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Old 09-13-07, 09:01 PM   #1
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Should we fall in love

at our age w/someone new????????????



and then to keep it OT, take a bike tour together????????

ps: I'm single and my SO has decided to stay at home. She has too many other obligations for foreign travel.
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Old 09-13-07, 09:19 PM   #2
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I'm sorry, but I don't understand the question...
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I'm not clear about your question, either. Are you asking if it's OK at our age to leave your significant other at home and travel with a new lover on a sneaky, adulterous bike ride?
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I'm not clear about your question, either. Are you asking if it's OK at our age to leave your significant other at home and travel with a new lover on a sneaky, adulterous bike ride?
Now that sounds fascinating! Do tell! Do tell!
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Put me on the list with those who don't understand the question. But my kneejerk response before I realized I didn't know what you were asking was, "If you can decide whether to do it, it isn't love." Maybe I'm spoiled by a great 35-year marriage, but to me, love isn't something you can schedule or control to a significant degree. You can decide to break up a relationship, but that's a different thing.
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Old 09-13-07, 10:21 PM   #6
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If you are going to break it off, have the decency to do it now, before the other woman.
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Old 09-13-07, 10:46 PM   #7
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Just for the record, any single ladies wanting to experiment with this in my area are free to give me a call

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Old 09-13-07, 11:06 PM   #8
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Just for the record, any single ladies wanting to experiment with this in my area are free to give me a call

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Remember the immortal (immoral?) words of CSN&Y "if you're not with the one you love, then love the one you're with"
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Remember the immortal (immoral?) words of CSN&Y "if you're not with the one you love, then love the one you're with"
I believe the lyrics are, "If you can't be with the one you love, honey, love the one you're with..."
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Old 09-13-07, 11:31 PM   #10
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I believe the lyrics are, "If you can't be with the one you love, honey, love the one you're with..."
Yeah, that does kinda sound more like it.
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Its just a machine for pete's sake!..........its not love.................its infatuation.
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I'm reading this as someone who either is married AND seperated, or divorced but still in contact with former spouse, who now has new boy/girlfriend that he/she wants to take on a cycling vacation ?

Or maybe not ?.

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Absolutely!
fall in love, shack up, and get a tandem!
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Actually aren't you old enough to know better??? To me this isn't even a funny question, just weird.
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I'm not clear about your question, either. Are you asking if it's OK at our age to leave your significant other at home and travel with a new lover on a sneaky, adulterous bike ride?
Adultery? He's not married. It says significant other, not wife.

He's asking the group to endorse sleeping around?

Wasn't there an earlier post asking for advise on whether to break up with the SO?

This isn't even funny, just sad.
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Old 09-14-07, 08:02 AM   #16
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Actually aren't you old enough to know better??? To me this isn't even a funny question, just weird.
Right Pam,

Just weird! Alright, it isn't really clear what the question is, . . . but it sounds like there's a lot going on in the background that isn't reflected in the question .

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at our age w/someone new????????????



and then to keep it OT, take a bike tour together????????

ps: I'm single and my SO has decided to stay at home. She has too many other obligations for foreign travel.
Let Dr. Laura sort it out...
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Old 09-14-07, 08:20 AM   #18
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clarification bluntly stated. No adultery.

My SO for several yrs. refuses to travel. I love travel; hence, the relationship is on the outs...for the second time.

I'm 60. Is that too old to look for another relationship--this time w/someone that loves travel and bikes?
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No time for foreign travel? BIKE ARKANSAS!
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Old 09-14-07, 09:40 AM   #20
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So if you're not committed by marriage or connected by children, I don't think it's that big a deal to...

Slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
No need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free.

Hop on the bus, Gus
Don't need to discuss much
Drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free.
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Thanks for the clarification. If the relationship with the SO is over, and you have communicated that to her, then go for it! If not, then end it, and then go for it! My step-father is 86. He has a girlfriend (my mother died about three years ago). It's never too late. And good for the body and mind and soul.
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Old 09-14-07, 09:50 AM   #22
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"Catch and Release" posts probably belong on a bass fishing forum.
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Never to old to start again. sad that you cannot work out the travel thing, as there must be some good qualities that have kept you together over the years.

My Dad used to hte to ravel and Mom had the travel bug. In the last few years of this ife he started to enjoy some travel, then he died. Mom has continued to travel. Point is some people do change on travel. Why doesthe SO refuse to travel? Is it something that can be cured?
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Geesh............and I thought you had fallen in love with a new bike.....
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People of every age should be in love.
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