Foo - Big age difference relationships

Not that I'm complaining...but why am I finding myself meeting women 10+ years younger? Note: I do not have Pcad's money, jsharr's wit, or chipcom's bod.

What is too big a difference in age for you? I think a 7-year difference is pushing it.

Meh, my sister married a guy 20+ years her senior and she seems happy. I like younger women because most single girls my age either have 5 kids or are crazy, robbing the cradle just makes sense after you turn 30.

I draw the line when they're younger then my son.

13 years younger is my record, but she was kind of an exception. I'll say 10 years even is a good cut-off point.

I just think there are more apt partners among girls in their mid to late 20s. Like Kris sez, most 35-45 year olds are either completely crazy, have too many children or both. I suppose it'll get better as they get older, as more of their kids will be 18+ and not as present.

Of course it depends a lot on where you live. Where I live, most of the attractive women in my age group are already married. The city down across the river hosts a wider variety of hot 35-45 year old single women.

My next wife hasn't been born yet.

The highest age gap I would go with is 12 years. That number will go up to 13 on my next birthday.

My grandparents were 10 years apart. My wife's grandparents were 21 years apart (and raised 12 kids together).

I'm three months younger than my wife; my brother is 4 years younger than his.

What was the question again?

13 years younger is my record, but she was kind of an exception. I'll say 10 years even is a good cut-off point.

I just think there are more apt partners among girls in their mid to late 20s. Like Kris sez, most 35-45 year olds are either completely crazy, have too many children or both. I suppose it'll get better as they get older, as more of their kids will be 18+ and not as present.

There is a difference between girls and women. It depends on what you're looking for.

Some people are really mature at 22, others aren't at 42. It really depends on the person.

As for middle-aged women having too many children: when I was doing the online dating thing, I can't tell you how many men in their 50's listed their children's ages as 25, 23, 6 and 4. Lots of guys who hooked up with the younger girls had double families. You don't find too many women with that.

I bet if we took a poll, the Foo women would agree that men 35-45 were just as nuts as you perceive women the same age to be.

So far my age gap has been +6 and -7 years. No major problems with either age gap.

Some people are really mature at 22, others aren't at 42. It really depends on the person.Very true. The 26 y.o. I started dating when I was 39 was very well adjusted.


As for middle-aged women having too many children: when I was doing the online dating thing, I can't tell you how many men in their 50's listed their children's ages as 25, 23, 6 and 4. Lots of guys who hooked up with the younger girls had double families. You don't find too many women with that.
Wow, that is just plain insane! If I was a gal, I'd steer WAY clear of any dude with a handful of children from two different mothers. It seems like they'd have a better chance hooking up at their kids' soccer games or church or whatever - dot it Brady style. Posting that on your online "resume" seems like it would be a great way to get zero first dates.[/QUOTE]

Even if I wanted to be daddy to someone else's kids, which I don't, I'd always have to be dealing with some drama from the loser father. No thanks.

Wow, that is just plain insane! If I was a gal, I'd steer WAY clear of any dude with a handful of children from two different mothers. It seems like they'd have a better chance hooking up at their kids' soccer games or church or whatever - dot it Brady style. Posting that on your online "resume" seems like it would be a great way to get zero first dates.

So you do judge someone for having loved more then one person enough to have kids with them? Nice. Really nice to know what some people are like. But on the other hand, someone who can't understand that might be better off keeping to the same mindset in his/hers partners ;) And yes, on the subject - I don't see a difference up to around 10 yrs as a problem, sometimes even more where people get along well, it's all individual.

Yep, some people are a little extreme with the baby making. Actually there is one single mom around here I'd consider dating. Luckily she only has one of the little monsters.

And, like I say I'm more apt to want to date someone if their kids are out of the house. Even if it's two sets of kids. Still you gotta worry about how realistically people think things through when they just jump right in to raising a second batch of kids. It's kinda nuts.

There are some people that are just born parents and don't mind 25+ years of parenting. I don't think I could manage 18 years of parenting. No offense against those that do, it's just not my thing.

So, yes my preference leans towards those that aren't into it, or are completely done with it.

Not that I'm complaining...but why am I finding myself meeting women 10+ years younger? Note: I do not have Pcad's money, jsharr's wit, or chipcom's bod.

What is too big a difference in age for you? I think a 7-year difference is pushing it.

The escort service knows your tastes, would be my guess.

^Can I borrow your platinum card?

25 and over, fair game.

I'm still married but if I became single now at 42, I'd have no problem whatsoever dating much younger women. People, and by people i mean women my age, might ask things like, "what do you see in them? what do you talk about? what can they offer you?" I don't think I'd be able to hold back the laughter at how silly those questions sound to a guy like me.

