Foo - Big mistake, need help getting out of this mess.

So I have a female co worker who I've known for a couple of years, she always flirting with me, but she is not my type at all, I mean not at all. She is cute with a nice bod though and we've been out as friends for a drink after work. Well I made the HUGE mistake of hooking up with her last weekend. I figured I'm single, no girlfriend, "what the heck".
She wanted to come over my place Friday and watch a movie, so I said OK. She has a big overnight bag, she goes into the bathroom and says she is going to change into her PJ's.
I go in the bathroom after her, and she has a toothbrush in my toothbrush holder, all her shampoo and conditioners in my shower, hair products on my vanity... She said she might as well just keep these thinks at my place since we're together now. WTF!
The whole night she told me how great I am and how amazing I am... and how happy she is that we're together, and that's she been so lonely.
Holy s**t.
I have to end this now. If we didn't work together I would have no problem, but now I need to be careful how I do it.
She asked during the week if I would go with her to her Moms for Easter dinner. I'm supposed to meet her in a few hours. and I think I just need to come right out and tell her this isn't going to work, we can be friends, but I can't dater her. I'll probably lie a little and tell her I'm getting back with my ex, or something to save her feeling a little. I know she'll be upset and it will ruin dinner.
Should I wait until after dinner?
should I tell her I'm sick and can't go to dinner and do it during the week?
Should I go there early, tell her and not go to dinner?
She is a friend and I don't want to hurt her feelings too bad, but I just need to put a stop to this before it goes any further. :twitchy:

Charlie Sheen would know the answer.

RubenX may know as well. I think he gets around.

Cute and nice bod. Not your type?
No matter what you do from this point on working with her will be awkward. The friend ship has already sailed.

Charlie Sheen's way out: Hire a hooker for the dinner date. Then ask if your girlfriend can go to dinner with you. If she says "no" you are safe to dump her. If she says "yes" keep her.

feels like a salesman who just jammed their foot into your door.

I'm sorry dude, I can't offer any words of advice until I stop laughing. Give me a couple of hours or so.

Here's my wife's thoughts on your situation "Too late dude, you poked the pig ... you bought the farm". She's comes from a small farming community, what can I say.

Dude! yer forked!

Sorry but it's funny....

If you go to her mom's for Easter you're going to get inducted into the family. I'd feign an illness and beg off dinner today. Then have a very busy schedule until you can talk to her and end things.

When she started unloading the toiletries, I would have packed them right back up and said "This is too soon, I'm not ready for a commitment this quickly. It seems like you are, so maybe we should end things before you get hurt."

If you go to her mom's for Easter you're going to get inducted into the family. I'd feign an illness and beg off dinner today. Then have a very busy schedule until you can talk to her and end things.

When she started unloading the toiletries, I would have packed them right back up and said "This is too soon, I'm not ready for a commitment this quickly. It seems like you are, so maybe we should end things before you get hurt."
Quit with your logicalities. He needs to do something drastic and off the handle. I recommend watching a few episodes of Three's Company for ideas.

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I always thought these stories were made up, but guess what happened to me.......

This thread needs pictures. Or a link to her Facebook page.

Sounds like a recipe for rabbit stew.

Box up all her crap from your house and send it to her via inter-office mail.

Ask for a transfer.

Wait, I got it. Let it roll but buy three or four outfits from this guy (http://www.pixyland.org/peterpan/) and hang them in the back of the closet. She'll find her own way out.

Wait, I got it. Let it roll but buy three or four outfits from this guy (http://www.pixyland.org/peterpan/) and hang them in the back of the closet. She'll find her own way out.

Is she near your size?

You could let her "catch" you wearing her underthings. Downside: if it actually turns her on, you're screwed.

So I decided I need to go over and talk to her before going to dinner. I called and she answered "Hi sexy"
This is going to be bad.
Did I mention she is the office manager and does my payroll.
:(

At the risk of sounding insane, maybe she is more your type than you originally thought. You were able to stand her presence enough to sleep with her, for crissake, how bad can she be? You never know, maybe this will turn into something good.

No?

At the risk of sounding like a fuddy duddy or worse, Phil Donahue, I would come clean and say things are happening too fast and you need to both talk about what the expectations are for the relationship, such as it is. I doubt it will go smoothly, since she was being rather presumptuous to move in partially after one roll in the hay, but instead of trying to lie and smooth things, I would take the high road and be honest.*





* first, hide all sharp objects and weapons in the house. Bullet proof vest optional.

Sounds like a recipe for rabbit stew.

LOL Beat me too it!



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MOkgy6AXJF8


I wish I had a cute girl with a nice bod after me. For some reason I always seem to attract the overweight ones. Even though I have always been thin most of my life. In my youth, back before there was such a thing, by BMI must have been extremely low let women with extremely high BMI were attracted to me lick flies.

You need to remember not to @#$% where you eat. :)

I'm confused, didn't she move in BEFORE the roll in the hay?

Did I mention she is the office manager and does my payroll.
:(

Yikes! You sure know how to step in it. Considering her being a manager, you would think she would know better to back off. One of you will be looking for a new job soon.

Even worse: she knows how much you make. What a disaster.

Is she near your size?

You could let her "catch" you wearing her underthings. Downside: if it actually turns her on, you're screwed.

Yeah, if it backfires you may as well set up video cameras and start a voyeur site.

Start toting a Bible around with you. Lying to her is not going to help. You'll have to take notes if you do.

This meminds me of the time I was messing around with this chick from the office. She was gorgeous and also married. That didn't end well either!

