Ok, I started commuting back in the spring after getting enough into shape to be able to survive the ride without dropping dead of a heart attack. I have dropped 60+ pounds so far, and I commute nearly every single weekday, and frequently ride on the weekend days just for fun. The commute is 6 miles each way. I mention all this because one very common statement I have read in other threads about seat pain is that you just need to ride more and you will adjust. I think by now I can reliably state that I am not going to adjust.
My current saddle, which came with the bike when I bought it new, is a Selle Italia XO. The dilemma for me is how I am supposed to sit on this thing. I can sit back on my sit bones and keep my butt from hurting, but when I do that my 'nads get a major trashing on the front of the seat. If I slide forward enough to spare the genital abuse, then I am not up on my sit bones and I get butt pain. More often than not I end up getting butt pain because quite frankly any pain is better than scrambled eggs.
I still tip the scales at around 250 pounds, and that is in the morning before the shower. Once I am dressed and add my loaded backpack I am sure I am up around 270 again when I park my seat on the saddle.
When I mentioned all this to the guys at my LBS they had no suggestions, and completely discouraged me from my own suggestion of tipping down the front of the saddle. So, I am hoping someone here can share some wisdom. Just what is it that must be done to overcome this tradeoff? Any ideas at all?