Foo - Another agreement broken - I'm Moving out TODAY!

Me and wife have most of the stuff moved already to our new houses. I'm totally ready, but she was not. Her work schedule does not let her take/pickup the kids at school. So me and my sister agreed to stay a few days more (her days) so we could transport the kids.

Tomorrow is the last of HER days when she still needs help. Cool, I'm working all frigging night, 12.5h shift, 2h roundtrip commute, AND I'll take the kids to school, sleep a little, pick them up and come back to work another night shift.

But now she calls and say that tomorrow at 12 (right in the middle of my sleep) she is gonna be at the old house with some new male friend of hers, to pick the bed.... the bed I'm using to sleep.

We agreed she was going to do that next Monday, where I'm off and I have the kids. IMHO this is a last attempt at provocation. Here's how I'm gonna deal with it.

1) I'm renting a truck early in the morning and I'm loading whatever is left of MY stuff in one go. And I was going to leave almost everything, but nah... I'll stick to the division list that was drafted at the court.

By noon I'll be out... and I hope not to see the new friend face to face because being sleep deprived I'm gonna be very very cranky and could end up saying stuff like:

"Hi there, new man toy... let me know when you get her pregnant so I can transfer you my sucker-paying-alimony club membership card".

....what a b1ch ... sending her new boyfriend to wake up my sleep in the middle of my work week.

Oh, and in the after noon I'm gonna call her... "hey honey, I could not get enough sleep so is not safe for me to drive. I got permission from the office to work from home but... you gonna have to get somebody (your new boyfriend maybe) to pick up the kids.... see ya"

Well the last one maybe not... I'm overprotective with the baby girl... but that how I feel right now and this cup of coffee is not helping.

you bought all this **** on yourself man, so stop *****ing, grab your ****ing sack, and get the **** away from her already! damn! your really getting annoying!

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you bought all this **** on yourself man, so stop *****ing, grab your ****ing sack, and get the **** away from her already! damn! your really getting annoying!

Sadly, this foster tells the truth... I'm still angry as hell tho

sorry dude, I'm not trying to make you feel angry or any other way, just do what you want and stop complaining when it doesn't work out, 'cause your only making yourself look foolish on a public forum, and thats not good.

You are right... Deep down I knew she was not going to say thanks and was going to try to do something like this. But shall keep record of all this somewhere. Because I know she will come asking for money when the bills start piling in.

You are right... Deep down I knew she was not going to say thanks and was going to try to do something like this. But shall keep record of all this somewhere. Because I know she will come asking for money when the bills start piling in.

I'd say do whatever you need to do to get all your stuff out and into your new place. You'll be better off once you are in a situation where you don't have to deal with your ex for anything other than kid issues.

You are right... Deep down I knew she was not going to say thanks and was going to try to do something like this. But shall keep record of all this somewhere. Because I know she will come asking for money when the bills start piling in.
Just refuse from the getgo.

My ex tried to get me to pay for things "to help out the kids", stuff like paying for half the value of a heater installed in my house while I was kicked out of it. Oh, did I mention she got the heater and installation for free? Yeah, just trying to work me for some cash.

She's tried it enough that I have flat out refused to pay for anything that isn't mandated by the court. My advice: never volunteer to pay for anything, no matter how nicely or convincingly she asks. .

Can I start calling him Alan Harper yet?

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you bought all this **** on yourself man, so stop *****ing, grab your ****ing sack, and get the **** away from her already! damn! your really getting annoying!


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My advice: never volunteer to pay for anything, no matter how nicely or convincingly she asks. .

These.

Good lord man,
For the life of me I can't get my arms around why you would air all of this dirty laundry on a public forum! jeez just get on with things..you've been doin this for how long now?

I swear I think you like the drama........frankly its gettin' alittle old...but i've got a feeling this won't be the last time we're going to hear this dribble!

or maybe its just me......carry on.

Just refuse from the getgo.

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My advice: never volunteer to pay for anything, no matter how nicely or convincingly she asks. .

Took me a couple of years to learn this is the best advice in the thread.

Pay your court ordered child support ON TIME, EVERY month and not a dime more. If you do that, you will be doing better than probably 80% of the non-custodial parents out there.

Good lord man,
For the life of me I can't get my arms around why you would air all of this dirty laundry on a public forum! jeez just get on with things..you've been doin this for how long now?

I swear I think you like the drama........frankly its gettin' alittle old...but i've got a feeling this won't be the last time we're going to hear this dribble!

or maybe its just me......carry on.

actually he's a good guy that needed help, the help was given but he's gotten to the point where he needs to take the advice and give himself a little push to get to where he needs to be.

RubenX, listen to this song, really listen to the lyrics dude, it helped me thru some rough times in my life, hope it does the same for you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EAXCYYHow_o

RubenX, listen to this song, really listen to the lyrics dude, it helped me thru some rough times in my life, hope it does the same for you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EAXCYYHow_o

Dang... I never get invited to parties like that...

So check this out. I know this guy, he's married to a hot girl. Well, he was. They have a little kid. The girl has an affair. Husband forgives her, takes her back. She has another affair, with the same guy, gets pregnant, cant remember if she has the baby or gets an abortion. Anyway, so they go for a divorce. You know who wins? The girl. The court didn't see the dad loves the kid, didn't see the woman went out and had an affair. Twice. Got pregnant. Was the reason the family broke up.

What is it with the courts these days, like they have no f***ing brains. Why did the woman get custody? Coz her parents could provide a stable, large, luxurious home. In other words, she had richer parents. Stopid.

Ruben: chin up.

how the hell is moving out so complex? just move out now or take the day off.

