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    Daughter Gave me The Best Christmas Gift (off topic)

    I thought about posting in the other birthday thread since it was the day I got my daughters and met Gina 4 yeas later but the not my daughter posted on my FB page today is just too much of a gift I wanted to post it!

    After a 4 year battle, lots of hate, anger, and dealing with the ex involved in drugs and booze, I wished the ex dead, didn't happen! She did try suicide about 10 years ago.

    Let's say after the ex screwed herself tyring to milk me for money through fraud with the DA's office, she dumped the girls off with me. Only took a month as my Mom predicted.

    But the battle continued. I met Gina 4 years later, she loved the girls like her own and the ex vanished into her world of parties. Years go by, she shows up wanting to be friends with the girls. Standing them up for birthdays, lying to them, arrested here and there, the girls caught on.

    Later in life, girls have kids of their own. Ex lies to their kids, stands them up on birthdays and presents etc. Now my daughters have to deal with her. They see what kind of canniving scum bag that she is! Yes, she is the sweetest thing when you talk to her but just wait!

    So my daughtes try to deal with her to rebuild a relationship with Mom. Please let me take the baby for the night. Dumb beotch takes the 2 year old granddaughter to the market and gets arrested for shop lifting! WTF! My daughter has to drive an hour to pickup her 2 year old daughter who is standing on the side of the road with a 14 yo girl in the cold after cops impound the car and arrest grandma!

    Few more years go by, she tries suicide but fails, figures. So the girls once again give her another chance after all the Bible talk. again the madness continues. Now to the point where neither one of the two girls wants anything to do with their mother. Haven't spoke with her in years. Neither wants to see her and deny all grandkid visit requests.

    No birthday parties, Christmas, BBQ's, Thankgiving, nothing!

    After years of wanting the beotch dead I actually feel sorry for her now. At one time was a knockout but now looking like a bag lady, very sad thing! Biggest sad thing is that she is missing out on the grandkids adn my girls call Gina their Mom.

    All the years of fighting druggy Mom have paid off. I sit back and see how easy my life is now while collecting gifts from my daughters, love, friendship, grandkids, watching them play ball and lots of BBQ's and family get togethers.

    These are the kinds of gifts the druggy ex will never receive at Christmas time. Posted on my FB page. My girls have a half sister(poor girl) that reads their postings so druggy ex sees them.

    Me, if I die today, I will go a happy man!

    Post from one of my daughters:

    Getting ready to leave for Cali and I'm so excited to see everyone!!!! The holidays really remind you what's important and I'm glad I get to make it to Cali this year. I always assume you already know, but I love you SO much no matter how much you tease me :-) lol. I'm so fortunate that you didn't leave us when mom left. You could have had it so easy but you stuck around. I wouldn't be as strong as I am today without the people who raised me. I love you xoxo

    My daughter (posted the message) and granddaughter



    My other daugher and My Mom


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    Lots of pain and anguish to get to this point but you are reaping the rewards now. Good for you Beanz!
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    Quote Originally Posted by bigbones73 View Post
    Lots of pain and anguish to get to this point but you are reaping the rewards now. Good for you Beanz!
    Exactly! When times are tough, you don't think about the rewards. Heck, now I just ride my bike and wait for my girls to invite me to BBQ's. It was all worth it!

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    Lovely family, Beanz. I'm sad for your ex-wife but happy your daughters had a good life with you and Gina.


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    Quote Originally Posted by cyclokitty View Post
    Lovely family, Beanz. I'm sad for your ex-wife but happy your daughters had a good life with you and Gina.
    Thanks! Yup, sad for her now. A Shame she's missing the best part. But she never learns so it's best for my girls, that's what counts!

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    Beanz, very touching. Thanks for sharing. As a "daughter" who as a great dad who was THERE for her (and still IS) I appreciate you being such a great dad! And kudos to Gina as being a step parent can be a tough job no matter the circumstances.
    Move along....nothing to see here....anymore.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Beachgrad05 View Post
    Beanz, very touching. Thanks for sharing. As a "daughter" who as a great dad who was THERE for her (and still IS) I appreciate you being such a great dad! And kudos to Gina as being a step parent can be a tough job no matter the circumstances.

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    Damn, your ex sounds like my sister, know what you are talking about. Luckily, me and the ex really work together on our brood.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jeepseahawk View Post
    Damn, your ex sounds like my sister, know what you are talking about. Luckily, me and the ex really work together on our brood.
    Her initials aren't MR are they?...

    You're very lucky you can work together!


