversation that a man makes when hitting on a woman, etc., but it's not the same as being there and experiencing it first hand. Trust me, I was there, and I am making a reasonable inference from the circumstances as they occurred.

Suck it up and be a man. :)

Seriously, what would women do if they tried to avoid all the straight men everywhere?

(Answer-stay in the house and do nothing.)

Please get over it.

OK, this is embarassing, but I've had to deal with this type of thing before at the gym. I went for a ride last Friday at Memorial Picnic Loop (Houston) -- a 1.1 mile closed track in the park that is popular with roadies. Convenient location for training rides.

I'm back at my car stretching out before I get in for the drive home, and a "nice young man" pedals up and in an effeminate voice strikes up a conversation. I didn't want to embarrass him, so I wasn't rude, but I made sure my tone clearly reflected my heterosexuality and didn't do anything to suggest I was interested. Think he finally got the point and rode off.

Now, I am a pretty tolerant guy. I have a few friends and acquaintences who are gay. I generally show respect and tolerance and get respect in return. HOWEVER, I don't exactly want to be HIT on by other men. :eek: Makes me appreciate what women go thru all the time.

Questions:
1) Can anyone clue me in as to the "schedule" Memorial Park follows? I may have been there on the "wrong" day.
2) Aside from avoiding Memorial, what else can I do to signal in advance that I happen to LIKE WOMEN? Is this just one of the hazards of wearing lycra???

I don't discriminate -- Advice from gay men is equally appreciated here -- maybe I am doing something to look too cute? :D

how about wearing a jersey that says "I'm straight as an arrow" or wear a tights that has "EXIT ONLY" on the butt part? hehe :D

it's all good man.. i know exactly what you mean. before i would go to SF shopping center to buy clothes.. but after being hit on by other guys.. like asking me for my number, or giving me their number, or just wondering if i would like to meet up to get coffee... etc. so.. i just stopped going there. it's not that i am uncomfortable around gay people.. i have friends that are gay as well. so i know exactly what you mean! my friends use to call me a gay tease.. since i get hit on more often then they do.. and their's actually GAY! haha. it's all good...

Suck it up and be a man. :)



Is that avoiding it? Or acquiescing? ;)

Please get over it.

Why the hostility this question generates? I even filled my post with all the politically correct caveats and expression of tolerance I could. If a woman posted a question, "how do I avoid or minimize getting hit on men", I don't think the response would be at all hostile. Nobody would ask her to prove the straight man was hitting on the straight woman. Nobody would ask her to get over it.

Also looking for an answer to my other question, which is what is the "schedule" Memorial keeps? Before I get flamed, I'd like to point out I specifically recall reading a site that mentioned Thursday being a "guy watching" day at Memorial. I'm not making this stuff up.

Why the hostility this question generates? I even filled my post with all the politically correct caveats and expression of tolerance I could. If a woman posted a question, "how do I avoid or minimize getting hit on men", I don't think the response would be at all hostile. Nobody would ask her to prove the straight man was hitting on the straight woman. Nobody would ask her to get over it.

Also looking for an answer to my other question, which is what is the "schedule" Memorial keeps? Before I get flamed, I'd like to point out I specifically recall reading a site that mentioned Thursday being a "guy watching" day at Memorial. I'm not making this stuff up.

oh wow.. really? gay watching day? i use to live in houston tx for 10 yrs.. even went to hastings high sku.. but never heard of gay watching day.. guess times has changed since i moved to cali.

Could have been worse. The guy could have been --cue the scary music-- black . Then, not only would he want to do you, but he'd take your money as well. Right?

Honestly, I don't get it. The fear, the uneasiness, whatever. I'm flattered when people show me attention, and I take it for what it's worth. It's a compliment. Get over it.

Also looking for an answer to my other question, which is what is the "schedule" Memorial keeps? Before I get flamed, I'd like to point out I specifically recall reading a site that mentioned Thursday being a "guy watching" day at Memorial. I'm not making this stuff up.

