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Old 09-28-12, 08:34 AM   #1
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Weight Loss Surgery, Anyone Been There?

My wife is flying off shore for the surgery, restrictive and malabsorptive. I'm not worried about the choice of surgery and surgical care; it's been vetted by top tier physican who's family friend...it's a prudent choice for her.

It's need is primarily her long term health, though I'm extremely active and within 25 lbs of an ideal weight, enjoy running, cycling, hiking, tennis, yoga ...my wife suffers from obesity and is watching my lifestyle get further and further away from hers. So, there is a strong/marital emotional component, no doubt about it. I case you're wondering, I have never suggested this idea.

The afterwards is causing me alot of thought. Is the regaining physical confidence and endurance 6 months out, 2 years out? Are the nutrition and loose skin issues going to be an ongoing battle that's as detrimental to her sense of well being as the weight? Is there a pyschological depression to deal with the first few months, I would imagine there is some let down afterwards.

Wondering if anyone here has gone through it, or has a spouse / relative who's had a similar surgery.

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Well, I don't have any CLOSE friends who have done that but I do have some friends & work associates who have had the restrictive surgery done and I can't say it's made a noticeable difference (they lose weight but not the kind of weight they obviously hoped to lose). I don't know what kind of restrictive surgery you're talking about but the lap band seems to be a real imposition on normalcy in terms of what you can eat and how often.

You have obviously already made your decisions but how is surgery going to correct this comment you made: "watching my lifestyle get further and further away from hers"

I hope it works for you both though! Marriage is tough enough without structural problems.
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Not lap band.

It may not change much, but it is her belief that losing alot of weight will allow her to become more active, more into hikes and bike riding, less knee problems. We'll see if that happens; maybe yes, maybe no.

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My wife and I both had Ruen-Y Gastric Bypass. She's about 3 1/2 years post-surgery; I'm about 2 3/4 years.

I have two coworkers who've had WLS. One had Ruen-Y; the other had lap band. The lap band coworker is, today, in fact, having a Ruen-Y because the lap band didn't work for her.


IF patients follow their post-op doctors' advice on diet, vitamin supplements, etc.... there is almost always tremendous results. After people stop following their doctors' advice, they typically rebound on their weight some - and either go back to eating and drinking how the doctors taught them, and lose regained weight and plateau, or they get back into bad habits and their success is short-lived.

If your wife uses WLS as a life-changer: changing her relationship with food; changing her lifestyle choices.... she'll have great success.
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My ex wife had stomach stapling in the 80's. (I guess that technique was superseded by lap band surgery) As a previous poster said, it made a difference, but without lifestyle changes, it doesn't make for a complete fix.
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I am 52 years old and going on 2 years post-op. I had a Vertical Sleeve Gastrectomy, that is the pendulous part the stomach is removed, about 80-85% of it in fact. You are essentially left with a tube or sleeve shaped stomach that holds about 4-8 ozs. There are NO malabsorbtion issues as NONE of your digestive tract is rerouted or bypassed. It is strictly a restrictive procedure. I rarely get hungry and do not "graze" constantly like I used too. Food is just a small part of my life whereas it used to be a MAJOR portion of it.

I have lost over 170 pounds and have kept it off. I went from a couch potato to a fairly active person. I swim 2-4 hours a week and bike about 100 miles a week. ALL my health issues have been eliminated with the exception of low testosterone, I still have to take supplemental shots - but my dosage is about 1/8 of what I started out at. Typical BP is 110/70 now, was 140/90 prior. Cholesterol is 133 (!!!) and triglycerides are 64, both were in the mid to high 200's prior. Resting heart rate is in the 60's, used to be in the 90's. Back pain is gone - now just aches and pains from riding and swimming and working so much and age. I had borderline Addisons disease and my adrenals were being stressed from pumping out so many hormones to compensate for my size, that pain is gone. Kness feel much better but still click and pop and get stiff. Even my skin cleared up, I had a very nasty case of eczema before and my skin is now smooth and healthy. I don't sweat much and I used to sweat like a stuck pig, it would literally roll off me. Oddly I've had that issue all my life, even as a kid, now it's gone, I sweat normally and even get cold often.