I vote for quitting and getting another job post-haste. Perhaps in another industry.

... and nice job of considering the consequences there, romeo.

OK, I've had some time to calm down and come up with some ideas for you. Best one I could think of was to undo what has already been done. Just need to design and build a time machine. Any good with tools?

Don't listen to these clowns, here's the perfect escape! You'll need a good buddy...Wait for it, you're gona love it! Let her catch the two's of you in the middle of a candlelight dinner. BAAM! "Oh sorry hon, I meant to tell you!"

switch teams.

dang it big E. you beat me to the only logical answer.

dang it big E. you beat me to the only logical answer.

Great men think alike.

so do us lesser ones it appears.

OK, I've had some time to calm down and come up with some ideas for you. Best one I could think of was to undo what has already been done. Just need to design and build a time machine. Any good with tools?

Not to mention undoing jumping into bed with someone you are around all the time but don't really know outside work. Had you spent a little time with this lady outside of work on a couple of old fashioned dates it would have become apparent she is a psycho. Sorry I am sound like my father again. :)

Not to mention undoing jumping into bed with someone you are around all the time but don't really know outside work. Had you spent a little time with this lady outside of work on a couple of old fashioned dates it would have become apparent she is a psycho. Sorry I am sound like my father again. :)

I don't want to sound like my father 'cause someone'd be due for a good old fashioned whuppin'...which may not be too far off in the future, I may add!

Let her catch you shaving your legs.

She is pushy. People like that need to be confronted. Be firm but use tact.

I think this is a reason us old timers were taught way back when to keep our wiener in our pants unless we were serious about someone, or were at least ready to have a monogamous relationship.

She is pushy. People like that need to be confronted. Be firm but use tact.

I think this is a reason us old timers were taught way back when to keep our wiener in our pants unless we were serious about someone, or were at least ready to have a monogamous relationship.

Best reply so far.

I'd say go to Easter dinner if you're already on the hook for it. But try this plan in the future: Next time you go out with her, mention you want to 'downshift' things and take the relationship a little slower; might piss her off entirely, hopefully it won't. If that works, find out what she dislikes and start incorporating that into the time you spend with her; Example - if she doesn't like rodeos then beg her to go with you next time one passes through town ('damn, hon, its so cool!). Keep at it and in a few months she'll see you two don't have that much in common and the relationship really is a co-worker/friendship thing. Consider it the price for that one-night-stand. (At least this worked for me about 15 years ago).

Tell her things are going too fast, that you want to downshift, like surfrider said. Try a couple dates with her, actually try a few dates. You might end up liking her and, if you don't, you can with a clear conscience, say that it' not working out.

Have you considered faking your own death? How about joining a cult, preferably one that's far away and does not allow contact with friends or family.

All BS aside, this sucks and sorry to hear that you're all tangled up in it. The whole "dipping your pen in the company ink" think rarely works out well. But, in the immortal words of Henry Hill "Sometimes you gotta take a beating." So polish up that resume, end this as soon as you can, and prepare for the worst.

Remember, we all hose things up; only the better ones learn something from it.

Have you considered faking your own death? How about joining a cult, preferably one that's far away and does not allow contact with friends or family.

All BS aside, this sucks and sorry to hear that you're all tangled up in it. The whole "dipping your pen in the company ink" think rarely works out well. But, in the immortal words of Henry Hill "Sometimes you gotta take a beating." So polish up that resume, end this as soon as you can, and prepare for the worst.

Remember, we all hose things up; only the better ones learn something from it.

Are you suggesting the best he can hope for is a happy ending?

So I decided I need to go over and talk to her before going to dinner. I called and she answered "Hi sexy"
This is going to be bad.
Did I mention she is the office manager and does my payroll.
:(

How is that saying goes about not biting a hand that feeds you?

Just hope she is not completely bat **** crazy and vengeful, those two usually go together, otherwise she can start telling stories.... In the worst case scenario might go to HR with some sexual harassment claim. Then you are really screwed.

I can't stop laughing. This is so baddddddd :(

"She wanted to come over my place Friday and watch a movie, so I said OK. She has a big overnight bag, she goes into the bathroom and says she is going to change into her PJ's."

should have stopped her there and be said that you two were just going to watch movies and that it's a bad idea for her to stay the night and think that you two are dating and that it was a mistake that you two hooked up.

One of the best things my father taught me was to never mix business and pleasure and my grandfather told me "A smart man doesn't dip his pen into a company inkwell."

Seriously, I know that it might be hard to grasp, but if you tell her that you want to bring it back down to the basics, that "we both got carried away the other night," and that you want to try to slow things down, then give her a few dates, you can break things off and have a much higher chance of being able to work with each other.

This isn't her is it?
http://www.google.com/url?source=imgres&ct=img&q=http://press.comedycentral.co.uk/files/imagecache/showhub-b-main/2009/12/02/rose.jpg&sa=X&ei=Way0TZ_DKqP20gHeyLyVCQ&ved=0CAQQ8wc&usg=AFQjCNF1_gP0zzMEQslz6XN_nPlQzfcA_A

Get a restraining order. She's creepy. Her hygienes OK though.

Oh, one more thing. What did the PJ's look like in case I want to rub one out later.

I asked out one of the ladies in the office once.

Been married 25 years. Best thing I ever did.

Tell her things are going too fast, that you want to downshift, like surfrider said. Try a couple dates with her, actually try a few dates. You might end up liking her and, if you don't, you can with a clear conscience, say that it' not working out.

this is your best bet at getting out of your situation, i did the same thing but acted more and more like an ass till she stopped liking me