It's been a few years since I regularly rode the picnic loop so things may have changed a bit but I don't recall there being any particular day to avoid. I generally rode tuesdays and thursdays after work because that fit my schedule back then. It seemed to me everyone was pretty serious about the ride. I never came across any openly gay activity. It seems likely that fridays and the weekeng brings out more people in general so the chances of being hit upon is greater.

Also you might want to make sure your bike shorts are not worn in the back. After a while they can get thin enough to be see through. :eek:

Could have been worse. The guy could have been --cue the scary music-- black . Then, not only would he want to do you, but he'd take your money as well. Right?

Honestly, I don't get it. The fear, the uneasiness, whatever. I'm flattered when people show me attention, and I take it for what it's worth. It's a compliment. Get over it.


HUH!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!!?

1) How do you compare sexual preference and skin color? The two have absolutely nothing in common. One has everything to do with civil rights, the other has nothing to do with civil rights.

2) Do you have any idea what MY race is??? Are you implying I am a racist? How do you possibly justify making such an inference? That is the most hateful inference anyone can make. I mentioned nothing about race.

3) How the hell do you draw a parallel between what I wrote and the insinuation that I'm a caucasian who fears black people and thinks they are thieves? Are you implying homosexual sex is akin to assault and battery? Wouldn't that make YOU a homophobe AND a racist?

oh wow.. really? gay watching day? i use to live in houston tx for 10 yrs.. even went to hastings high sku.. but never heard of gay watching day.. guess times has changed since i moved to cali.

YES. And when I find the link, I will make certain to let you know. Came across it several weeks ago. It was a respectable, sex-neutral site that had info on ride days and calenders. One particular day at that particular site was specifically quoted as being a day for guy-watching.

Furthermore, a gay friend of mine (what? how is that possible? i thought i was a racist homophobe?) has talked about how he goes to Memorial to watch guys.

Again, I don't make this stuff up.

I'm back at my car stretching out before I get in for the drive home, and a "nice young man" pedals up and in an effeminate voice strikes up a conversation. I didn't want to embarrass him, so I wasn't rude, but I made sure my tone clearly reflected my heterosexuality and didn't do anything to suggest I was interested. Think he finally got the point and rode off.


I guess I don't see what the problem is. Okay, so a guy with whom you share a common interest strikes up a conversation. You suspect he's gay and is hitting on you so you politely imply that you are straight and uninterested. Conversation ends, pleasantly I hope, and he leaves. Sounds like you handled it like a gentleman. If it occurs again, handle it exactly the same way. No problem.

I used to think I had the same "problem." I lived in the area of Midtown known as Lavender Heights and thought I might get a t-shirt printed up to say "Thanks, I'm flattered but I'm not gay." Then I realized it's not a problem at all. It's just flattering attention which, because you're straight, is wasted on you. I figured if I guy was hitting on me then his gaydar was malfunctioning and he'd probably be more embarrassed about it than I was. So let it go.

As far as it being Boys' Night, or whatever, does that really make a difference? As has been said many times on these forums, either you can ride a bike fast or you can't.

It's probably the tight pants

Bingo.

Just think about all the women you've tried to hit on in your life that wern't interested. Be polite, chat, don't give out your number. :)

Just think about all the women you've tried to hit on in your life that wern't interested.

humm, i just tried that - my mind cannot comprehend such numbers. :)

I never came across any openly gay activity.

LOL I'm picturing just what exactly "openly gay activity" is. So on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays it's bicycle night, on tuesday and thursday's it's gay bathhouse and track redecorating days? :D


Also you might want to make sure your bike shorts are not worn in the back. After a while they can get thin enough to be see through. :eek:

Shhhh! You're giving away our secrets!

This is a contentious issue, for whatever reason.
I can see both points. Getting hit on mistakenly is not a big deal-I've had it happen, and simply made it clear that I'm straight. That's always done the trick. At the same time, there is a level of discomfort associated with those incidents. Again, not a big deal, but a little off-putting.

And no, I'm not a homophobe.

Furthermore, a gay friend of mine (what? how is that possible? i thought i was a racist homophobe?) has talked about how he goes to Memorial to watch guys. Honestly, male breeders aren't safe anywhere. My favorite places to guy watch are bookstores. :) Lots of nerdy guys in glasses. :)

As has been said many times on these forums, either you can ride a bike fast or you can't. Fast ENOUGH is the question! Muhahahahah!

