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Old 10-10-06, 04:01 PM   #1
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Sad Days in Hopedale

Guys,

Please excuse the venting. I just need to write something. My youngest brother passed away in his sleep Sunday night. He was 46 and as far as we knew, healthy. To make matters worse, he was living in Ireland for a time, for his company. Now my poor sister-in-law has to deal with that all by herself. So all I can do is sit here and wait for the body to be flown back later this week. This is my second brother to die in their sleep in two years. Both younger than me. I am having a very hard time with this and pretty much feel like I was sucker punched in the gut. I just can't understand it.

So today I took my bike down to the Blackstone River Trail and rode to the end, turned around and rode back, turned around and rode down again, turned around and rode back, and again, and again. I just rode until I was exhausted trying to relieve the awfulness. That path is 7 miles long and I'm not even sure how many times I did it. Probably not more than 5 or 6 brcause I haven't slept or eaten well in two days so it didn't take long to get burned out. But it may have helped a little.

As always with this group, thanks for lending an ear.
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Old 10-10-06, 04:07 PM   #2
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That is just so sad, I am very sorry for your loss.
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I'm so sorry. My deepest sympathies.
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Very sad to hear that. I have a younger brother who lives half a continent away, and I couldn't imagine losing him.

Hang in there and be strong for the rest of the family.
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Old 10-10-06, 04:28 PM   #5
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Thank you for sharing, and please accept my condolences and my best wishes for your family.
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Prayers to you and yours. Sometimes that's all we can offer.
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Old 10-10-06, 05:01 PM   #7
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Hopedale, that is awful news. My heart goes out to you. Please know that you can come and write about what you're going through on this forum and we'll be listening and holding the space for you. We're all here for you, buddy. Come back when you can and write whatever you need to write. We'll listen.
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Old 10-10-06, 05:12 PM   #8
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We are here for you. Day or night there will be a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen.

You and yours are in my prayers.
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I am very saddened by your loss. Please accept the condolences of my family. My Pastor once told me that sometimes all we can do is sit next to the person grieving. No talking, no noise, just silence. I cannot be there, but I am sitting with you in spirit, lifting you and your family in silent prayer. May God give you His comfort in this very sad time.

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Old 10-10-06, 05:47 PM   #10
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My heart and prayers are with you, your sister-in-law and the rest of your family. You are going through a most stressful and difficult situation. In the past, I have also used exercise as a stress reliever in times of extreme tension. It is one heck of a good outlet, and at the same time gives you an opportunity to reflect quietly.

Rest assured that we want you to share with us whatever you feel like sharing, and we will be here to listen. I wish I could do more.
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Old 10-10-06, 05:50 PM   #11
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I really feel sorry for you and what has happen, my condolences.
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Old 10-10-06, 05:51 PM   #12
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Thoughts and prayers to you in your time of need. J.
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condolences for your loss.
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Old 10-10-06, 07:14 PM   #14
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I'm choked up after reading about your loss and all of the heartfelt replies of the wonderful people on this forum. Rest assured that we'll be here when you need us.
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Old 10-10-06, 07:45 PM   #15
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Along with everyone else, my condolences. I lost my younger brother 15 years ago. It never seems right
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That's just awful. We're here for you.
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My condolences to you and your family for the loss you've suffered.
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Old 10-10-06, 09:14 PM   #19
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A tragic loss. We feel for you.
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Losing a family member is never easy.

I am glad that you feel safe enough to share here and help your grieving process. And that you found cycling to help you to deal with some of the moments of personal turmoil.

My thoughts and good wishes are with you and your family.
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Old 10-10-06, 09:29 PM   #21
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You and your family are in my prayers. All we can do is love one another as much as we can while we're here. Sometimes being inside is too confining when emotions are so big. At least that's how it seems to me sometimes.

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I am glad you felt comfortable sharing with this forum. The 50+ers are here to share both the day-to-day topics of cycling and the more heart-wrenching topics of life. My condolences.
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Tim,

Please let me know if I can be of any help. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family. May you find courage and strength for the days ahead.
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- very sorry to read this sad news... i am very sorry for your loss and hope that you, your family, and especially your sister-in-law receive all the support needed to get through this difficult time...
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