Foo - Wife said the bikes have to go, today.

So, they will. I will, of course, go, too.

That is all I have to say for now.

Best wishes! :(

Hrmmm. Personally, if someone said such a thing to me, I would be gone too.

Obviously, I don't know the full background to your story. However, if I was with someone who made such an ultimatum, I'd make the same choice as you. Bikes are so integral to who I am, and to keeping me balanced (no pun intended) and happy, that forcing me to get rid of them would be a very unwise decision. Presumably you're looking at it from the same perspective. Good luck, and remember, when someone sets the bar that low, there are plenty of better choices out there.

Good luck. I doubt you'll need it, though. :)

Sounds like a mess. Good luck, and ride lots.

Thanks for the support. I live, however, in a very good place for cycling. I don't know what my address will be tomorrow. Ah, well, off to rent some storage space.

Sounds like a mess. Good luck, and ride lots.

Bikes have always been high on my list of best friends. Give me an ultimatum and at least for awhile it might become my number one friend.

Thanks for the support. I live, however, in a very good place for cycling. I don't know what my address will be tomorrow. Ah, well, off to rent some storage space.

Get some endorphins in circulation, you'll be fine..

Take her bike too.

Wow. My wife decided long ago that the tons of money we were saving by me riding to work and having cycling v. a more expensive hobby were well worth it.

So, they will. I will, of course, go, too.

That is all I have to say for now.

Tell her the vibrator has to go. See what she says then.

Wow. My wife decided long ago that the tons of money we were saving by me riding to work and having cycling v. a more expensive hobby were well worth it.

I doubt it was the money as much as trying to take control of someone else's life. When you've got security and mental issues it's easy to feel threatened by your spouse's other passions. Good on the OP for not rolling over.

I wouldn't end all possibilities though, unless you've already tried counseling. Good luck with the journey ahead...

What's the problem?

Ah, well, off to rent some storage space.

Tell the wife to rent a hotel room instead. More comfy that a storage facility.

I suspect we will hear more later about this situation. Good luck dude.

Is it all your Bikes. Are just a few that you are not using.

Let's not read more into this than the OP has shared. When he's ready to vent or whatever, we'll be here to offer foo-worthy advice.

And foo-worthy advice ranges from excellent to criminal. :)

SB is right -- until then, we can only say things like, "get the bikes a 2-bedroom storage space, and take the other bedroom for yourself."

I have to wonder, though -- whose name is the 'old' place in? His? Hers? Shared? She can, by rights, only say that if it's hers.

There is more there than meets the bikes...

Let's not read more into this than the OP has shared. When he's ready to vent or whatever, we'll be here to offer foo-worthy advice.

And foo-worthy advice ranges from excellently criminal to criminal. :)

Fixed. Not unlike those dirty hipster bikes... :innocent:

F her - kick her out

When I go out I can only take one bike with me.

Sounds like your wife views the bikes as the "other woman." My first wife left accusing me of loving 4 letter words like bike, hike, camp, fish, golf more than her. By that time it was probably true. We didn't face other issues years earlier. If she is more important than the bikes, sell the bikes and fix the relationship. Then you can get NEW BIKES! Always look for the silver lining. ;)

Ah, well, off to rent some storage space.

I would let the wife stay home, I'd just leave her all together. Storing her off site is a temporary solution.

Rex, I know that you have a very stressful evenings and that riding your bikes may help to get you grounded. I don't know what the story is and it's none of my business but maybe she feels that with your demanding job and the bike riding, there is time taken away from her. Is there any way to compromise? :(

Hmmm...need more info on this one such as quantity of bikes, price of bikes, time spent on bikes, are bikes hanging over the bed, are bikes causing financial burdens etc...

I knew I had found the perfect girl as she shares my love of cycling and she has actually discouraged me from parting with any bikes despite my inability to ride some of them just because she thought I might be able to do so at some point.

Know she is perfect as if it came down to those inanimate cold objects and her the bikes would be gone in a heartbeat although that would only happen if I woke up in backwards land because she knows how beneficial riding is for my health, and hers.

My ex hated everything about bicycles and would admit that for a time my shop was a place of refuge where I could escape the stresses of a bad relationship... at the heart of things she seemed to hate anything and everything I was interested in whether that was sports, volunteering (cause that made no money), and even hated it when I was working two jobs to pay the bills.

It never occurred to her that she could join me on a bike ride and get in better shape or perhaps consider working part time so I'd have a little more time for living instead of just working and sleeping.

In this ride through life there is only one girl for me... even if we someday find we can't ride together we'll walk together.

Ultimatums are never a good thing... relationships are about compromise and taking into account the things that keep your other healthy and happy.

Rex, have you tried to get your wife to actively participate in biking ... without riding way out in front on rides (classic mistake that most seasoned bikers do when they lose patience with their slower SO)? Do you participate in some of the things your wife is into? Sixty Fiver is dead on when he says that relationships are based around compromise.

i would imagine your wife would be happy that you're staying in shape.

Hmmm...need more info on this one such as quantity of bikes, price of bikes, time spent on bikes, are bikes hanging over the bed, are bikes causing financial burdens etc...

Yeah, this.

In this ride through life there is only one girl for me... even if we someday find we can't ride together we'll walk together.



That is so sweet, if I ever get a lady I am going to use that line.

Thanks for the support. I am not looking for suggestions or sympathy. (Therefore, not much detail.) I just needed to vent a little bit.

