Foo - Parents - How strict are you on bed time?

I have 3 rules.

1) General school day rule (8:30pm)

All school going kids should be in bed by 8:30pm. Works really well, they get up by 7am by themselves the next they.

2) General school day "rewards" minutes (9pm)

An extra 30 minutes of play time are granted if a very hard/long homework was completed and/or an A was obtained on an exam. They still wake up by 7am next day and really promotes study.

3) Weekend rule (9pm)

An extra 30 minutes are granted if there's no school the next day.

4) Stacking Rules (9:30pm)

On some Fridays, a test result comes in, granting "reward" minutes on a day where "weekend" minutes were already granted. On such cases, depending on activities planned for the next day, I might allow stacking of the minutes, moving bed time until 9:30pm.

I am very strict on this. How about you?

Will they have their homework done by 8:30 Rube?
This is the real test of a student,completion of assingnments.

My kids take after their mom, so I gotta start herding them to bed at 1930 to get them to stay down by 2100.

Sounds pretty complicated, Rube. Our goal bt is 8:30, but lately with homework and such it has been closer to 8:45 or 9:00. We are up at 6:40 to get ready for school. Weekends is 8:30 and they sleep as long as they want.

Sleep is so important for growing brains that there really should be a set bedtime and not so much variation.

I hear you about the long homework. We get those occasionally, specially math. I met with the teacher who suggested 15 minutes a day of math facts study with flash cards. We've been doing it religiously and now math takes like 1/3 the time. We alternate between division and multiplication.

When I was a kid, there was a strict bed time. Obviously, this was a goal, but pretty well enforced. As I got older, the bedtime got later.
The only exception was that there was no penalty for reading books in bed.

I think your system is too variable. What you are trying to do is train their bodies to become sleepy at a certain time.

When I was a kid, there was a strict bed time. Obviously, this was a goal, but pretty well enforced. As I got older, the bedtime got later.
The only exception was that there was no penalty for reading books in bed.

I think your system is too variable. What you are trying to do is train their bodies to become sleepy at a certain time.

Not those "left hand"books you hid from mom under the bed?

OMG Ruben you have the same rules I had.


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OMG Ruben you have the same rules I had.


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Siu please, I've seen your pics... you are 15 years old tops... no way you have kids. :)

I had different rules before tho, it took some time to find the sweet spot. Any earlier and they start asking for breakfast @ 5am. Any later and they whine on their way to school. Weekends are critical too, change the pattern too much and then you can't reel them back to normal.

Is it just me or is there a spark between these two?

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My daughter is 4 but 8:00 she is in bed, one book or 15 minutes of her favorite cartoon and then it is lights out...usually takes her about 5 minutes to fall asleep from that point.

I only have one teenager left in the house.

The rule is: You go to bed when you want. Since you're almost an adult, show me you can take responsibility.


He occasionally has a late night, but invariably goes to bed early the next few days after paying the price.

Not those "left hand"books you hid from mom under the bed?

I said when I was a kid. Not a youth. Besides, in those days, my uncle was one of the editors of Playboy.

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I have my strict rules too. Bed by 10pm if I haven't fallen asleep yet(the sofa has magical powers). If not I hate life when trying to wake up. On what I call "weekends" is however long I can stay up till, 11 or 12 if I'm lucky HA.

I have 3 rules.

1) General school day rule (8:30pm)

All school going kids should be in bed by 8:30pm. Works really well, they get up by 7am by themselves the next they.

2) General school day "rewards" minutes (9pm)

An extra 30 minutes of play time are granted if a very hard/long homework was completed and/or an A was obtained on an exam. They still wake up by 7am next day and really promotes study.

3) Weekend rule (9pm)

An extra 30 minutes are granted if there's no school the next day.

4) Stacking Rules (9:30pm)

On some Fridays, a test result comes in, granting "reward" minutes on a day where "weekend" minutes were already granted. On such cases, depending on activities planned for the next day, I might allow stacking of the minutes, moving bed time until 9:30pm.

I am very strict on this. How about you?


We're not particularly strict about an absolute time. We are strict about bedtime being a function of behavior and homework.

Our nine-year-old is generally in bed by 8:15 on school nights and 8:45 on non-school nights. If she's been acting tired or a little pill, it gets moved earlier that evening. She's utterly incapable of recognizing when she's tired, so we sometimes have to force an early bedtime on her sometimes when she clearly disagrees. ;-)

Our 11-year-old is perfectly capable of functioning well with very little sleep. So he's generally in bed by 8:45 on school nights, but we let him stay up as late as 9:30 on non-school nights. Occasionally, for things like Astronomy Club lectures, he can stay up much later than that, and it works out fine. On the very rare occasions when he's clearly tired by 8:00pm or so, he doesn't complain at all if we tell him it's time for bed.

The end of kids play time is the beginning of Mom and Dads. Nuff said.

The end of kids play time is the beginning of Mom and Dads. Nuff said.

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Well it depends on the childs age for one. My daughter has gymnastics 4:30 - 8:30 so she's not even home until 8:45. Then whatever homework she didn't do earlier. She is often up and doing homework when I am leaving at 6:30 in the AM.
12YO 7th grader.

My daughters are 12 and 14 and bedtime is usually 2200 every night although there can be exceptions if there is extra homework or we are doing something that warrants a later bedtime.

My youngest daughter is not a morning person and takes a little while to wake up but once she is up she is a ball of cheerful energy.

My youngest benefits from having a very regular routine and benefits from keeping a set bed time and if my oldest usually packs it it around 2200 without me saying anything.

During the school week we are up at 0630 and will sleep a little later on the weekends but I make sure everyone is up by 0900 although the girls are often get up earlier on their own or might just lounge in bed and read.

I have chronic pain issues and it has been a long time since I ran on a 16/8 schedule and need to take regular gravity breaks so might go with 4 up and 2 down during the day and plan for 4 - 6 hours of sleep at night and time this so I am up at 0630.

My main rule is to stop drinking at least three hours before bedtime which is 8 PM on workdays and usually 9 PM on other days. My Daughter goes to bed when ever she wants to - she's 30 so it's really up to her and besides, she doesn't even live with me.

My kids take after their mom, so I gotta start herding them to bed at 1930 to get them to stay down by 2100.


Are you kidding me? Hour and a half to get your kids to bed???? What the hell were you doing when it was time to show children that rules are rules?

OMG

Are you kidding me? Hour and a half to get your kids to bed???? What the hell were you doing when it was time to show children that rules are rules?

OMG

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Are you kidding me? Hour and a half to get your kids to bed???? What the hell were you doing when it was time to show children that rules are rules?

OMG

Give him a break. He has many kids of different ages, some his, some came with wifey. Is not easy.

I had three brothers (one deaf) and two sisters for a total of six brats. Our ages were spread through about 12 years. ALL of us had a bedtime according to age. If we were NOT in bed by the designated time . . .it was a half hour EARLIER the following night and a talking to from the old man. Talking to was a one time deal. Pity the fool the second time.

Not an excuse Ruben. Sorry.

wfin - Your old man may have not understood that chronological age and mental age differ and that some kids run on rhythms than others... getting my youngest daughter to bed at a reasonable time is not as easy as saying, "it's time for bed" and she needs time to gear down.

My oldest has never been one to stay up past her bedtime and never fights sleep like my youngest daughter who would be up at midnight if we did not have some evening routines in place.

Give him a break. He has many kids of different ages, some his, some came with wifey. Is not easy.

Thought starting a civilization would be a cake walk?

I said when I was a kid. Not a youth. Besides, in those days, my uncle was one of the editors of Playboy.

One of the parents of a classmate of my sisters was a Playboy Photographer. Since we were in a small school at the time classmate meant same grade, only class. This was back in hte dark ages when school paper drives happened. I think he was the one who brought in about 3 feet of playboys. Being one of the older boys I was doing a lot of the heavy loading. Somehow those got diverted.

Oh the photog was Ron Vogel and he did a shoot where a lot of the pics were taken at the school (after hours and the ones with clothes on, darn it) and also did one titled Darling Daughter. And yes she really was his daughter. (She got the nickname Sexy Lexi while in hte 6th grade, it honestly did fit. Sexy, not ******).