How can life be so grand one week, and so tough the next?
Sorry, this is not bicycle related...but I've gotta vent.....
Our 21 year old daughter, who's in her fourth year of a five year College and lives at home, broke-up with her boy freind of four years last week. Three days later she announced that she was taking delivery on her new motorcycle this Tuesday (last night). We got kinda concerned. What new Motorcycle? She says it's a Yamaha R6. We got real concerned. We explained that we understood the advantages of motorcycles, but we firmly believe she should start out on a smaller Cruising style bike (200cc range), and as her skill level increased she could upgrade. She countered that she had no problem handling the Kawasaki that she co-owned with her ex boy freind. WHAT KAWASAKI ??? It turns out she's been riding since late last summer, unknown to us, and she's confident that she knows what she's doing. I just scrounged up close to $1,000 to repair the rear then front brakes on her car...."Oh, that's what that scraping noise was!" And now she's buying a $9,000 motorcycle, against our wishes. She's going to California for a six-month co-op in June...and she intends to ship the bike out there and back. That's another $1,000. She's obviously been planning this for a while. I firmly believe that had she not broken up with her boy freind, we never would have known a thing (no place to hide the bike with him out of the picture). She hasn't even got her Motorcycle license yet.
O.K. so I know enough to put my wallet away...from now on she can pay her own way. I feel like I've been taken advantage of (not only financially, but I feel like she played us like a fiddle). She assumed we wouldn't approve. I guess I'm extremely gullable and stupid. However, she's our daughter and we love her dearly. I'm certain she's going to seriously hurt herself and there's nothing I can do to prevent it. I'm really struggling with changing from the protecting parent role to the advise giving bystander in our daughter's life, especially since she's so headstrong and seemingly unwilling to heed any of it. It's also difficult for me to determine if my feelings are truly warrented, or if it just seems that way from my perspective. My wife just sits there and stares at me...not much help from her right now. This isn't at all like Father Knows Best was on TV. Has anybody else been thru anything similar to this, or am I the only idiot dumb enough to get dupped this way? How did you cope? How should I cope?