Foo - Jeez , Im getting divorced

Its true , Im now getting divorced . Ive never been in better shape in my life . My wife cant ride with me , shed rather drink beer and smoke cigs , eat . So many women have made passes at me that I have ignored . I will not be lonely . Its a relief . Comments and advise are welcome
Jar:)

Are you rich? Be aware that you might have to cut your bike into half for her:P

You mean thirds....she'd get two of them at least...

Your wife sounds like my neighbor.

Good luck with the divorce!

Well , I get a pension from a disablity , ie epilepsy . I dont think shell get much of that since I now The boys will live with me . No biggie . I get 2000 a month in disability payments . The money is used for paying bills and my medical treatment . I think shes gonna have the problems .
:) jar

Well , I get a pension from a disablity , ie epilepsy . I dont think shell get much of that since I now The boys will live with me . No biggie . I get 2000 a month in disability payments . The money is used for paying bills and my medical treatment . I think shes gonna have the problems .
:) jar


The trick is Jar, make her the "bad guy"... IE: Find her a boyfriend, girlfriend or both :)
Have it look like you're just sitting there and WHAM out of the sky falls this greand chunk of damning evidence against her

I would be remise if I did not say try to work it out, seek counseling, or ask your pastor for help.

That being said, get a lawyer and good luck.

ehenz

Well
Thanks for all your great advice . Today I took my first ride after I found out my wife is not really my wife . It felt great ! Im a stong willed person . I am not depressed at all and Im looking forward to my new life as a single parent . The kids are gonna live with me . Its like a huge weight has been lifted off my back and now I can focus on my new life :) My only regret is throwing away all those phone numbers women gave me will I rode this summer . I now wiegh 214 pound down from 246 ! I have no more fat !! Im in the best shape Ive ever been since My training is the US Marine corps paris island SC!
peace
jar:)

Well
Thanks for all your great advice . Today I took my first ride after I found out my wife is not really my wife . It felt great ! Im a stong willed person . I am not depressed at all and Im looking forward to my new life as a single parent . The kids are gonna live with me . Its like a huge weight has been lifted off my back and now I can focus on my new life :) My only regret is throwing away all those phone numbers women gave me will I rode this summer . I now wiegh 214 pound down from 246 ! I have no more fat !! Im in the best shape Ive ever been since My training is the US Marine corps paris island SC!
peace
jar:)

I'm sure you don't need to be reminded, but stay focused on the kids..its about them now.

why is she divorcing you? or are you divorcing her?

go get you a hot woman.. but don't have a lot of mommies going in and out of the house all the time in front of the kids. how old are your kids? also don't date till the divorce is over.

Well
I am not depressed at all and Im looking forward to my new life as a single parent . The kids are gonna live with me . Its like a huge weight has been lifted off my back and now I can focus on my new life :)
I don't wish anyone divorce, but now that you've been through it, I think your attitude shows that your new life with the kids can be great. Remember always to say only good things about your ex-wife to your kids.

Happens to fifty percent of us...have to accept what can't be changed...You have your bike to move on...take care and enjoy the ride...You have your new found connections..If she refused to share or accept your passions, it is time to move on.
Life is too short to be hassled..
Now, when you get female cat calls while on the bike it might turn your head and slow you down..Good luck.

50 percent ? Yea , Im sure thats right . Ive stuck it out for over two decades ! Heres what was the final straw for people who like gossip . My wife is a heavy drinker .She told me she was going to visit her mom in NJ and would be back in a couple of hours . Then she called and said she was sleeping over her mothers house from her cell . Right after she hung up her cell , I called her mothers house :) Um , she wasnt there :) She got home the next day . When I called her on her cell to inform her that her mother said she wasnt there she got extremey mad . I also reminded her that I was out of the only epilepsy med I took and needed my prescription . She wasnt concerned . I really think she may have mad cow desease LOL . She cant figure out why Im making such a big deal out of nothing . I think shes lost . I made a mistake about the amount of disibilty payments I recieve . About 800 bucks a week . I think that and the fact that shes been seeing a married man on the side is the reason shes trying to resist the coming divorce . Her mother actually tried to cover for her by saying she was out taking the garbage out :) Yea , now I will mever talk to her again .
My bike is my wife . And we have great times allways
Peace
jar

Congratulations! I just hope you 2 don't have kids, that gets expensive when it comes to a divorce.

I understand Jar..Bikes can make perfect company...When I bought my first road bike, we lived in an apartment...No room to store it...Have a picture of it in the bedroom, where I could keep an eye on it...She did not like it in the living room..Where else?
Now it is chained to a U bolt in the floor of the garage...Each day when bored, a bike is capable of improving my day.. Great cure all when stressed.

... And homosexuality threatens the institution of marriage?!?! C'mon give me a break, it's divorce that threatens marriage

Not intended as an attack Jar. Good luck :)

Sad news really... divorce is often too easy of an out for too many people.

If you feel that your life will be drastically better-good for you but I doubt it will be all roses...

in time you'll get depressed and even grieve, amazing as that seems right now. You might not miss your wife, you might not miss the person she is now BUT you will miss who she was, who you were with her back then... she carried and gave life to your children-that alone makes her forever linked to you and who you are.

Not trying to pi$$ on your "New Life Party Celebration" in the least but that said I'm not a huge fan of the, "Trash those that aren't in my tribe anymore" way of thinking. It's ultimately short sighted and leads to guilt or worse.

Outside of abuse both physical and/or emotional (which to some degree we as humans are all capable of anyway... sadly) a marriage lost through time, through hopes & aspirations muddled, through not keeping an eye on the love that brought 2 people together in the first place... all of it and more... it's always sad and leaves a scar.

My first marriage ended in divorce. I brought the hammer down and proceeded with the divorce... she didn't want it. I was higher than a kite for about 6-8 months and then it kind of came up and Gut-Smacked me. What I had done. That it had completely and totally thrown another person's life into a tail spin... a person I had loved, vowed to love, vowed to keep. I felt deeply guilty and very bad. So much so that I tried 2 years later (we had no contact after the divorce was settled as we had no children) out of the blue to call her and apologize. It felt like something I HAD to do, for me.

During the divorce I kept telling her (and myself) that it was crucial we remain friends... at first she ignored that and would plead with me to NOT follow through on the divorce. Once she knew that the divorce was inevitable she would laugh at me and say, "Yeah right, friends forever. Not even friends dump on each other like this".

I called 2 years later probably equal parts to apologize and try and get rid of some guilt. She picked up the phone and said hello as soon as she heard my voice it was like a vacuum of air had been swallowed over the phone... complete and utter silence. I said my reason for calling, apologized, asked if she heard me, asked again and then there was a very soft but unmistakable click of the phone on her end.

That was 1997 and I still have dreams where I sit up in bed at night a few times a year and realize that my actions that I acted on for me ALSO changed someone elses life forever.

I know what I did was right for me but I also must say that I truly despise that to accomplish that I hurt someone else deeply and forever.

Life ain't easy sometimes... Good Luck to you Jar.

I took my divorce to my first wife pretty hard..But, if there is no hope sometimes divorce can come as a relief..Just don't think some melancholy moments are not in store for most of us who go through this wrenching event.

If you are awakened , aware , as I am . You would know that a alcoholic spouse is in love with alcohol . If you dont understand this addiction , then youll continue to live the illusian that a addict can be a spouse . She is now in rehab . Ive wasted 20 years of my life . Sometimes figuring her love of addiction is somehow my fault . It is not . Alcoholics love alcohol , she found another alcoholic , They thought they were in love , but , of course it was another reason to drink . I continue to ride now , 40 miles a day . I am not depressed at all and relieved she is not here . I am alive . My kids are with me .Maybe Ive done the right thing :)
peace
jar

My reply was really intended for Istanbul.. My former mother in law was an alcoholic...Each day was a chalenge.

Jarhed, yer a girl right?
How'd youse guys get married down in tha US.???

No dude , Im a guy :) But that was pretty funny
Jar

why did he think you're a girl... that was just odd.

why did he think you're a girl... that was just odd.


Coz' Jarhead has nice hooters?





For a guy :roflmao: :roflmao:

Hi stacey :)
God , Its hasent been two weeks and I allready have some dates . Oh well , life is as life does .
Jar :)
But , hanging out with my boyz is what Ive been enjoying and once football season starts I might even be to busy too date . My 14 year old is starting varcity as a freshman in a good school . He takes after my half brother , two time olympian and also all american wrestler from the Iowa hawkeyes wresting program . Dan Gable was his coach . Now , I can beat him at something :) Biking LOL

If I were in this situation..I can think of some women cyclists in the local bike club that would catch my eye... Know when did my last organized multiple day tour...On a lonely outback road..Crossing the many miles with an interesting woman cyclist, out in the middle of the road talking and singing together really helped the hundreds of miles to pass. that would be fun.

If I were in this situation..I can think of some women cyclists in the local bike club that would catch my eye... Know when did my last organized multiple day tour...On a lonely outback road..Crossing the many miles with an interesting woman cyclist, out in the middle of the road talking and singing together really helped the hundreds of miles to pass. that would be fun.



Yea
Its a great lifestyle , That would be cool .
Peace Jar

I am married . It was just social...But one woman cyclist I rode with many a day..We had a competition...Singing off key Home on the Range, while crossing the range.

why did he think you're a girl... that was just odd.

He might have needed a laugh, been there, done that, even after several times, breaking up is still hard to do.
There is a song in there somewere. :rolleyes:

Listen to country music on the radio. those guys sing the songs for the wounded heart.
I hate country music. :mad:

>jef.