I never learned to ride a bike. It is my deepest shame.
I think Shimano makes most of their hubs in 36 hole configuration. Tiagra and 105 and Ultegra are available, I know for sure.
My favorite rims are Alex DH22, but these are hard to find. Velocity Deep V are a favourite over on the Clydesdale forum, and those folks know something about tough parts. Although quality of build is as important as any other variable.