I mean, seriously, there may have been a point where I "needed" someone my age, a "partner" to go through some of life's early lessons with. But by 42, I've pretty much got that stuff taken care of and don't need anything or anyone for anything other than...for fun, I guess. I don't need to be "fixed," I don't need a stable mate to raise children with, I don't need another income, I don't need anyone to debate philosophy with - all I'd need is a hot chick.

^Can I borrow your platinum card?

What, after all those Bangkok "masseuse" charges you racked up the last time I loaned it to you, the ones that I'm still trying to convince my gf that they were "spa treatments"?

I'm still married but if I became single now at 42, I'd have no problem whatsoever dating much younger women. People, and by people i mean women my age, might ask things like, "what do you see in them? what do you talk about? what can they offer you?" I don't think I'd be able to hold back the laughter at how silly those questions sound to a guy like me.

I mean, seriously, there may have been a point where I "needed" someone my age, a "partner" to go through some of life's early lessons with. But by 42, I've pretty much got that stuff taken care of and don't need anything or anyone for anything other than...for fun, I guess. I don't need to be "fixed," I don't need a stable mate to raise children with, I don't need another income, I don't need anyone to debate philosophy with - all I'd need is a hot chick.

lets not forget that the women that ask these questions are usually the ones still living at home with mom and dad and smell like mothballs and cheese.

My wife is 10 years my senior, not crazy, no kids, and well-established in her career. No distractions, we can pretty much do whatever we want at the drop of a hat, and we're in a position where we're not scraping for pennies just because my career went tits-up for the time being.

Not that I'm complaining...but why am I finding myself meeting women 10+ years younger? Note: I do not have Pcad's money, jsharr's wit, or chipcom's bod.

What is too big a difference in age for you? I think a 7-year difference is pushing it.

Quit bringing mail order brides from Russia. :lol:

I'm still married but if I became single now at 42, I'd have no problem whatsoever dating much younger women. People, and by people i mean women my age, might ask things like, "what do you see in them? what do you talk about? what can they offer you?" I don't think I'd be able to hold back the laughter at how silly those questions sound to a guy like me.

I don't think I could date someone a lot younger than me. I'm too much of a curmudgeon at 47. I think there's a broad gap between people who remember life without personal electronics technology and those who grew up with it as a given.


I mean, seriously, there may have been a point where I "needed" someone my age, a "partner" to go through some of life's early lessons with. But by 42, I've pretty much got that stuff taken care of and don't need anything or anyone for anything other than...for fun, I guess. I don't need to be "fixed," I don't need a stable mate to raise children with, I don't need another income, I don't need anyone to debate philosophy with - all I'd need is a hot chick.

That kind of an attitude will lead to a lasting relationship. Yeah, right.

I think there's a broad gap between people who remember life without personal electronics technology and those who grew up with it as a given.

That keeps it exciting. I was at work with a youngster when one of our phones stopped working due to dead battery that wouldn't charge. I said "I've a phone upstairs that doesn't take batteries, we'll plug that in."

He said "How does a phone work without batteries" and gave me that "you're crazy" look.

Between my wife and I there's a 10.5 year difference. We married about a month before she turned 21. We are very happy and perfectly suited to each other.

That keeps it exciting. I was at work with a youngster when one of our phones stopped working due to dead battery that wouldn't charge. I said "I've a phone upstairs that doesn't take batteries, we'll plug that in."

He said "How does a phone work without batteries" and gave me that "you're crazy" look.

Sounds like an ICP'er. Just don't get 'em started on magnets (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RQWksKNrJm0).

(link is NSFW - language)

Not that I'm complaining...but why am I finding myself meeting women 10+ years younger? Note: I do not have Pcad's money, jsharr's wit, or chipcom's bod.

What is too big a difference in age for you? I think a 7-year difference is pushing it.
The French have long held that a man should halve his own age and add 7 - that will be the perfect age for a woman.

I suggest that if the woman is significantly younger than you - enjoy it as long as it lasts.
If the woman is significantly older than you - ensure she has money,

meow - I happen to be in love with a man who is younger than me. And it is an awesome relationship.

If the woman is significantly older than you - ensure she has money,

I dated a gal 18 years my senior briefly. She had dough alright and was fun to go out with, but her arts and crafts was OUT OF CONTROL. Fake flowers and ribbons covered every square inch of her condo. She was kinda big on the flower hat thing too. I shoulda stuck it out, I coulda been a kept man!

My next wife hasn't been born yet.

"Donald Trump"

As BB King says, "It was good, while it was good."

We've got about 9.5 years difference here.

Was a little strange when she was 20 and I was 29, but now we've been together 9.5 (married for 5) the difference between 29 and 38 doesn't seem so bad.

We've got about 9.5 years difference here.