I now weigh 205 which is still about 15-20 pounds overweight. I am a tad over 6' tall and can ALMOST fit into a medium shirt, I could use a medium and a half (which doesn't exist) as mediums are too tight and larges are usually baggy. Size 36 pants are pleasantly lose on my and I require a belt to hold them up, I can fit into 34's but they are a tad too snug. I have ALWAYS weighed significantly more than what my build indicates, even as a skinny kid I typically outweighed kids much larger than me.
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My wife had the lap band 4 years ago and I have went with her to all the pre and post op meetings and the monthly support meetings still. I know exactly the questions you ask and having watched 100’s of people success and failures at this have formed a lot of opinion about all the types of surgery and the different reasons for success or failure. The statistics they throw at you are accurate but they are also loaded with flaws looking at it from a cause and effect standpoint looking at it from just weight loss vs becoming healthy and weight loss.

I believe to become successful at anything you should pick someone that had great success and try and understand their perspective. One of the best I saw was a male who transformed his life totally lost over 200 pounds became a total athlete hit his 100% goal and built muscle mass etc. The transformation over 2 years was almost more than I could believe and he was a poster boy for the procedure. When asked how he viewed the process he said the lap band was just a tool something he could use to just get past the tipping point he needed and he did the rest himself. So many others saw his success but didn’t hear his message and expected the tool to somehow do the job on its own.

I know all these different operations work somewhat differently on the body but all of them can be defeated and all of them can be used as a tool. I could go into a lot of the technical things about dumping syndrome etc. and will comment on them if that’s what you want to talk about, but I think you have somewhat of a feel on that and are wanting to know about the mental aspect of this on both your wife but also yourself.

This whole thing your wife is going thru you are also going thru with her. It will be one of the toughest things you will ever go thru together. It will be a wonderful thing in many ways and also stress your marriage in other ways. Even the people that I saw that didn’t have the results they wanted still saw great improvements in their lives. My wife lost many friends due to this and made many new ones. Support is very important.

I can only write so much here at this time and wish I could put my feelings into words better. I will watch this thread and comment back and please feel free to PM me if you want.

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I want to say thanks for all the terrific feedback. I may opt to get in touch.

Strangely, my wife does not have bad eating habits...she is much better than most and a hater of fast food, sweets and snacks. Her issue is mostly genetic, secondarily she fallen into a sedentary metabolisim..one sort of triggering the other. But, she loves the gym..it's her lack of confidence in her appearance that keeps her from going more regularly & getting out more regualrly.

So, I have hopes from her...I am hoping is all she needs is a little help outwitting the genetic propensity and everything else will sort of fall into line.

But you are right on, people who go through this decision process suffer rough times..and it does impact their loved ones. I think she's been trying to convince one of our insurance companies to pay for this for ... maybe 10 years.
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I lost my weight without surgical intervention, but I know a number of people who went that route. Those who were the most successful had realistic expectations going in, had some counseling, and made some real lifestyle/nutritional changes. Those who failed were those who looked at it as an easy quick fix for all their problems, not as an adjunct to a lifetime of commitment and some hard work (both body and mind).
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A cousin lost weight with it. Dont know what type, but in the 20 years since has become wheel chair bound by obesity. I guess it works if you have the right mindset. If you expect the surgery to be a magical cure, I would be concerned.

I have lost 75 lb by focusing on improved diet. It has taken me almost two years. My wife has hinted about getting the lap band, but resists following what I have been doing. I dont think the band is right for her because she realy has not tried any thing else.
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I don't know anyone personally who has had the surgery but I will comment on the lack of confidence in working out. I am a Weight Watcher and have close to 100lbs to lose.(I'm more than halfway to my goal). Originally I felt very self conscious going into the gym or the pool and then I realized everyone in there whether they were overweight or not wasn't interested in me or what I looked like. I eventually got over my discomfort and did my workout. There is a lady in my WW group who has even more weight than I do to lose and I applaud her every week because she's in the gym and classes many times a week. I wish your wife every success and can't wait to hear how she does. Soon she'll be out there with you.

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I don't know anyone personally who has had the surgery but I will comment on the lack of confidence in working out. I am a Weight Watcher and have close to 100lbs to lose.(I'm more than halfway to my goal). Originally I felt very self conscious going into the gym or the pool and then I realized everyone in there whether they were overweight or not wasn't interested in me or what I looked like. I eventually got over my discomfort and did my workout. There is a lady in my WW group who has even more weight than I do to lose and I applaud her every week because she's in the gym and classes many times a week. I wish your wife every success and can't wait to hear how she does. Soon she'll be out there with you.