This is a contentious issue, for whatever reason.
I can see both points. Getting hit on mistakenly is not a big deal-I've had it happen, and simply made it clear that I'm straight. That's always done the trick. At the same time, there is a level of discomfort associated with those incidents. Again, not a big deal, but a little off-putting.

And no, I'm not a homophobe.

Well, if you think about it rationally w/o fear of stepping on non-PC hot buttons, it's pretty clear why it makes a straight guy uncomfortable to be hit on by a gay guy. Being hit upon is a sexual pursuit. Flirting and approaching someone sexually, while it may not lead to immediate sex, is at least an inquiry into the possibility that you might be the object of homosexual gratification. Say what you want about homosexual activity -- you may honestly believe it to be a very wholistic pursuit - but if you ain't gay, you don't want THAT done TO YOU or BY YOU. Plain and simple. So you don't want to be pursued toward that end.

And I might add -- there is the factor of the pursuit occuring in a public park. Now, I don't know if yall read the news, but some crazy shizzat happens in and around public parks in major metro areas. (Again, I will make what should be another unnecessary caveat for all you hypersensitive types -- that I am not implying all people in parks are dangerous). Parks attract normal people...and they all attract pervs and deviants, both gay and straight, in higher proportion than the city at large. Just ask PeeWee and George Michael. Also ask any woman who goes jogging in the park - I betcha she carries mace if it's after 5 pm. Memorial Park has signs everywhere saying DO NOT USE AT NIGHT. Being approached by a gay man is compounded by the mere fact of being approached by a stranger in a park.

hey... just because he's gay, doesn't make you cute... not all gay guys are after you...

and don't ya know... everyone has a gay friend... and a black friend too... :D

Just politely tell him your not interested and get on with your day...

this was pointless

jeff

Nothing says "I'm a ladies man" like leather chaps and a mesh top, plus it makes for great cycling wear.

Nothing says "I'm a ladies man" like leather chaps and a mesh top, plus it makes for great cycling wear.

Something else just occurred to me... you think my Pink lycra cycling shorts with the little yellow happy face on the butt is asking for attention???

Something else just occurred to me... you think my Pink lycra cycling shorts with the little yellow happy face on the butt is asking for attention???

I don't see a problem with it, no.

Or an S&W in a shoulder Holster. Than nobody will hit on you no matter who they are!

Perhaps you should dress up like a crazy homeless bicycling dude in long hair/beard, tattered clothing, unshaven etc. Or perhaps rub some nasty stinky stuff on you, drool constantly, pick yer nose vigorously,etc. I'm sure folks will leave you alone, then.

Towlie,
I'm sorry you are not getting the answer you wanted. You mentioned the dreaded word "gay" and now everyone is attacking. It is too bad that we are so uptight. Sorry, man.

Perhaps you should dress up like a crazy homeless bicycling dude in long hair/beard, tattered clothing, unshaven etc. Or perhaps rub some nasty stinky stuff on you, drool constantly, pick yer nose vigorously,etc. I'm sure folks will leave you alone, then.
Geez, I didn't think you saw me when I passed you on that down hill.Ran out of the stinky stuff. Guess that was it. Robt.

Geez, I didn't think you saw me when I passed you on that down hill.Ran out of the stinky stuff. Guess that was it. Robt.

I was actually in Austin this weekend and after watching the TDF at the Tavern I brought my girlfriend to a bike shop to tyr out possible bikes for her. She was wearing long heels (bike store was an unplanned diversion) and joked you probably don't see too many women wearing heels on bikes. I reminded her, "actually, honey, we are in Austin...you will see people wearing heels, but they are typically men." :D Not far from the truth, actually -- when I went to UT I frequently saw a middle-aged homeless man in a dress riding his bike around near Zilker and the Drag.

Perhaps you should dress up like a crazy homeless bicycling dude in long hair/beard, tattered clothing, unshaven etc. Or perhaps rub some nasty stinky stuff on you, drool constantly, pick yer nose vigorously,etc.