    Note: M.R. sounds like a bad joke for the sensitive viewers but seriously , those are her intials.

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    The good in the end out weighs the bad (dear god that is bad pun on a clyd forum) .


    Just want to say +1 to Gina, It can be harder when you partner has a kid(s) but it sounds like she is perfect for them/you .


    Ridding, BBQs and Family.... some of the best things in life
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    You're obvoiusly a good and lucky man (and as far as I can see, one hell of a rider!). Merry Christmas to you and your family!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by tergal View Post
    The good in the end out weighs the bad (dear god that is bad pun on a clyd forum) .


    Just want to say +1 to Gina, It can be harder when you partner has a kid(s) but it sounds like she is perfect for them/you .


    Ridding, BBQs and Family.... some of the best things in life
    She has 2 boys too so I know the effort and it's tough!

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    Quote Originally Posted by lenny866 View Post
    You're obvoiusly a good and lucky man. Merry Christmas to you and your family!!!
    Lucky man , yes! Hell of a rider, meh!

    And Merry Christmas to you and yours!

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    I thought we were going to see baby pictures...

    Congrats on having a great family, those things don't happen by accident.

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    What put your ex-wife on the road to hell? Was she already on it when you met?
    Dream. Dare. Do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TrojanHorse View Post
    I thought we were going to see baby pictures...

    Congrats on having a great family, those things don't happen by accident.
    She has another one on the way. Thanks!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rowan View Post
    What put your ex-wife on the road to hell? Was she already on it when you met?
    She was on her way when we met. She is a wolf in sheeps clothing. If you met, she'd be your best friend. Of course I was young dumb and...well you know.

    It's sad, very intelligent, very talented, very canniving. She could have made lots of money and had a good life with a little direction, even after we ended but she went south, and fast. Her Mother lead her the wrong way.

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    <shudder> It's tough when things turn out badly. But you saw it through. I admire both you and Gina. You keep a pretty positive attitude even when things aren't going so well (thinking being without a job for a while, which no-one would have guessed).

    Have a great time over the season, Beanz. Looking to an even better 2013...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rowan View Post
    <shudder> It's tough when things turn out badly. But you saw it through. I admire both you and Gina. You keep a pretty positive attitude even when things aren't going so well (thinking being without a job for a while, which no-one would have guessed).

    Have a great time over the season, Beanz. Looking to an even better 2013...
    Yeah it's like cycling, when the going gets tough, the tough have to get going. One has to for their kids!

    Wishing you and Machka a great season as well!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr. Beanz View Post
    It's sad, very intelligent, very talented, very canniving. She could have made lots of money and had a good life with a little direction, even after we ended but she went south, and fast. Her Mother lead her the wrong way.
    Sad for her that she had a generational problem. It is a problem often seen and when a child can break that generational "cycle" it is a cause of celebration. I know because I have a grand-daughter (technically my wife's grand-daughter) who broke out of that cycle (with a little help from my wife). Your daughters, because of you and your wife, have done just that. You are blessed with a beautiful family. And you have proved yourself to be what a father should be.
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    Wiping tears from my eyes. I have two grown daughters and can say with authority there is nothing like the relationship between a Daddy and his girls. Now I'm gonna log off the computer and call my girls . . .
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    Quote Originally Posted by Old Sarge View Post
    Sad for her that she had a generational problem. It is a problem often seen and when a child can break that generational "cycle" it is a cause of celebration. I know because I have a grand-daughter (technically my wife's grand-daughter) who broke out of that cycle (with a little help from my wife). Your daughters, because of you and your wife, have done just that. You are blessed with a beautiful family. And you have proved yourself to be what a father should be.
    Thanks Man! It such a great feeling the day you realize that you've done the right things. Believe me, I broke cycles on both sides. Let's just say my Mom really likes what I've done with Gina over the last 26 years.

    Good on your wife and Granddaughter! Life should be sweet!

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    Quote Originally Posted by tractorlegs View Post
    Wiping tears from my eyes. I have two grown daughters and can say with authority there is nothing like the relationship between a Daddy and his girls. Now I'm gonna log off the computer and call my girls . . .
    Yup, Daddy and his girls, you know what I'm taking about!

    Now I'm working on this little girl!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr. Beanz View Post
    Yup, Daddy and his girls, you know what I'm taking about!

    Now I'm working on this little girl!
    Grandkids are great. Only thing better is Great-grandkids. I am blessed to have it nearly seamless, youngest grand-child is 6 and oldest great grand-child is 4.
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