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Thanks, we could do a whole thread on gyms..no doubt. Mine is a no fattie, no geezer gym. Amazing, it's gigantic, popular and very busy but I don't recall seeing any significantly over-ideal-weight people there, and I'm one of the few grey hairs in the member population. It caters to fast movers and hard bodies. Her gym was different, many people dealing with therapy and other issues..but it was expensive and inconvenient...and I continue to think she wasn't all that comfortable there.

I guess she's the one in a thousand, she has always belonged to a gym to work out, she has always eaten in a very intentional, healthy way, and it seems to make no difference. Every year she gains weights, no matter what. Kinda like a gypsy curse, cruel joke of nature. Especially in a family where her spouse and kids are all active, athletic. I say it really has made me appreciate just how wrong the stereotypes of people can be, particulary what fat people go through socially.

Well, it's happening in three weeks. She gets mad props from me for not settling for the status quo; no matter what happens no one will be able to say she didn't fight the fight.
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I had the lap band.

Two bits of advice, which I think would pertain with any kind of weight loss surgery:
1) work with someone who knows their stuff (physical therapist, sports medicine doc, etc) *ahead* of time to plan out what activities she can do when she starts losing weight. That way, activity is built in from the beginning; new habits form; and you *don't* try too much, too soon.
2) friends will know about the surgery, and will be expecting instant change. If she works outside the home, I would *highly* recommend that during the time when she's out from work, she gets a new haircut. That way, when she goes back, there is a change that folks can see.
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I was thinking of going the surgical route this time last year, but I couldn't get my insurance to cover it because I was like 10 lbs short of being morbidly obese. So..in order to get the insurance to cover it, I would have to first gain that weight, and then, to prove "committment" you have to lose like 10 percent or something of your overall weight loss goal...I don't remember...anyway, I balked. I thought it was stupid and yes I know it was just stupidity inflicted upon us by the insurance company, but that combined with the iffyness of the surgery..I got a bike instead and decided to try this for a year or so.

My best friend had bariatric surgery and lost at least 100 lbs..she went from a size 22 to a size 8 in about a year and looks great..but she also works out like a fiend. One of my supervisors had the lap band and she slooowwwwwlllly has lost about 60 lbs I think...at least that's where she was last I talked to he about it.

My sister, however, had it done decades ago..she lost a lot of weight, then got pregnant, and gained it all back in spades. She is still obese now..because for her eating issues, it doesn't matter that her stomach is tiny (if it even is anymore)...she eats really high fat food...it isn't that bulky.
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I am praying for you and your wife. This weight loss process is very challenging. To lose weight and keep it off takes quite a commitment and it takes a support group to help keep one on track. I hope that you can create an environment which will support her in her efforts and maybe make things easier on her.

Always remember that it is more important to be health than it is just to lose weight.
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We are headed off to a cabin in the mountains to celebrate our 29th wedding anniversary, do some mild hiking and get away from tvs, cellphones and computers for three or four days. It's also an opportunity for me to tell her again that no matter how it goes I've got her back. She's on the plane to surgi-center two weeks after.

Any reason to keep this thread going, share the post-op and life-after story?
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My wife had the VSG(vertical sleeve gastrectomy) over 2 1/2 yrs ago and lost 130 lbs. She has managed to keep off most of her weight, but she did gain back about 15 lbs after hitting her goal weight and still struggles to keep her weight in check. She was heavy as a child and has never been very active. I believe surgery is a great tool to help people drop some weight but you must also make serious lifestyle changes. She has always been an overeater and loves junk food. The surgery has restricted the amout of food she can eat but things like ice cream, cake and other sweets still go down pretty easy for her. Malnutrition hasn't been a real concern for her until she recently had an upper body lift to remove excess skin and she had a hard time recovering due to lack of nutrition mainly due to poor food choices.

You should prepare yourself for some depression. My wife was very happy for a bit when she saw the pounds falling off, but when the weight loss slows or stops for a bit they tend to be really hard on themselves. She felt like a failure when she could't reach her weight loss goals and turned to food for comfort like she had done for her whole life. It's a tough cycle to break. They also to expect to feel "skinny" when the weight is gone, but my wife says she doesn't feel any different about herself. If your wife has always had issues with self esteem that will not likely change. My wife went from feeling bad about her weight to feeling worse about the extra skin. She was top heavy and has already had her arms, back, and breast lifted(upper body lift). She has been more emotional about her UBL than the weight loss surgery. She is going to have a lower body lift this winter and I hope she will be on her way to gaining more self confidence.

