How to help the father in law..
Good morning guys - I usually post over in the commuting forum, but think this post belongs in here. This post actually pertains to my father in law who is in his mid 50's.
My father in law used to be a century rider and would log 100+ miles on his days off just for fun. This was back in his 30's and early 40's. He was in great shape; lean and fast on a bike. Just 10 years later and he doesn't ride anymore, and now weighs (guesstimating) in the high 200's, low 300 lb range. He is only about 5'11".
Anyhow, I've been trying to get him to ride with me and my son (5 year old) on the weekends. Figure that may help get his love of riding back, plus, with my son riding as well, it keeps the average speed nice and slow, eliminating any ego's and it's easy for him to ride along. Been trying to do this once a week. The rides usually run 7-11 miles. He occasionally joins us.
Because of where we live, there is a dedicated bike trail that would take him right into work (same one I use daily). It would be about 11 miles each way if he started commuting by bike. I try to "gently" mention that he should ride in with me one or two times a week, since I bike commute, but he keeps shrugging off the idea. He has two very nice road bikes in his garage - so gear is not an issue - plus he has showers at work, so there really is no excuse to get in better shape.
We have a good relationship. We can discuss just about anything... but fitness and weight are a path that I've never ventured down with him. It's a double edged sword - I don't want to offend him and tell him he needs to seriously lose weight - but at the same time, don't want to see him keep going down this path and end up with a massive heart attack or other serious health complications - so talking to him, may actually be the most "loving" thing to do. My wife and I are really concerned, but if he keeps up his habits, there's no way he'll be around much longer.
How would you approach this, and what do you guys recommend? Thanks again in advance.