OK, I know the theory behind why road bike seats or narrow and hard and supposed to support you're weight on your sit bones, but dangit, I just cannot find a comfy one that I can ride more than about 20 miles without being sore for a day or two after. I wound up finding a saddle with quite a bit of cushion to it, that is a few inches shorter in length than most saddles i've seen and it has been pretty good. I can go 40-50 miles and feel fine.
So my stupid question(s) is this: Is it because i'm a heavy rider? Am I just putting too much weight on my sit bones and if I lost a few more lbs would the pain go away? Am I going to do myself worse by riding the saddle that is comfy because it is softer and shorter than almost every seat i've seen on every road bike in every bike shop? Sorry for my newb stupidity, i was just hoping to get some clydesdale/athena opinions on this.