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Clydesdales/Athenas (200+ lb / 91+ kg) Looking to lose that spare tire? Ideal weight 200+? Frustrated being a large cyclist in a sport geared for the ultra-light? Learn about the bikes and parts that can take the abuse of a heavier cyclist, how to keep your body going while losing the weight, and get support from others who've been successful.

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Old 01-27-13, 03:40 PM   #1
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Depression sucks....

The will power to ride.
The want to move.
The energey to think.
The life right out of me.....

So I need to kick it in the ass!
First step: Get off my ass.
Second step: Log in here to help get motivated.
Third step: Get bike fixed.

I really want to do a Tri this year. I want to ride a century. I want to enjoy life.....
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Old 01-27-13, 04:08 PM   #2
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Do it! Fix that sucker and get riding!

What's wrong with the bike? Anything some fix-it advice from BF folks could help with?
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Old 01-27-13, 04:11 PM   #3
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Old 01-27-13, 04:13 PM   #4
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You can do it, all mentioned!
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Old 01-27-13, 04:27 PM   #5
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Do it! Fix that sucker and get riding!

What's wrong with the bike? Anything some fix-it advice from BF folks could help with?
I need to put a new set of forks on the Giant. I dumped over $200 in to the road bike only to find
out the bike is is not going to be ridable. So now I am saving $100 to get a new fork and have it put on the Giant. So it just comes down to money. Thanks though.
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Old 01-27-13, 05:15 PM   #6
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What is still wrong with the road bike? Maybe we can help.

Reading your original post, I'm not going to pry, but if you aren't getting some help with your depression, I hope you will seek some out. While getting "off your ass" and riding, etc. is good and exercise can help alleviate depression, sometimes people need some help to keep things moving in the right direction. The motivation has to come from inside and nobody can do it for you, but that doesn't mean you have to do it alone.
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Old 01-27-13, 05:33 PM   #7
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On the road bike the frame and forks are just slightly twisted and bent. No one caught it and it was at two diffrent shops until a lot of the work was done.

As to getting help. I see my doctor monthly. I am unable to take meds, they do bad things to me. We try to help it with diet and exercise. At home I am a single mom of two teens. One is special needs and takes a lot of energy. ( mental and physical) the other is a 13 year old girl who is just sure I am ruining her life! (How dare I care and stick my nose in) . From time to time it just gets to be to much.
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Old 01-27-13, 07:18 PM   #8
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Kept your head up,this to shall pass..I learned in 08 how bad depression can be,don't let it run your life.i wish I could do more to help.
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Old 01-27-13, 07:55 PM   #9
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Just do it. And if you ever find yourself in need of motivation, just remember this quote:


"I really regret getting off my ass and working out."

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HAving lived through several depression cycles, I know how hard and humiliating it can be. I learned that wanting to and doing are not the same, and in really severe depression no amount of will make up for the life sucking power of the depressive state. Cyber hugs to you and a prayer to whatever is for strength for you.
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Well I went down and at least ordered the fork today. It will be cheaper then I thought. $60 installed. I talked to a long time rider about my Gaint and if is good enough wirh the mods I have done and will do, to see me through a year or two of the riding I want to do. He said if I train on this bike and do what I want to do. I will be a force to recond with when I get the racing road bike. So I will learn to be happy with what I have and just start moving forwards.
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Whenever you get time take the bike out for a quick spin, 1 mile, 1 minute, 2 hours, 30 seconds, 50 miles, just do it. Riding is medicine no matter how long you are on the saddle. The ups and downs are just part of life, us with depression have a harder time realizing that, we tend to dwell longer. It always gets better!
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I used to have a Giant Boulder and my daughter still rides one. They are fine bikes and can easily be hybridized for commuting or fitness riding. My daughter uses hers as her college bike and puts quite a few city miles on it.

Keep an eye open for a frameset to replace your roadbike. You might be able to recoup some of the money you put into it. Older bikes with solid straight framesets often go fairly inexpensively. If your current frameset is steel, there is a chance that a good LBS with a frameshop can straighten it.
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Old 01-27-13, 09:24 PM   #14
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The will power to ride.
The want to move.
The energey to think.
The life right out of me.....

So I need to kick it in the ass!
First step: Get off my ass.
Second step: Log in here to help get motivated.
Third step: Get bike fixed.

I really want to do a Tri this year. I want to ride a century. I want to enjoy life.....


Tri's and Centuries! Wow..big goals. I was once told "You know how to eat an elephant? ...One bite at a time...".

Of course, this first time I asked my wife how to eat an elephant, she replied, "With a lot of potatoes?".

Just get any time at all on your bike. Or any bike. Or even walking until your bike is healthy again! HAVE FUN!
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Old 01-27-13, 10:31 PM   #15
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I hope you continue to dig yourself out of the pit.
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Old 01-27-13, 10:41 PM   #16
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If I were you. I'd sell the money pit, get every penny for every part I had, then invest it in a hybrid $300-400 with slicks and ride your arse off.
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Depression does suck.

There was actually a nice thread about this in the 41 (of all places) that was very understanding and encouraging (and, very not r1 like at all).

I am not that type of doctor, but:

Exercise and riding can help, but depression is often something that can't be easily fixed. Meds work for some people (and, in general, if you've tried some and they didn't work, others might work better), therapy for others.

Above all, you are not alone.
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Old 01-28-13, 02:28 PM   #18
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Shelly, it could be worse. You could be spending winter in Ohio instead of California.
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Hang in there ... dealt with it before, still deal with it at times ...

Meds help me, a little, but they're nothing like the feeling I get after riding, and yes, that even includes riding in the basement on a trainer while I suffer through another Midwest winter.

Commit to doing it ... and when you don't feel like it, make yourself go. It's the LAST thing you want to do, I know, because it happens to me, but do it ...

"Hey ... it's gonna be ok .... hey ... we're gonna laugh at this one day ..."

Keep your head up
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You know what, this thread is so amazing.

Yes, depression does suck; it can suck the life right out of you if you let it. Yes, I'm on medication and it does help me from having all the life sucked out.

However, that's not what makes this thread so amazing. I belong to a couple of different Christian forums, and any time the topic of depression come up on either of them, it's like it's feeding frenzy time at the zoo. For people that are supposedly Christian, they can make some of the meanest, nastiest and most degrading comments and insinuations concerning depression and the people who admit to suffering from it.

None of that here however. No judgement or harshness, just kind words and encouragement. That's what it's all about. Everyone one of you guys and gals rock!!!

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Please know that you are not alone in your struggles. Lots of us have gone through tough times and survived and so can you. Hang in there.
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I don't believe I can relate, I might have been depressed at one point seriously in my life, but not clinically, a career change back to my industry fixed that.

But that's not relevant, all I can suggest is to not think about it. I suppose that sounds kind of smug from someone who hasn't dealt with it, but I say, don't think about the willpower, or the want, or the energy, or the life, just get on the bike and go. Don't walk by it on the way to anywhere or anything jump on and go, even if it's just to get out to the curb for the mail, or to the neighbor's driveway, or once around the block. Don't think, just do.
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I have been struggeling with some serious depression issues latley too, which actually contributed to the loss of my job recently, I understand what depression feels like for me Shelly though I dont know what you are feeling or going thru,I do feel for you.
Get that bike going, seek out friends to ride with, and keep in touch on here. Great people here.
Chin to the sky Shelly!
Now if I could only follow my own advice..
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