Was a little strange when she was 20 and I was 29, but now we've been together 9.5 (married for 5) the difference between 29 and 38 doesn't seem so bad.
As you age, it does reverse - to the point that younger begins looking best. :)

Once your mistaken for the girls father or grandfather, you've probably crossed the line!

Once your mistaken for the girls father or grandfather, you've probably crossed the line!
True - but that rarely deters from the interest.

20 years older is max for me. Last relationship had a 15 year age difference. I am closer in age to his children than to him.

Younger partners? No thanks!

Wisdom comes with age. The younger, the dumber. I'm done dealing with the later. Younger people have a lot to learn, ergo they make mistakes. Mistakes are not free, they cost money. I have no money.

And I'm sure there are lots of pretty young and INTELLIGENT women out there, that probably think stuff trough BEFORE messing everything up over a pair of shoes. But I'm done trying to find them. Women closer to my age group seems to have already learn from previous mistakes and are less likely to do stupid things.

I had always dated within a year of my own age, but not intentionally.

To me, it's about where people are in life, rather than the age number. It just so happens that generally, people are roughly in the same place in their life as their age number, with infinite exceptions, of course. :)

My, dad, for example, only seems to date women who are younger than I am. It works for him because he is really immature, he can't manage his life at all, he lives with a bunch of college guys (but he is 60), and 100% of the women he dates have textbook daddy issues, no exceptions to this in his case. Once the women realize that my dad can't afford to be their daddy and take care of them, they leave him; again, no exceptions.

I was 26 and dated a 22 year old for a few weeks. Even though there were only four years age difference there, it could not work. I was 26 and owned a house, two brand new cards, college degrees, two very sucessful (at the time) careers, married and divorced. She, at 22, just moved out of her house for the first time, her parents bought her a brand new fairly expensive car, she was still in college, had crazy roommates as friends, talked about "her room" like it was a dorm, and "bragged" about how innocent, naive, and girlie she was.

So, only 4 years difference, but I felt like I was generations older and hanging out with her was like hanging out with a little kid.

But, if I were 50 and dating someone 4 years younger, it would feel like no age/time difference at all, generally speaking.

The highest age gap I would go with is 12 years. That number will go up to 13 on my next birthday.

You do know that the age of consent varies from state to state correct?

You do know that the age of consent varies from state to state correct?
Or country to country. Isn't age of consent 12 in Canada? Or something silly like that...

Younger partners? No thanks!

Wisdom comes with age. The younger, the dumber. I'm done dealing with the later. Younger people have a lot to learn, ergo they make mistakes. Mistakes are not free, they cost money. I have no money.

And I'm sure there are lots of pretty young and INTELLIGENT women out there, that probably think stuff trough BEFORE messing everything up over a pair of shoes. But I'm done trying to find them. Women closer to my age group seems to have already learn from previous mistakes and are less likely to do stupid things.

:thumb:
My ex wasn't too much younger than me, but we were both just kids at the time we got married. While I made a point to get responsible and "grow up", she never got to that stage.

My wife is 9 years younger than me. Got married when she was 19...been 17 years now. All is good.

Love and understanding is the most important part. Also, ability to compromise to some degree. As for all the rest, it's all supplemental.

Or country to country. Isn't age of consent 12 in Canada? Or something silly like that...

16, Alabama isn't in Canada.

I don't care how old or young a woman is, I care how foxy she is!

I once fell in love with a 500 year old vampyre. It didn't work out.

I once fell in love with a 500 year old vampyre. It didn't work out.

Wow, I would think that at 500 she had to be close to your age........ that bites , or sucks, or both.

I think there is alway issues when there is a big age difference. I don't want to broadbrush the statement however as we all know people who are happy together even with a large age difference. I have a friend right now who is 52 dating a man 70. That's creepy old for me, but for her it seems to work.

That said, there are usually strange things abrewing when there is a age different. One partner becomes the "child" and the other a "parent". There are usually control issues and generational disputes. All of my friends are younger than me. I am not the most responsible 60 year old out there but its not like they are 20 and I'm 60, young is that they are early 50's. My best friend however is 48, but he's an old 48.

As long as she's legal, breathing, and geniunely interested in me, and I in her, the age difference debate is silly.

only because my parents arranged this marriage for me. okay just kidding.

I don't know, I always find myself attracted to younger guys. Maybe i'm just immature or something.

My gf and I had our first date on her 20th birthday, when I was 28 (and was still her boss!). For a little while we wondered whether the age difference would be an issue, but we meshed so perfectly that pretty much dissolved after just a few months. It's all about the individuals involved. I'd say it worked out well for us; we're getting married next year.

^Congrats! I suppose the boss-employee thing was as much of a concern?