The endurance is something she can start working on before surgery. My wife did set a goal to run a 5K and it took her several months to build up the endurance even after the weight was gone. I believe the endurance part is earned and not so much directly related to weight anyway. I am 6'2/260 lbs and run 20-30 miles/week. Most of my friends weigh much less than me and appear to be in better shape but couldn't run a mile if their life depended on it. We now try to participate in activities that are healthier for us such as canoeing and hiking instead of motorboating and riding 4-wheelers.

The whole process has been one of the most difficult things either of us have had to deal with and even put a strain on our marriage at times. The hardest things to deal with have been the emotional ups and downs(for her and me), the time spent traveling to visit doctors(1st doctor was 4 hours away and the 2nd was 1.5 hours away), and the financial burdens(we already spent over $40,000 without her upcoming surgery). She is a stay at home mom and I'm a small business owner and it has been difficult trying to keep everything on track when I have to do it all. She was back to normal pretty quickly(2 weeks) after the VSG, but she was down for weeks after her upper body lift. If you asked either of us if it has been worth it she would say yes and I would say I love her regardless of what she weighs.

btw, My sister-in-law had the lap band at the same time as my wifes VSG and she only lost about 20 lbs and has since put them all back on.

Sorry for the long reply, but if you have any questions feel free to email me. I wish you the best of luck and hope for a speedy recovery.

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My wife and I both had Ruen-Y Gastric Bypass. She's about 3 1/2 years post-surgery; I'm about 2 3/4 years.

I have two coworkers who've had WLS. One had Ruen-Y; the other had lap band. The lap band coworker is, today, in fact, having a Ruen-Y because the lap band didn't work for her.


IF patients follow their post-op doctors' advice on diet, vitamin supplements, etc.... there is almost always tremendous results. After people stop following their doctors' advice, they typically rebound on their weight some - and either go back to eating and drinking how the doctors taught them, and lose regained weight and plateau, or they get back into bad habits and their success is short-lived.

If your wife uses WLS as a life-changer: changing her relationship with food; changing her lifestyle choices.... she'll have great success.
That is the reason I opted for the Roux-en-Y surgery. My Dr even went a step further and put a hard plastic ring on the end of the esophagus(right at the opening to the stomach), so anything that goes in has to be really well chewed or it will get stuck and come back up. A further deterrent to the "yo-yo" effect to gain back even more weight.

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My wife had the VSG(vertical sleeve gastrectomy) over 2 1/2 yrs ago and lost 130 lbs. She has managed to keep off most of her weight, but she did gain back about 15 lbs after hitting her goal weight and still struggles to keep her weight in check. She was heavy as a child and has never been very active. I believe surgery is a great tool to help people drop some weight but you must also make serious lifestyle changes. She has always been an overeater and loves junk food. The surgery has restricted the amout of food she can eat but things like ice cream, cake and other sweets still go down pretty easy for her. Malnutrition hasn't been a real concern for her until she recently had an upper body lift to remove excess skin and she had a hard time recovering due to lack of nutrition mainly due to poor food choices.

You should prepare yourself for some depression. My wife was very happy for a bit when she saw the pounds falling off, but when the weight loss slows or stops for a bit they tend to be really hard on themselves. She felt like a failure when she could't reach her weight loss goals and turned to food for comfort like she had done for her whole life. It's a tough cycle to break. They also to expect to feel "skinny" when the weight is gone, but my wife says she doesn't feel any different about herself. If your wife has always had issues with self esteem that will not likely change. My wife went from feeling bad about her weight to feeling worse about the extra skin. She was top heavy and has already had her arms, back, and breast lifted(upper body lift). She has been more emotional about her UBL than the weight loss surgery. She is going to have a lower body lift this winter and I hope she will be on her way to gaining more self confidence.

The endurance is something she can start working on before surgery. My wife did set a goal to run a 5K and it took her several months to build up the endurance even after the weight was gone. I believe the endurance part is earned and not so much directly related to weight anyway. I am 6'2/260 lbs and run 20-30 miles/week. Most of my friends weigh much less than me and appear to be in better shape but couldn't run a mile if their life depended on it. We now try to participate in activities that are healthier for us such as canoeing and hiking instead of motorboating and riding 4-wheelers.