Which night? I heard from a friend of a friend that Friday at Memorial is "Crazy Stinky Homeless Droolers and Boogers Night."

But let's be clear: That's heterosexual crazy stinky homeless droolers. We wouldn't want any freaks in there.

Towlie,
I'm sorry you are not getting the answer you wanted. You mentioned the dreaded word "gay" and now everyone is attacking. It is too bad that we are so uptight. Sorry, man.

No prob, I prolly shoulda expected this. Four topics I will no longer debate on this forum are religion, politics, chain lube, and sexuality.

Also looking for an answer to my other question, which is what is the "schedule" Memorial keeps?

Furthermore, a gay friend of mine (what? how is that possible? i thought i was a racist homophobe?) has talked about how he goes to Memorial to watch guys.



Maybe you should just ask your friend.



Well, if you think about it rationally w/o fear of stepping on non-PC hot buttons, it's pretty clear why it makes a straight guy uncomfortable to be hit on by a gay guy. Being hit upon is a sexual pursuit.
you don't want THAT done TO YOU or BY YOU. Plain and simple. So you don't want to be pursued toward that end.

Out of curiosity, would you have started a thread if you'd have been approached by a woman who you didn't want THAT done TO YOU or BY YOU? I dunno, something like "Person hitting on uninterested person in public place". I think sharing such a novel experience would really be fascinating.

Furthermore, a gay friend of mine (what? how is that possible? i thought i was a racist homophobe?) has talked about how he goes to Memorial to watch guys.

Again, I don't make this stuff up.

Let me see if i get this right. You have a gay friend who watches guys at this same park you are talking about and you get on a forum to see if someone in Europe knows the schedule at this same park? Why not just ask your gay friend?

Maybe you should just ask your friend.

I will and have as a general issue, but he is not a cyclist and thus doesn't know about avoiding being hit upon while wearing lycra, nor the Memorial cycling scheduling.

Out of curiosity, would you have started a thread if you'd have been approached by a woman who you didn't want THAT done TO YOU or BY YOU? I dunno, something like "Person hitting on uninterested person in public place". I think sharing such a novel experience would really be fascinating.

That question doesn't make sense. If you meant: would/should a heterosexual woman have started a thread if she'd been hit upon by a heterosexual man, then I'd point out for the benefit of someone with your impaired intellect that is quite a different matter. If you can't see the difference, you have no business engaging in a rational discussion of issues.

Let me see if i get this right. You have a gay friend who watches guys at this same park you are talking about and you get on a forum to see if someone in Europe knows the schedule at this same park? Why not just ask your gay friend?
Hey washed up, isn't his gay friend black or something. I don't know, (I'm gettin all mixed up.) Mabe he's afraid of him. (Fade to Black, Cue commercial) Robt.

That question doesn't make sense. If you meant: would/should a heterosexual woman have started a thread if she'd been hit upon by a heterosexual man, then I'd point out for the benefit of someone with your impaired intellect that is quite a different matter. If you can't see the difference, you have no business engaging in a rational discussion of issues.

No, he was basically asking what you would do if a woman whom you had absolutely no attraction to came up to you and did the same thing as this alleged gay male did. Would you have posted a thread like this?

What the poster is basically asking is if you have some kind of double standard for homosexuals and heterosexuals (and I'll go out on a limb here and say it was probably a rhetorical question).

Andrew

what you would do if a woman whom you had absolutely no attraction to came up to you and did the same thing as this alleged gay male did.


Why is it that politically correct whiners insist upon saying things like "'alleged' gay male," or challenge the notion that this guy was gay. I mean, you are the same type of people who talk about how there are no moral absolutes, and that gay sex is as "normal" (and probably moreso!) than straight sex. And yet, you can't conceive of EVER inferring one's sexuality no matter how blatant it is, as though it is paramount to convicting someone in a court of law of a crime w/o proof beyond reasonable doubt. But if being gay is so normal and beautiful, then WHY must you insist on using the term "alleged," which implies there is something wrong with it. From your apparent political bent, it should be more insulting to assume this person was straight!

