Foo - Fess up, Foosters.

Do you REALLY trust your SO? :innocent:

Yes.

No. I don't trust people who don't exist.

I mean.......I know, I should really be more clear but this whole knife/cut thing has me up in a tizzy..Can you depend on them? Do they keep promises? Will they be honest? True? Do almost anything to help you when you REALLY need it? Can you trust their judgment to be in your/their best interest together? Can you trust them with all of who you are? Do you ever feel that you cannot come to them? Or are hesitant to open yourself to them?

Or do they have this "every man/woman for themselves" type of attitude?

Yes, on all the above. Seriously. That was the biggest draw with Cycle17. It was the one thing that I didn't feel with all the other fellas. Intuitive feeling right off the bat on my part, but has also proven true in the last 1 1/2 years we've been involved. :love:

Without question.

Yes. With my heart, with my life, and with our money.

Absolutely

Without a doubt and I haven't been wrong for more than 29 years now.

What was I thinking when starting this thread....?

Like someone is REALLY going to admit that they don't. :rolleyes:

I did. Then I got burned. Then I forgave. Then I got burned again. Then she became ex-S.O..

Yes.

I trust her...Lord help her if she trusts me.

Yup, totally, completely.

What's the "knife/cut" thing?


http://www.bikeforums.net/showthread.php?t=599574 :o

yes, which underscores why I married her. What's a person doing being your SO if you don't trust them?

yes, which underscores why I married her. What's a person doing being your SO if you don't trust them?
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100% without a doubt

I don't get what cutting yourself has to do with trusting your SO. My wife sliced her finger real bad in the kitchen not too long ago, does this mean our marriage is in trouble?:twitchy:

Gee I hope not! :eek:

BUT!! I said in this (http://www.bikeforums.net/showpost.php?p=9966052&postcount=4) post that I should have been more clear but getting cut had me in a tizzy. In other words, distracted which is why I didn't put the details of my question.

SO doesn't necessarily have to be your wife or husband. It could be someone that you are dating. Not all people can trust their bf/gf 100%. Especially if they make false promises or bow out at the last minute with bogus excuses.

Yes. I didn't at first, but that was due to my own insecurity. Now I don't even question it, it's implicit.

She's the only person who saves me from myself.

Do you REALLY trust your SO? :innocent:

You know that when I say I trust her it comes from the deepest of places... without it we would have nothing.

Because we have trust, we have everything.

Yeah, well enough.

I absolutely, without a doubt trust Justin (the beau). I can trust him with my life. I'm fairly sure that he would think the same.

What was I thinking when starting this thread....?

Like someone is REALLY going to admit that they don't. :rolleyes:

You need to toss some negatives in there to confuse everyone. "Do you never not distrust your SO?"

the other day I saw a series of emails from my SO`s ex-husband. It looks like he`s coming to Las Vegas to visit.

I know that she want`s to still be married to him, and she`s told him so in the emails.

She has said nothing to me about him visiting later this month, so I`m just waiting for the bomb to drop.

the other day I saw a series of emails from my SO`s ex-husband. It looks like he`s coming to Las Vegas to visit.

I know that she want`s to still be married to him, and she`s told him so in the emails.

She has said nothing to me about him visiting later this month, so I`m just waiting for the bomb to drop.

So I am thinking that No is your answer here?

I trust her...Lord help her if she trusts me.

Same here.

Yeah, it`s safe to say that I`m having problems trusting her right now. we`ll see if she gets together with him when the day comes.

Absolutely! If there can't be trust, there no be no meaningful relationship!

100% but she knows better than put that much trust in me.

the other day I saw a series of emails from my SO`s ex-husband. It looks like he`s coming to Las Vegas to visit.

I know that she want`s to still be married to him, and she`s told him so in the emails.

She has said nothing to me about him visiting later this month, so I`m just waiting for the bomb to drop.

First question: Are you guys just dating... not in a commited relationship?

Second question: Are you guys living together trying to establish a committed relationship?

If your answer is the first one... then you shouldn't be jealous or upset. There is no commitment between you.