The whole process has been one of the most difficult things either of us have had to deal with and even put a strain on our marriage at times. The hardest things to deal with have been the emotional ups and downs(for her and me), the time spent traveling to visit doctors(1st doctor was 4 hours away and the 2nd was 1.5 hours away), and the financial burdens(we already spent over $40,000 without her upcoming surgery). She is a stay at home mom and I'm a small business owner and it has been difficult trying to keep everything on track when I have to do it all. She was back to normal pretty quickly(2 weeks) after the VSG, but she was down for weeks after her upper body lift. If you asked either of us if it has been worth it she would say yes and I would say I love her regardless of what she weighs.

btw, My sister-in-law had the lap band at the same time as my wifes VSG and she only lost about 20 lbs and has since put them all back on.

Sorry for the long reply, but if you have any questions feel free to email me. I wish you the best of luck and hope for a speedy recovery.

Marlon
As I stated above, I had the Roux-en-Y surgery on 8/14/07. I was 469.2 on the day of the surgery. Surprisingly, I didn't have any major medical issues. My bp, cholesterol, glucose was all well within acceptable levels. I was still pretty active, lots of softball, football, and basketball(not full court). I didn't/don't have self esteem issues, so that was not a factor in my decision to have the surgery. I just didn't feel well.

Anyway, IT WAS THE BEST DECISION I EVER MADE I have not one complaint. The first week I lost 22lbs, and felt like a new man. By the end of 18months I hit the estimate weight loss that my dr said I would hit(which was kinda freaky) of 190lbs. I got down to a low of 265. Once my body got used to the caloric intake I gained about 45 pounds back, at one point. Started to get a little nervous, but was easy to lose. I am maintaining my weight at 280-290, without really trying. I don't eat particularly healthy(the reason I opted for the major surgery, instead of the sleeve or band.) I know me, no willpower. So I wanted a "non-reversable" procedure. I haven't had any major complications, at all. I have to take vitamins, B-complex especially, iron, calcium every day, because my body doesn't absorb them the way it used to. Another inconvenience is when I eat too fast, the food gets stuck and I have to puke. Luckily, it isn't the regular type cuz it hasn't reached the stomach to begin digestion. It's just chewed up. Still gross, but not too bad.



If she is doing the surgery for her own personal well being, then she shouldn't go through any depression. If she is doing it because of her self image, then she will need some therapy. I haven't gone for the plastic surgery, yet. Not sure if I ever will. It's not that big of a deal to me. I wanted to feel better and I feel great. Mission accomplished I have a friend who got the plastic surgery. Full body lift and boob job. That was an extra 35lbs of skin, so I have about 50. To be honest, I am unimpressed with the end product. She did need a boob job, just to tighten everything up. But it is really painful and it didn't turn out all that great. Could have been her surgeon. Who knows.

Your whole attitude about food changes, almost over night. I used to plan the next meal in my head almost as soon as I was done eating the previous one. Now food doesn't have a hold on me like that. I actually get hungry and then eat. Sounds logical, but any fat person knows you don't always eat just when you are hungry. Another by product of the Bypass surgery is that certain foods will make you sick. This doesn't happen with the band or sleeve. I can't eat cake or muffins. Mayo is ok, in verrrrry small doses. I can eat Bacon, however. Fried foods in small doses. Sweets in small doses. Rice, because it expands in the stomach, in small doses. See a pattern? None of these foods are good for me, so I shouldn't be eating them, anyway. Snacks, however, go down nicely. So I have to stop myself when I binge.

Basically, I whole-heartedly recommend Gastric Bypass surgery if you are doing it for the right reasons.


Sorry for the rambling, but I'm at work and I just wanted to give you a little background. Feel free to contact me with any questions about the surgery and beyond

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Old 10-09-12, 03:59 AM   #19
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I think I've gone over my story a couple of times here, so maybe a search would dredge it up. Short version: almost 10 years ago I was 475 pounds, now I'm down to 175. I had to walk with a cane. I had the RNY surgery. At this point I have no restriction whatsoever on the amount I can eat. The opening from the stomach to the intestine has expanded. Other than the fact that I do get dumping syndrome if I eat too much sugar, the surgery rarely affects me in any way.