From the perspective of the American system of jurisprudence, this person would technically not be "convicted" of being gay without proof BRD, and there just may be reasonable doubt if it were at trial. But that argument is specious because this is not a courtroom, and for purposes of discussion of the issue it is not necessary to question the underlying sub-issue of whether this guy was gay or not.

I've dealt with people forever who are so worried about being politically correct that they absolutely refuse to acknowledge their instincts and all reasonable inferences. It's intellectual dishonesty.

Well, if you think about it rationally w/o fear of stepping on non-PC hot buttons, it's pretty clear why it makes a straight guy uncomfortable to be hit on by a gay guy. Being hit upon is a sexual pursuit. Flirting and approaching someone sexually, while it may not lead to immediate sex, is at least an inquiry into the possibility that you might be the object of homosexual gratification. Say what you want about homosexual activity -- you may honestly believe it to be a very wholistic pursuit - but if you ain't gay, you don't want THAT done TO YOU or BY YOU. Plain and simple. So you don't want to be pursued toward that end.

And I might add -- there is the factor of the pursuit occuring in a public park. Now, I don't know if yall read the news, but some crazy shizzat happens in and around public parks in major metro areas. (Again, I will make what should be another unnecessary caveat for all you hypersensitive types -- that I am not implying all people in parks are dangerous). Parks attract normal people...and they all attract pervs and deviants, both gay and straight, in higher proportion than the city at large. Just ask PeeWee and George Michael. Also ask any woman who goes jogging in the park - I betcha she carries mace if it's after 5 pm. Memorial Park has signs everywhere saying DO NOT USE AT NIGHT. Being approached by a gay man is compounded by the mere fact of being approached by a stranger in a park.


I'm not clear- how is it any more uncomfortable to get hit on by anyone in general who just happens to approach you and makes you feel as though they are looking for a potential sex partner? Me, I'd be equally uncomfortable whether it was a man or a woman. Yuck. I don't want to be perceived as anyone's sexual gratification by anyone I'm not attracted to. But that's unrealistic to expect that it'll never happen. It happens. And like others said, just be polite, cut off the conversation as soon as possible and move on. If you're that upset to talk to them, why not just cut right to the point and say "Not interested" and keep going. Dang, if I had to avoid riding my bike for every day that some dumb ass shouted out sexual comments, honked at me, followed and/or chased me, etc., I would never ride! But I just either cut folks off, ride away, or just state right away that I'm not interested and move on. I like cycling and I will not let the actions of others dictate whether or not I will ride in a specific area or not.

If it concerns you that much, just avoid the place altogether. I think it's more of a knee jerk overreaction to even bother with this line of thinking after one conversation. Maybe if you were getting innundated every day that's one thing, but one conversation? Incredible!

Koffee

Why is it that politically correct whiners insist upon saying things like "'alleged' gay male," or challenge the notion that this guy was gay.

Whiners? All we have to answer your question is your original post. And all you said is that a "nice young man" with an effimine voice spoke to you. You are the one who ASSumes he is gay.



I mean, you are the same type of people who talk about how there are no moral absolutes, and that gay sex is as "normal" (and probably moreso!) than straight sex.

Yawn....



And yet, you can't conceive of EVER inferring one's sexuality no matter how blatant it is, as though it is paramount to convicting someone in a court of law of a crime w/o proof beyond reasonable doubt.

You're the one hanging out in a park obviously filled with gay people wearing lycra. Should I infer something from that?



But if being gay is so normal and beautiful, then WHY must you insist on using the term "alleged," which implies there is something wrong with it.

Because your homophobic ranting doesn't really convince myself and quite a few people who have posted to this thread that this person was in fact gay.



From the perspective of the American system of jurisprudence, this person would technically not be "convicted" of being gay without proof BRD, and there just may be reasonable doubt if it were at trial. But that argument is specious because this is not a courtroom, and for purposes of discussion of the issue it is not necessary to question the underlying sub-issue of whether this guy was gay or not.

Great, so why bring all the legal mumbo-jumbo to the table in the first place only to discredit it later?



I've dealt with people forever who are so worried about being politically correct that they absolutely refuse to deny their instincts and all reasonable inferences. It's intellectual dishonesty.

Speaking of intellectual dishonesty, are you going to answer the question? Here it is again, just in case you missed it the first few times it was posted;


what you would do if a woman whom you had absolutely no attraction to came up to you and did the same thing as this gay male did. Would you have posted a thread like this?

I even took the "alleged" part out so we don't have to read another one of your evasive rants about how we're all politically correct and morally corrupt..blah...blah...blah.

Andrew

I'm not clear- how is it any more uncomfortable to get hit on by anyone in general who just happens to approach you and makes you feel as though they are looking for a potential sex partner?
Koffee

(big generality)

Because most straight men would never say "NO" regardless of the woman. We would keep them on the hook until they gave up, or we "did it".



As the the original post:

We have an area park very similar to the one described. Its mostly gay prostitutes (and Johns) and they can be pretty persistent/open. Needless to say, I don't go there anymore, that may be your answer too.

Or an S&W in a shoulder Holster. Than nobody will hit on you no matter who they are!

I wonder if Campy makes a titanium model -- both light weight and with stopping power!

heh, this thread has sure went into oblivion....we really need a flames forum for stuff like this. The topic might have had some reasonable material for discussion, but the end result was this post was flamebait due to wording.

Really....if I do get hit on by a guy, i tell him I'm straight...simple as that....now if he trys to keep it up i get very nasty very quick....I respected his choice...he better respect mine.

Now if a female hits on me, even if I'm not interested, i am flattered...why? It has nothing to do with their sexuality...it has to do with my sexuality....I'm straight...therefore I take preference in the female gender. Yes it's a double standard...so what.

I bet if I was gay it would be the other way around, but that is not the case....so if I do get hit on, I politely tell them no I'm straight....if they keep on, that is disrespecting my choice....now I really don't care who is the preferred minority of the week or whatever...if they do not respect my choices, I will treat them with an equal level of disrespect. It's the whole "Do unto others.." bit, really more folks need to live by that statement.

(big generality)

Because most straight men would never say "NO" regardless of the woman. We would keep them on the hook until they gave up, or we "did it".





Dood, you got me there. I had a loud laugh with that one. I guess I was looking from the female perspective rather than a man's. My bad. :eek: ;)

Koffee

You could get a T-shirt that says "Gay Dudes" with a red circle around it and a line through it, like the "Fat Chicks" stickers people put on motorcycles.

I actually had this happen to me today at work with a customer... he was really demanding my attention and trying on apparel and asking my opinion on it... it was pretty uncomfortable. I didnt want to be rude so I was just kind of going along with it and not saying much, but the guy wouldn't quit, so thankfully my boss realized what was going on and asked me to "step in back and check something out" on a bike... while he then picked up the customer for me. Whew... really wierd situation though.

(big generality)

Because most straight men would never say "NO" regardless of the woman. We would keep them on the hook until they gave up, or we "did it".



As the the original post:

We have an area park very similar to the one described. Its mostly gay prostitutes (and Johns) and they can be pretty persistent/open. Needless to say, I don't go there anymore, that may be your answer too.
:beer:
I agree completely
okay dudes and dudettes, here it is, I am VERY STR8, not bi, not bi curious, not bent, not curved not slightly angled...
So if a guy hits on me, I tell him, "sorry dude but I am not interested, I am STR8" I dont even say thanks because I dont find it flattering that a guy finds me attractive. If a woman hits up on me, i am flattered, why? because I am STR8.
Would I ride in a park where I was being hit up on guys every day? absolutely not, would I ride in a park if a guy hit on me on rare occassions, sure if I liked the trail, why let someone ruin your ride.
You say you know how women feel being hit upon all the time, well do as they do, hint or tell the guy you arent interested.
Us as men seek other women when we are shot down, when we crash and burn and guess what, we do survive..
I bet the same goes for the guy that was trying to hit on you, he survived, I bet he found someone else to hit on. When I first read this post I laughed because of what some people said, you have to love the forums. But I also noticed you received the answers you were seeking numerous times. just tell the guy you arent interested, you are straight and then go on with your life, its not the end of the world. or as another reply said, ask your gay friend.
good luck and if it continues just find another place to ride.

After you tell him your not interested and he wont leave you alone,scream!