Foo - Questionable content on a 3yo girl web page - What to do?

My children have facebook pages so they could play the farm game thing. I'm OK with that as long as no personal info in there (address, phones, etc). The pages were created by my ex and are linked to her own page. Now that she is enjoining being single she posted on her page a sexually charged interview called "How are you in bed?". The interview is in spanish and have several questionable questions that IMHO should not be part of a 3yo girl's web page.

I question if my girl should have a web page at all.. but having that content in it .... I'm very against. I've asked my ex to remove that material from the girl's page but she refused saying "that's nothing".

So, here's a screenshot of the oage in question. I'm not gonna keep it for long... so please write your suggestions about what should I do about this.

I'm confused. Is this the facebook page for your daughter or for you ex?

Geez, louise. I don't speak Spanish, but the picture alone of the bottom bikini shot is enough to make me not want to have those sort of posts on my kid's page. I think it is very inappropriate to have sexual material on a child's web page.

I think it's his daughter's "Wall."

The mom (ex) is doing these application things and then "share/tell your friends" and since the daughter is a "Friend" they are showing up on her wall.

Ruben, I agree with you and feel this is very disgusting that your daughter has a Facebook page, especially with a photo, etc. You don't need ANY info to play FarmVille. Heck, you can play on the Farmville.com website!

Having Facebook to play FarmVille, ok. Having info and a photo. Nope. And Your ex is letting these things show up on your daughter's wall. Holy Crap!

Do whatever you can to have it removed immediately.

(And remove or at least edit the photo in your post--it contains full names, etc, which aren't exactly as common as "Jenny Anderson" or something.)

I think it's his daughter's "Wall."

The mom (ex) is doing these application things and then "share/tell your friends" and since the daughter is a "Friend" they are showing up on her wall.

Ruben, I agree with you and feel this is very disgusting that your daughter has a Facebook page, especially with a photo, etc. You don't need ANY info to play FarmVille. Heck, you can play on the Farmville.com website!

Having Facebook to play FarmVille, ok. Having info and a photo. Nope. And Your ex is letting these things show up on your daughter's wall. Holy Crap!

Do whatever you can to have it removed immediately.

(And remove or at least edit the photo in your post--it contains full names, etc, which aren't exactly as common as "Jenny Anderson" or something.)
Got it.

Yeah to all of this. It needs to be taken down. Contact Facebook if you need to.

You can disable the display of news feed updates (or whatever they call it now), as well as disable the entire wall.

Got it.

Yeah to all of this. It needs to be taken down. Contact Facebook if you need to.

UA is right... contact FB.

I am not a fan of social networking. People just don't get it. Right now I am fighting with my sister as on her page she has posted photos of her young adult kids - drunk and partying. Perhaps I overreact to these things but somehow FB and other networks have given people the right and freedom to be fools.

Ruben protect your child any way you can. You as a man know how some other men would view this content. It's wrong, you know it, act on it.

Don't you have to be a certain age to have a facebook?

You can disable the display of news feed updates (or whatever they call it now), as well as disable the entire wall.

Yes, you need to get into the account settings and change the types of things that get displayed on the wall.

block the ex.
problem solved.

I agree with everyone else - it needs to be taken down. Putting children's photos and adult sexual content on the same page is not a good thing.

If your ex refuses to do it you should contact the lawyer who handled your custody issues.

If your ex refuses to do it you should contact the lawyer who handled your custody issues.
this. Take down the page, or at absolute minimum: change the name, remove all pictures, remove all friends, set to private, and anything else you can think of to lock it down. (I don't use FB so I'm not sure what else can be done)

Don't you have to be a certain age to have a facebook?
13, I think. But as you can see, Ruben's daughter is cleary 20 years old. Her birthday is even listed under her photo. Geez! :)

First of all... I always thought those games were imature... now that I KNOW a 3yr is playing them... sheesh.


You can disable the display of news feed updates (or whatever they call it now), as well as disable the entire wall.

There are a ton of security settings.... check them out. I've mainly looked into limited what I send out to others, not what others post to my stuff (e.g., I blocked my boss from seeing my wall or getting updates from me.)
I THINK you can set it to not get updates from certain people... then the ex would have to specifically post it to your daughters page.


Oh... and I THINK you can click an "X" off to the right to delete that post from the wall. It won't stop things from the future, but it would allow you to screen your daughter's facebook before you let her loose to farmville away.


As for a certain age to have a facebook... I dunno.... but if a dog or cat can have a facebook, a little girl can. ;)

I agree with everyone else - it needs to be taken down. Putting children's photos and adult sexual content on the same page is not a good thing.

If your ex refuses to do it you should contact the lawyer who handled your custody issues.

what she said.

I also agree, have it taken down. This places your daughther at high risk. FB has been penetrated many times and IP address lists associated with members names have been compromised on a number of occasions, and frankly, for example, if I copped your IP address, it wouldn't be much longer I'd have your street address, name and other information, depending on how paranoid you are about personal data on the web.

Heck I just deleted my facebook since I never use it.

From the facebook help page.

"What is the minimum age required to sign up for Facebook?
In order to be eligible to sign up for Facebook, users must be thirteen (13) years of age or older."

...

When a person signs up for an account they enter a birthdate. Since whoever creates the account enters this date, they are committing fraud by knowingly adding an account for anyone under 13. The account should be removed.

Change the password and then delete it. So that way nobody else can get into it. :D

I think that Ruben's ex set up the account and thus Ruben doesn't have the password, thus why he can't just change things or get rid of it himself...

Whelp...there goes MY idea.

Firebomb the bi*ch.

Thanks for the replies Foo. I was afraid of being an over-reacting Dad. I talk to the ex again today and she still refuses. I'm not sure how will I proceed (what agency) but I WILL take that page down.

I'm also removing the temporary screenshoot I took for this post... it is disgusting.

again, thx

Thanks for the replies Foo. I was afraid of being an over-reacting Dad. I talk to the ex again today and she still refuses. I'm not sure how will I proceed (what agency) but I WILL take that page down.

I'm also removing the temporary screenshoot I took for this post... it is disgusting.

again, thx

As mentioned take the screen shot to a lawyer and if needed the judge can deal with the situation.

If all you say about your now ex is true I wouldn't be wasting my time posting here on the forums, I'd be reporting the ex to DHS everytime some **** like this happens (which according to you is often) so I could get custody of them.

UA is right... contact FB.


I agree with everyone else - it needs to be taken down. Putting children's photos and adult sexual content on the same page is not a good thing.

If your ex refuses to do it you should contact the lawyer who handled your custody issues.

Both of these are right, with one exception. Don't wait for your ex to comply or FB to help you. Contact that lawyer now. This will only get worse.

And save the screenshot as evidence, as well as any other stupidity she puts on those pages.

UA is right... contact FB.

I am not a fan of social networking. People just don't get it. Right now I am fighting with my sister as on her page she has posted photos of her young adult kids - drunk and partying. Perhaps I overreact to these things but somehow FB and other networks have given people the right and freedom to be fools.

Ruben protect your child any way you can. You as a man know how some other men would view this content. It's wrong, you know it, act on it.

Social networking is great.

But seriously, stay out of your sister's business. Let her be her own fool.

Social networking is great.

But seriously, stay out of your sister's business. Let her be her own fool.

Personally I see no need for social networking. I hear people use it for business purposes but there are better networks for that.

Over the years I have been distancing myself from my sister - she continues to do one stupid thing after another and you are right, not my business. If she asks I say something but not before. I have, however, discussed with the nieces and nephews the implication of having such information on social networks like FB when each is trying to find jobs right now. They didn't realize we employers use tools like FB to check out prospective employees... last thing I am going to do is hire guy that parties all weekend and likes to get drunk...

Oh god, I just figured out what the hell the thread title was...

Questionable!

Well... Everybody I asked for an opinion said the same thing, "report it". Even the Social Worker at the school said I had to report it. So I did. Apparently the investigators showed up at my ex this afternoon because I received a call from her, very angry and making threats. She again said that reporting this was "ridiculous" and that the case will be dismissed the same day. She also said that from now on she forbid me from calling her house or showing up there. So according to her I can't visit or call my son as it was already agreed on the parenting plan during the divorce.

Then she started shouting about her electricity being cut-off at that exact moment... she spend the energy bill money on a PR vacation last week but somehow, she shouts it is my fault...

It's gonna be a rough week... but I did what I had to do. Nothing to do now except wait and see what happens.

Ruben, she can't cut off contact with your children because you reported her. It might be time to talk to a lawyer.

If she does not see anything wrong with putting your daughter's photo on a page with her sex quiz, then maybe her parenting skills need a fine tuning.

Ruben, she can't cut off contact with your children because you reported her. It might be time to talk to a lawyer.

If she does not see anything wrong with putting your daughter's photo on a page with her sex quiz, then maybe her parenting skills need a fine tuning.

Thx... I'll try the lawyer route too. Is just that I'm so broke after the recent divorce bills... I have a couple of suggestions from friends, I'll try getting a lawyer ASAP somehow.

I missed it but it sounds pretty bad. Sorry your ex sucks.

Since the child is still your child, you should be able to do a two prong approach to the problem. Pick up the White Pages, and scan the front pages for the local agency, if you have a question, contact the County or City Hall and they should be able to direct you the appropriate agency. Contact the PD or SD and explain your concerns, they should have a unit that will investigate or they may refer you to the appropriate agency. I think what you will be looking for is the department of child(ren) services.

The second thing to do is contact FB and inform them that your child has a page, set up by their mother, that you as the father, do not approve of and you would like to take it down.

Having a FB page opens the child up to (1) unwanted "friends" and (2) potential child predators.

I would also consider contacting the court about this...so yeah, this may mean a lawyer.

Unfortunately, removing the game apps will make you the bad guy, be prepared.

Personally I see no need for social networking. I hear people use it for business purposes but there are better networks for that.

Over the years I have been distancing myself from my sister - she continues to do one stupid thing after another and you are right, not my business. If she asks I say something but not before. I have, however, discussed with the nieces and nephews the implication of having such information on social networks like FB when each is trying to find jobs right now. They didn't realize we employers use tools like FB to check out prospective employees... last thing I am going to do is hire guy that parties all weekend and likes to get drunk...

I use social networking for a ton of things, but mostly because it's fun.

If you're distancing yourself from your sister, why are you still up in her business and complaining about her? Why are you throwing "advice" her way regarding her kids?

The pages are down... deleted... gone.... It took a lot of complaining to different people/agencies/etc. Ex is now b1tching more than ever... but at least this time it got resolved right before the lawyer route.


I need to save some money and hire an attorney on a retainer for future stuff like this. I KNOW it's gonna happen.

It is truly sad when children get caught up in the immature antics of they're parents. Your Ex wife is not being a good mother. So because she doesn't have enough common sense to be a decent parent now you have to go through the courts.
I feel for you,
good luck.

Well... Everybody I asked for an opinion said the same thing, "report it". Even the Social Worker at the school said I had to report it. So I did. Apparently the investigators showed up at my ex this afternoon because I received a call from her, very angry and making threats. She again said that reporting this was "ridiculous" and that the case will be dismissed the same day. She also said that from now on she forbid me from calling her house or showing up there. So according to her I can't visit or call my son as it was already agreed on the parenting plan during the divorce.

Then she started shouting about her electricity being cut-off at that exact moment... she spend the energy bill money on a PR vacation last week but somehow, she shouts it is my fault...

It's gonna be a rough week... but I did what I had to do. Nothing to do now except wait and see what happens.
1. I take it that you have joint custody? I also take that the parenting plan was signed off by the court? If so, then she is in violation of a court order.
2. Start keeping track of all conversation with the Ex. Record your phone calls, save emails/texts. Consider using a voice recorder every time you two meet up for the child swap.
3. As stated earlier, you can bypass FB and go direct to farmville to play. But if you really are concerned about her safety while online- find another simulation game that she can handle and cut the network connection altogether.

If that doesn't work, have someone that you trust to keep a secret and report her as a potential terrorist.

1. I take it that you have joint custody? I also take that the parenting plan was signed off by the court? If so, then she is in violation of a court order.
2. Start keeping track of all conversation with the Ex. Record your phone calls, save emails/texts. Consider using a voice recorder every time you two meet up for the child swap.
3. As stated earlier, you can bypass FB and go direct to farmville to play. But if you really are concerned about her safety while online- find another simulation game that she can handle and cut the network connection altogether.

If that doesn't work, have someone that you trust to keep a secret and report her as a potential terrorist.

Pretty much on track. The state don't call it "joint custody" anymore. Basically, the state retains custody of the kids and we get something called a "parenting plan". Ours is 50/50 meaning they spend as much days with Mom as they do with Dad so there no one doing "visitation" and we both have to agree on stuff. If we can't get an agreement, big daddy the state steps in.

I really can't say why/how it turned out, but all pages have been deleted. My girl's, my son's and even my Ex's. The Ex said (among a barrage of expletives) that she almost lost her job and she is now on probation because of this issue. Well... I told tell to take it out, she refused.

The DCF didn't do sh1t really, and I didn't call her job. I was drafting my email to FB admins when she call with the news. IMHO it was the social worker who intervene. He knows she is a school bus driver and they have to follow a strict code of conduct that includes online social networking.

Either way... I'm happy that my kids are protected from those sex quiz.

Both of these are right, with one exception. Don't wait for your ex to comply or FB to help you. Contact that lawyer now. This will only get worse.

And save the screenshot as evidence, as well as any other stupidity she puts on those pages.

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