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  • Choose as many responses as you like. 1. Yes, it generally bothers me

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  • I don't mind eaither way

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  • I like it

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  • It depends on how long I have known them

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  • I don't have a first name

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    First Names and 50+'rs and Bicycling

    First Names and 50+'rs and Bicycling

    Well, forget about the "Bicycling." I only put that in to fool the mods.

    Does it bother anyone else to be called by just about everyone by your first name? Never, "Mr. Fox."

    This has become really prevalent in our society, particularly in MD's offices, but also at the barbershop and everywhere else.

    (Cheers for the first person to find all the spelling errors in the poll - sorry I can't edit them out.)
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    Well.............its not a fair comparison...............my first name's not Dnvr.



    edit: I have always assumed that the use of Mr. is a matter of respect more (but not only) appropriate to strangers or those that I am not completely familiar with. I become more uppity when people I don't know try the "first name", I can call you "first name" can't I gambit.
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    I generally don't mind it.

    Until, they decide to put "Mr." in front of it, then snicker.
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    Perhaps this is a 65+ thing?
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    I'd much rather be called by my first name in just about any situation I can think of . . .

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    I voted that it depends on how long they have known me. But I would say that it bothers me if the person I am talking to wants to be called Dr. X, then calls me by my first name. Just because they are a Dr doesn't give them a special place of respect in my book. If ya want formal make it both directions.
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    I work at a large hospital. It is policy here to use first names at all times, whether it is a patient, a DR. or even the COE of the corporation. It is odd for me with 27 years of Law Enforcement where it was stressed that we call everyone MR and Mrs when we addressed the public. So this has been a culture shock for me. I do not know wheter I like it or not.

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    I don't mind if they call me "Blazing" but it sounds weird to be called "Mr Pedals."

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    Quote Originally Posted by DnvrFox View Post
    Perhaps this is a 65+ thing?
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    Quote Originally Posted by howsteepisit View Post
    I voted that it depends on how long they have known me. But I would say that it bothers me if the person I am talking to wants to be called Dr. X, then calls me by my first name. Just because they are a Dr doesn't give them a special place of respect in my book. If ya want formal make it both directions.


    +1

    And, technically, I am Dr., also.
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    Call me anything but late for dinner.
    Really it's quid pro qou, you want to be called Mr. or Dr. something, then use Mr. when addressing me.
    If somebody calls me Mr., and I think its being overly formal, I say "call me Leo, Mr. R* is my father".
    My dad is still alive, and he has earned the right to be called Mr., by everyone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dguest View Post
    I work at a large hospital. It is policy here to use first names at all times, whether it is a patient, a DR. or even the COE of the corporation. It is odd for me with 27 years of Law Enforcement where it was stressed that we call everyone MR and Mrs when we addressed the public. So this has been a culture shock for me. I do not know wheter I like it or not.
    That's an interesting policy. I suppose it's an attempt at being egalitarian, but it seems more likely to be potentially insulting to some people.

    I think it's best to use a title unless you're otherwise sure. Remember Phillipians 2:3 - "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves."

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    my mom named me "Jim" rather than Mr. or Dr. I prefer people using my name.... the letters and titles before or after names are labels, not names.

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    Makes me feel old if I'm addressed as Mr.

    So I prefer the first name... unless being addressed by a child.

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    My Quaker sensibilities put me in the position of not minding being called by my first name, but I then call the one who addressed me as such by his or her first name. Then again, I don't stand when the judge enters the court room, I don't call my elected officials by any "special" title, I don't say a pledge to a flag, and I don't "solemnly swear" or take oaths. That said, I remember our family physician's reaction the first time I referred to him by his first name. He was somewhat taken aback. He said, "You know I earned the title." I responded that I earned the title of Kyōshi, and would gladly call him doctor if he would call me Kyōshi. He paused for a moment and said, "I forgot who I was talking to."
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    What really kills me is when an attractive young lady calls me "sir," as in: "Sir, we're running a special on geritol this week. It's in aisle five, sir."
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    It's nice to be treated with respect, but as long as they don't screw up the paperwork I don't care what they call me.

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    I have one of those last names that people stare at 'cause it's long and foreign... so I insist people call me by my first name however not my formal name. I hate Pamela, I am Pam thank you!

    And please don't call me madam, ma'm, ms. miss, whatever if you know my name. I really hate that!
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    Quote Originally Posted by dguest View Post
    I work at a large hospital. It is policy here to use first names at all times, whether it is a patient, a DR. or even the COE of the corporation. It is odd for me with 27 years of Law Enforcement where it was stressed that we call everyone MR and Mrs when we addressed the public. So this has been a culture shock for me. I do not know wheter I like it or not.
    I sortof understand that. At work when I am dealing with a client I would never say "Joe" I would always say "Mr. So and So" unless requested to say "Joe" and even then I usually say "Mr..." Other work folks, even my boss is first name OK.
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    I do not especially like for people who work with me or for me to call me sir or Mr. and usually will gently ask them to just call me by my first name. What I don't think is very good customer relations is when I purchase something on my credit card and the young employee looks at my name on my card and calls me by my first name.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jet Travis View Post
    What really kills me is when an attractive young lady calls me "sir," as in: "Sir, we're running a special on geritol this week. It's in aisle five, sir."
    Hot chicks usually call me by my first name and if they do not know it, make one up. If someone uses sir or Mr, there is a good chance I will not answer because I think they are talking to someone else.

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    I usually get addressed by my full name when at the doctor's, etc.

    The regular service people I have call me by my first name, and that's OK.

    But the guys at the Jiffy Lube should call me Ms. X, the punks.

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    99% of the people mispronounce our last name . . .

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    People can really really screw up my first name. I've been called "Lois" and "Louise" more times than I can remember.

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