I think I'm starting to figure some things out!!!
After a grueling 3 mile first ride, I dove into this forum trying to gleam all the information I could find to survive on the bike. I read a ton of info, from how to climb hills, to cadence, to pedal stroke I had know idea there was this much to riding. So this morniing I went out and tried some of the tips I found here it was amazing. Before I was mashing the pedals so today every time I felt like I had to push I shifted to an easier gear and didn't worry about speed at all, cruised up the hills that I had always dreaded and when my legs got tired I pulled on the upstroke to save my quads, I did 10 miles and could have ridden more if my bottom wasn't absolutely killing me. :) Anyway just wanted to say thanks, and I know now it won't be long before I reach my goal of making my 34 mile round trip commute, and shut my coworkers up, who thought it was so hilarious when I told them what I planned to do.