That's good. But it's bad. It's all on me now to keep the weight off. The surgery is of no help at all, after almost 10 years. I manage the weight by (mostly) eating right, and doing a lot of cycling. Truthfully I don't bike to lose weight. I keep the weight off so that I can be a decent cyclist.

I have had a couple of health issues that are at least tangentially related to the surgery. I had to have an incisional hernia repaired, and have had a lot of surgery to remove excess skin. If you lost 100 pounds or so it would be borderline if this were necessary, but for me it was mandatory. I've also had two small intestine bowel obstructions, that required emergency surgery. The last was this spring, where I ended up off the bike for almost two months, including a total of about 2 weeks in the hospital. It's not a direct result of the RNY but they think it's just the fact that I've had so many surgeries over the years (including a gall bladder removal in 1996) that I have a lot of internal scar tissue (adhesions) that can cause sections of the bowel to become trapped.

So... go into it with eyes wide open. It's not a magic solution. It will provide a kick start to weight loss, but ultimately it will be all up to you, and be aware of the possibility of non-trivial side effects.

Good luck!
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I'm about 12 years post-op with a distal gastric bypass with duodenal switch. It's one of the best things I've ever done for myself.

Most procedures these days are laproscopic which have a very fast recovery as opposed to open surgery like I had.

I also had a full body lift to remove excess skin at a surgical hospital in Costa Rica and then spent a month at a recovery retreat there. Again, it was an excellent choice.

Let me know if you want any more info on either.

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My wife is flying off shore for the surgery, restrictive and malabsorptive. I'm not worried about the choice of surgery and surgical care; it's been vetted by top tier physican who's family friend...it's a prudent choice for her.

It's need is primarily her long term health, though I'm extremely active and within 25 lbs of an ideal weight, enjoy running, cycling, hiking, tennis, yoga ...my wife suffers from obesity and is watching my lifestyle get further and further away from hers. So, there is a strong/marital emotional component, no doubt about it. I case you're wondering, I have never suggested this idea.

The afterwards is causing me alot of thought. Is the regaining physical confidence and endurance 6 months out, 2 years out? Are the nutrition and loose skin issues going to be an ongoing battle that's as detrimental to her sense of well being as the weight? Is there a pyschological depression to deal with the first few months, I would imagine there is some let down afterwards.

Wondering if anyone here has gone through it, or has a spouse / relative who's had a similar surgery.
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The surgery went perfectly, last Monday, she's flying back into town today. She lost 25lbs in preparation of the surgery, and all her well meaning friends said "See, you probably can do it without the surgery!".

She feeling great right now, though life without real food for so many months is a little beyond my comprehension. If she's happy, I'm happy.
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I hope she does ok. I am not a fan of weight loss surgery; I know 2 people who have died after getting it and a 3rd who is in danger of doing so due to complications. I think our medical industry overprescribes this because it makes them lots of money. My own doctor continues to recommend it whenever I express frustration at a plateau in my progress, but I refuse.
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The surgery went perfectly, last Monday, she's flying back into town today. She lost 25lbs in preparation of the surgery, and all her well meaning friends said "See, you probably can do it without the surgery!".

She feeling great right now, though life without real food for so many months is a little beyond my comprehension. If she's happy, I'm happy.
Glad to hear it. Are the friends overweight? Only a skinny person would think it's just that simple. She won't regret this decision. She's going to feel great and have so much more energy. Good luck!!!
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Just had it done 8/03/12. Down 72 lbs. so far. Not fun at times, but worth it. I wish your wife well and continued success.
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It's about the 3 month mark, my wife just returned from a full medical. The bottom line: it's been successful for her, she is now feeling great, down 100lbs from her heaviest weight, and still dropping, and her medicals were fantastic. She's back at the gym and finding there is new stuff she can do.

What was not great was the first 4-6 weeks. That was over promised somewhat, the fight to keep food in and get the necessary supplements, the general malaise...that was scary to witness. I thought she was going to end up in the hospital, or worse. It was not reassuring that the 'medical team' started to pull away when the going got rough.

She had the experience last night of a friend-acquaintance not recognizing her at a party. That was a little shocking for her, sort of begs the question of how people see you...do they really see you or do they see the weight.

Side effects: I am seeing the indications that my wife's entire wardrobe is likely to be replaced during this year, yikes. Good for the economy I guess.

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