So check this out. I know this guy, he's married to a hot girl. Well, he was. They have a little kid. The girl has an affair. Husband forgives her, takes her back. She has another affair, with the same guy, gets pregnant, cant remember if she has the baby or gets an abortion. Anyway, so they go for a divorce. You know who wins? The girl. The court didn't see the dad loves the kid, didn't see the woman went out and had an affair. Twice. Got pregnant. Was the reason the family broke up.

What is it with the courts these days, like they have no f***ing brains. Why did the woman get custody? Coz her parents could provide a stable, large, luxurious home. In other words, she had richer parents. Stopid.

Ruben: chin up.

Let me tell you a little story? I once knew a guy who could have been a great golfer, could have gone pro, all he needed was a little time and practice. Decided to go to college instead. Went for four years, did pretty well. At the end of his four years, his last semester he was kicked out... You know what for? He was night putting, just putting at night with the fifteen-year-old daughter of the Dean... You know who that guy was Danny?

Let me tell you a little story? I once knew a guy who could have been a great golfer, could have gone pro, all he needed was a little time and practice. Decided to go to college instead. Went for four years, did pretty well. At the end of his four years, his last semester he was kicked out... You know what for? He was night putting, just putting at night with the fifteen-year-old daughter of the Dean... You know who that guy was Danny?

you people all have strange lives.... O_O

Sadly, this foster tells the truth... I'm still angry as hell tho

Is she hot?

you people all have strange lives.... O_O

Mine is boring, but all this reminds me why I am in no hurry to "settle down", "get married", or hell even go in to "long term relationship".

you people all have strange lives.... O_O
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Done... I might have left a screwdriver there or a lamp here... expendable. 99.9% of my stuff is on the new house. It took me like 5 hours out of my sleep time, but it's done. I told the ex that is she can't take the kids to school and pick them up by next week, She could leave them with me and see them in the weekends where she is off. Simple.

I slept very little in the new house, but very peacefully, knowing she is not there.

Dang... I never get invited to parties like that...

Yeah, I forgot to mention the awesome party in the vid. :thumb:

Done... I might have left a screwdriver there or a lamp here... expendable. 99.9% of my stuff is on the new house. It took me like 5 hours out of my sleep time, but it's done. I told the ex that is she can't take the kids to school and pick them up by next week, She could leave them with me and see them in the weekends where she is off. Simple.

I slept very little in the new house, but very peacefully, knowing she is not there.

Sucks, man. I was told that most divorces are over money ****. At least you can worry about your own money now.

sorry dude, I'm not trying to make you feel angry or any other way, just do what you want and stop complaining when it doesn't work out, 'cause your only making yourself look foolish on a public forum, and thats not good.

If that's the way you feel, why do you even post to threads like this? Give ReubenX some space; he's going through a hard time.

If that's the way you feel, why do you even post to threads like this? Give ReubenX some space; he's going through a hard time.
Agreed.

After going through this myself, I'll give Reuben some slack...he'll need it since it's normal to go a little crazy during such a trying time. The sad part is, it's far from over. Some say the first year after a divorce, expect a lot of aberrent and out of character behavior. I know I acted in ways I never had before and haven't since.

Reuben, you're going to ride an emotional rollercoaster for a while. As previously stated, take care of your obligations and don't volunteer for anything not required of you and you'll be fine. I'd also add that things get better. Keep focusing on your own future goals and don't get tied up in emotional knots she's trying to play you with. Keep your kids' welfare in mind, always fight for your rights in court when necessary...and remember you have friends to talk to whenever you're feeling overwhelmed.

If that's the way you feel, why do you even post to threads like this? Give ReubenX some space; he's going through a hard time.

'cause he ask for advice, and different people give advice in different ways, and some people might not agree with the advice of others, thats the way it is. BTW, I've never, not once, gotten a reply from RubenX telling me my advice was bad, he actually noted on more than one occasion that I was right, and JSYK we talked privately (PMs) and it seems that most if not all of the advice I gave him (no matter how blunt it may have seemed) was pretty much right on target, we hispanics don't beat around the bush when it comes to **** like this, he knows this to be true, so yeah.

Reuben, kick the ***** out, lock the door. Adios!

damn Luddy! I think you may have a little PR in you! LOL! ;0)

Yeah, which is why I shouldn't ever be granted access there. :D

Divorce sucks. The thing is, when you have children together, regardless of who the custodial parent is (male or female) some folks will try and take advantage of the situation... wanting you to continue to take responsibility for the kids, expenses, etc. while they have their cake and eat it too.

Divorce means *no longer together*. Having been divorced 2x and with children the 2nd, I've gone around a bit on this issue as well, and I'm not the one that ended the marriage... I don't see it as my duty, job, etc. to make her life easier because her decision sure as hell has not made mine any easier vis-a-vis the children. You want to be divorced? Fine, but that means you can't dump what you don't want to do/deal with on me if you're the custodial parent. Buck up!

uhhhh, not P & R, Puerto Rican! LOL! LOL!

Hah! I was married to a Brasileiro for nearly 5 years. Osmosis?

Hah! I was married to a Brasileiro for nearly 5 years. Osmosis?

possibly. ;)

fala um pouco. :P

fala um pouco. :P

I have no clue what that means as we speak pretty much different languages. :o

The really important question, at least for those of us on Pacific Time, is WTH are we still awake?

I'm supposed to go on a bike ride tomorrow morning up in Folsom with one of the GF's co-workers - the owner of the vintage Cinelli I posted pics of a few weeks back.

I have no clue what that means as we speak pretty much different languages. :o

It means "(I) speak a little (Portuguese.)" :P

I'm going to teach her American in Feb.
AKA butchering every known language.

I can't wait. :love: