Foo - It's an effin' curse

When I was 20, I thought not needing sleep would be the coolest thing on earth.

Reality is very different. My woman is totally cashed hours before I am, and in the morning, I walk the dog, shower, and cook breakfast before she starts moving.

Not that she's a total slug -- she works out at least an hour every day and never sleeps more than 7 hrs. But that still gives me ridiculous amounts of downtime that drives me nuts.

How many others have sleep needs that are totally mismatched with their partners?

No partner here...:notamused:

My wife tends to stay up all night and sleep all day. It drives me nuts. I enjoy an occasional snooze day, but jeez.

Mrs. Cloud sleeps as a hobby. It drives me mad...:notamused: She's in bed at frikken' 8:30 pm and doesn't shift an inch until the alarm goes off at 6:30. On weekends she'll sleep in 'till around 9. :troll: I want to throw a cooler full of ice water on her.:mad: Love sucks...:lol:

I sleep from 11:30 to 05:30. My wife 1:00 am to 11:00am. I actually like the time in the morning to hit the gym, go for a ride or a walk with the dogs to a coffee shop (or BF).

get a hobby, do something useful, let her sleep. My husband naps from @7pm to 9pm, then goes to bed, and gets up anywhere from 2 am to 4 am. He makes his coffee and retreats to his garage/workshop to do whatever it is he does down there.

I would love to get some solid sleep.

I sleep less then my wife, but for the most part, we are pretty well aligned.

I only suffer from insomnia when I am under stress. I hate insomnia as I generally enjoy my sleeping dreams and the alert feeling I have after 7 to 9 hours of sleep.

To combat insomnia, and there was a period in my life when I was under a lot of stress, instead of counting sheep I would mentally review, in as minute detail as I could, a favorite often repeated ride. This started to work so well I became a little afraid I would fall asleep on that ride about where it would put me to sleep.

I would love to get some solid sleep.

+1.

You have more "me" time and you don't feel half-dead for several hours a day. What's the problem, exactly?

I sleep anywhere from 8 to 12 hours, mostly 12 hours, but my wife can go to bed at 8PM sleep all night and if left alone will sleep till 4PM the next day! Its never really bothered me at all.
A few months ago she started caring for the neighboors twin girls so she wakes up at 6AM and goes to bed around 9PM, says it doesn't bother her at all.

Are you trapped in the same room as her and cannot do anything that might disturb her?

If not, why is this a problem?

When I was 20, I thought not needing sleep would be the coolest thing on earth.

Reality is very different. My woman is totally cashed hours before I am, and in the morning, I walk the dog, shower, and cook breakfast before she starts moving.

Not that she's a total slug -- she works out at least an hour every day and never sleeps more than 7 hrs. But that still gives me ridiculous amounts of downtime that drives me nuts.

How many others have sleep needs that are totally mismatched with their partners?

If I didn't have my "me" time, I would go insane. I don't see how some couples can live in each others' continual presence.

If I didn't have my "me" time, I would go insane. I don't see how some couples can live in each others' continual presence.

Damn straight.

MaxBabe and I go to bed generally anywhere between 1900 and 2100. I usually wake up at 0400. Gives me plenty of time to go for a ride and be back before she's even conscious. On weekends, she'll get up at around 0800 to go do hockey refereeing. We get to spend a couple hours together and then she's off to do ref duty. I don't mind being a hockey widow. It gives me time to go for more rides on the weekend without feeling guilty about not spending time with her :)

Max

I sleep 4 hours per night (or less). My ex-wife slept the typical amount. Not a huge problem except when on vacation. I generally take a book and read in the hotel lobby. It is amazing the number of times I've been asked by hotel staff, "Sir, do you have a room here?"

Are you trapped in the same room as her and cannot do anything that might disturb her?

If not, why is this a problem?

Not trapped in the same room, but I can't do anything that active anywhere in the house without waking her up. That leaves me with dorking out on the computer.

It's your choice of partner species that needs rethinking. When I was married, I had the same sort of problem with vastly different sleep schedules. Now that my housemates are 4 dogs, our sleep schedules match perfectly. If I get up at 4:00 AM, they get up at 4:00 AM and are raring to go. If I sleep in, so do they. Odd nap times? No problem for my canine friends.

On weekends I'm up between 5:30 and 6:30 a.m. My wife gets up three or four hours later.

I just don't understand morning people.