If your answer is the second one, then what's keeping you two from being in a committed (i.e. married) relationship and being open and honest about what is happening? Were you "peeking" at her emails? If so, trouble is abrewing between you...

PS: Why would you attempt a committed relationship with someone who still wants to be with another man? I would get out ASAP!!! No sex is that great, trust me!!!

I have problems sometimes, but then I was untrustworthy when we started dating.

I have changed I think and she skipped town

Yes, completely.

SO doesn't necessarily have to be your wife or husband. It could be someone that you are dating. Not all people can trust their bf/gf 100%. Especially if they make false promises or bow out at the last minute with bogus excuses.

Why would you date someone who made false promises or kept cancelling on you at the last minute? You'd have to be pretty desperate.

Why would you date someone who made false promises or kept cancelling on you at the last minute? You'd have to be pretty desperate.

Hey, I've done that. I think it's called "being 21" :D

BTW, since I was a smartass earlier, yes I trust my wife completely.

Yep.

First question: Are you guys just dating... not in a commited relationship?

Second question: Are you guys living together trying to establish a committed relationship?

If your answer is the first one... then you shouldn't be jealous or upset. There is no commitment between you.

If your answer is the second one, then what's keeping you two from being in a committed (i.e. married) relationship and being open and honest about what is happening? Were you "peeking" at her emails? If so, trouble is abrewing between you...

PS: Why would you attempt a committed relationship with someone who still wants to be with another man? I would get out ASAP!!! No sex is that great, trust me!!!

We are living together now, but I still have my boat that I have lived on for years.

I was not peeking at her email(not really). She looked at her email on my computer before leaving to go to work. I thought it was my email account, and then noticed that her ex had sent it.

I know that she never wanted to get a divorce, but he demanded it. We both think he might be gay(there are just too many red flags), and that is why he wanted the divorce.

Knowing that he is coming to town has me worried, but the emails don't mention anything about him wanting to get back together with her. If she tells me about him coming to town and that they are going to meet, I'd have a lot of questions to ask her about it. If she doesn't say anything, and "has plans" that night I'll have to tell her what I know, and break it off.

We are very happy together, and have talked about spending our lives together, but now I just don't know.

Maybe she hasn't told you yet because she hasn't decided what she's going to do.

We are very happy together, and have talked about spending our lives together, but now I just don't know.


If you have any doubt, then you do know... Your life, but I see tough times coming. You moved in with someone who hasn't yet made a break from a prior relationship... you don't see what's wrong with that?

Happy fun sex time disapates fairly quickly... after that what is left? A girlfriend "shack up" who really wants another man... you see that is very happy together? :twitchy:

And him possibly being gay... doesn't make you safe. Have you been reading the "Not sure what to make of my situation" thread? If not, maybe you should.

What was I thinking when starting this thread....?
Like someone is REALLY going to admit that they don't.

True. Pretty cool of you to admit it, tho'. That's the first step and it takes courage.

trust = 100%.

I did. Then I got burned. Then I forgave. Then I got burned again. Then she became ex-S.O..

True.

I feel for ya man. Just finished my divorce. 26 and single again. Never thought this would happen.

If you have any doubt, then you do know... Your life, but I see tough times coming. You moved in with someone who hasn't yet made a break from a prior relationship... you don't see what's wrong with that?

Happy fun sex time disapates fairly quickly... after that what is left? A girlfriend "shack up" who really wants another man... you see that is very happy together? :twitchy:

And him possibly being gay... doesn't make you safe. Have you been reading the "Not sure what to make of my situation" thread? If not, maybe you should. She has moved on, but I worry about it because she never wanted a divorce(but got one anyway). They were married for 17 years, and she loved her life that way. Does she really want to be with him, or just have her old life back?

I'll let her tell me about it(and I'll express my concerns to her). If she doesn't say anything, I'll have my stuff packed and gone by the time she gets home that night.

the whole thing is making me sick. I've started smoking again, and food doesn't appeal to me at all.

sorry to hear...:hug:

/\thanks wp.

the worst part is that I know about it now, and really have to just wait and see what happens.