This is not about the time I spend cycling; I don't ride all that often these days. She has two bikes herself, so she is not a non-cyclist, just a very infrequent cyclist. I am going to try to negotiate keeping ONE bike at home, so I can ride without too much complication. It would really suck for all of my rides to start and end at the local Public Storage.

Public Storage is going to be making some money at my expense for a while. It will take a while to figure out a living arrangement, as I have three dogs to consider, one of whom is rather large. That rules out most apartments. I am a patient person.

OK, today's venting complete. :)

Thanks, again.

Good Luck.

Alfster, thanks for the tip, but when we ride, I keep to her pace. She is a casual recreational rider, and has not yet moved up from platform pedals.

((hugs)) :)

That sucks dude...ultimatums make me question ones true intent. Hope things work out for the best....

Divorce is never an easy thing. I wish you luck!

While it causes some (lots of...) stress at times, thankfully The Girl tolerates the fact that March -- August weekends she's a rando-widow.
However, the apartment did reach critical bicycle containment level, and it has been strongly suggested that I only have 1 bike in the apartment at a time.

Hope you get things worked out soon.

Tell her the poodle has to go. See what she says then.
Zappa'd it for you.

It's ok. She's probably just having one of those moments in her life, just like mine did this morning.

Somehow it's my fault I didn't wake her up this morning for her to go to work....... oh wait, I told her *at least* 3 times to wake up, first one was when I got home from the pool, about 6:35 - "have the dogs been out?" her response - "no"... my response - "ok, I'll let them out", second time after eating breakfast at about 6:50 - "have you ate breakfast yet?" then talked to her about our damp basement, third time about 7 am "aren't you going to get up? it's getting late", she rolls around, and mumbles something, I think of which is "i know", or "i am". But somehow I didn't try hard enough... she let me know that it's still my fault she woke up 25 minutes later at 7:25, when I was about ready to go out the door for work. Apparently having a digital alarm clock 1 foot away from your head doesn't help know the time (I use my cell phone to wake me up early to go swim, bike, etc, which is usually around 4:50 am). Wasn't a good morning, and we showed how resentful two married people can be. But.... be the bigger of the two. Apologize, ask her if you can keep 1 (or 2 :-]) bikes. I emailed mine while at work a few minutes ago, explaining why I was yelling at her this morning after being blamed for not waking her up good enough. But I did apologize for yelling at her, no reason why that should have happened. BUT, no reason why she should feel the need to blame me for not doing something I actually tried to do. I'm not her mom... she's 27 years old, not 15. Sorry... that's my rant. So far, this hasn't been a good year. :-(

If it helps, I have about 15 bikes on the premises, and my wife and I have 25 good years behind us. I could provide references to people with over 100 bikes, and a good marriage. My point here is (I know this is Foo, but I'll go out on a limb and make a point) - it isn't really about the bikes.

How many bikes are we talking about here?

Eight. I have eight. She has two, herself. Hers are still at the house, of course. Yet, ALL of mine had to go.

If it helps, I have about 15 bikes on the premises, and my wife and I have 25 good years behind us. I could provide references to people with over 100 bikes, and a good marriage. My point here is (I know this is Foo, but I'll go out on a limb and make a point) - it isn't really about the bikes.

True. It is not about the bikes. It is about respect and hypocrisy. This woman collects other things, and those things are OK.

Today is a glorious day for a ride. There have been several such days since Sunday, when I moved the bikes. It hurts.

This is the same woman that gave away a much-loved (by me) Dachshund in 2003. I woke up one day, and he was just gone. No warning. She explained that he was one dog too many. Yet, she brought a neurotic GSD mix home a few weeks later.

This is the same woman that gave away a much-loved (by me) Dachshund in 2003. I woke up one day, and he was just gone. No warning. She explained that he was one dog too many. Yet, she brought a neurotic GSD mix home a few weeks later.

I can tell you how this would have gone down in Fast Clouds teepee...She would have come home one day and that gsd mix would have been gone. :notamused:

True. It is not about the bikes. It is about respect and hypocrisy. This woman collects other things, and those things are OK.

Today is a glorious day for a ride. There have been several such days since Sunday, when I moved the bikes. It hurts.

This is the same woman that gave away a much-loved (by me) Dachshund in 2003. I woke up one day, and he was just gone. No warning. She explained that he was one dog too many. Yet, she brought a neurotic GSD mix home a few weeks later.

from the sounds of it, you're on your way to a much happier and fulfilling life.

Yup.

Make sure to take the bikes out one at a time... with some of your other possessions attached. The last bike out the door should have the last of your stuff.

It may be intermittent, but she's a control freak; her way or the highway. I'm a little surprised you got advance notice on this one.

This is why I'll never marry (or likely even have a relationship) again. With apologies to the women of Foo, this is how it is for me: having the p***y isn't worth putting up with the rest of the woman. I've made compromises over and above, and been left twice by wives. There WILL NOT be a third, on any level. I'm going to live my life according to ME from now on.

When you're out house-hunting, look for one with a shed out back for the bikes, and a nice fenced yard for the pooches. Pooches LOVE water-features.

Been there Done that, with the ex, she won that time. I have regretted that decision quite a bit. My current wife is very supportive of my habit/addiction. I don't believe she would deliver such an ultimatum, if she did, I would be with the OP.

Ultimatums are never a good thing... relationships are about compromise and taking into account the things that keep your other healthy and happy.

Exactly, this has nothing to do with bikes --if not them then there would be an ultimatum about something else.

Best of luck Rex, you have support here if you need/want it--