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    Empty Nest

    seems pretty empty, after just one day.
    What is bicycle touring?
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    Quote Originally Posted by downtube42 View Post
    seems pretty empty, after just one day.
    What, the champagne bottles?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Terex View Post
    What, the champagne bottles?


    That's the way we felt. Sad to see them go - but hell, let's change the locks and kill a few bottles of champagne!

    Seriously - we love our kids to bits and really enjoy having them over. But in many ways, living in an "empty nest" has been one of the best times of our lives.
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    Both my kids moved out about 10 years ago into rented accommodation about 10 miles away. However when they bought their houses- they both moved back within 1/2 mile of us. They just can't stay away. The empty nest worked for us. We only have a small house and with them and their boyfriends in the house before they moved out- it was a bit crowded- and noisy- and rather expensive feeding 6 and their mates that always seemed to be round aswell. I enjoy my peace and quiet and my freedom.
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    I tell my son I want to move in to his house sleep on couch until noon and eat all his pizza.

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    Quote Originally Posted by br46 View Post
    i tell my son i want to move in to his house sleep on couch until noon and eat all his pizza.
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    Monica and I have until 21 June 2012 with our son at home. He leaves for a 3 month church mission in Quebec and then a follow-on permanent mission position there for 2 years. It will seem strange to have the house to ourselves, save the cat, Carl, and kind of quiet. I am sure we'll adjust to the silence and privacy.

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    There was an adjustment period for us. The house is much quieter and the refrigerator and pantry do not seem to empty as quickly. I never thought about it before they left, but the dog seems to miss them as much as we do. His excitement can’t be contained when they visit. It’s like his whole body is wagging, not just his tail.
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    I told my kids to be sure and call first before coming over or risk being scarred for life

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    Quote Originally Posted by BR46 View Post
    I tell my son I want to move in to his house sleep on couch until noon and eat all his pizza.
    I permanently loaned my Santana tndem to my youngest son yesterday. What does it matter? If I sold it the money would only delay my moving into his place by a couple of weeks.

    Uh - the possibility of moving into his place is pretty much the only thing that's keeping me from buying a junk car that leaks oil and parking it in his driveway. I don't get mad, I get even.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BR46 View Post
    I tell my son I want to move in to his house sleep on couch until noon and eat all his pizza.


    I can't seem to get rid of my kids. Son moves out with his fiancee' and they break up couple of years later and asks if he can move back in(pays rent of course). Daughter moves out and goes to college and withdraws because of some nasty people there and moves back in. Then she gets engaged and her fiancee', as well as my son, live here. She and her fiancee' move out and 6 months later we have to rescue her from him(he turns out to be an abuser). A couple of month's later she moves out with her best friend(female), even out of state, and so far she's doing fine. Meanwhile(prior to her rescue), my son gets engaged to a wonderful woman and she eventually has moved in. They're getting married in a couple of weeks, but we expect them to be living with us for probably a year to get out from under the wedding debt. With my luck, they'll finally move out and my wife's parents will move in with their two dogs. I'm not sure we'll ever be empty nesters.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blanchje View Post
    I told my kids to be sure and call first before coming over or risk being scarred for life
    Yeah, all of our kids know the key pad code to get into our house but they've been known to phone from our driveway for fear of what me and Mrs. Grouch may be doing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blanchje View Post
    I told my kids to be sure and call first before coming over or risk being scarred for life
    Same thing here. That 'privacy' thing...
    Regards,
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    Our syndrome lasted three days. We have adjusted nicely. BTW the little one left in 1992
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    If anyone is feeling bad about their "empty nest", I would be very glad to contribute one son to solve your problem. Every time I get rid of him, the wife lets him back in.
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    Our sons moved back home a bit over a week ago (just finished their freshman and junior years at college) so the nest is full again. Our older son will be leaving for a seven week internship in Nigeria on Sunday if his visa is actually in the FedEx envelope headed our way (his difficulties dealing with the Nigerian Embassy turned out to be even worse than I had imagined) so we'll only have one at home most of the summer. The empty nest was nice while it lasted.

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    No horror stories here but I can't seem to get them out. Wife disagrees and keeps the refrigerators well stocked with all their favorites. Even does their laundry and fusses over them endlessly. Maybe I'm the one who should move out.
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    Just think of the brand new bike room you will have......
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    The only young'un turns 14 in August. Still a way to go....
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    We are great-grandparents.
    Empty nest is great; we get to do what we want to do.
    Love it!

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    It's the shock, kind of sudden with the son unlike the daughter who did moved out in stages as she went through college/grad school. I'm sure we'll find something to do
    What is bicycle touring?
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    I'm just waiting for my son to get a place big enough that I can stash a bike in Seattle to ride when I visit.

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    We are facing an empty nest when my son goes to law school in August. We only have the one child and he went to college locally so he lived at home those four years. He's been seeing this one girl for about a year now and he stays at her place two or three days at a time so we are kinda getting use to it. Lately him and I have been riding quite a bit and I know when he starts back to school that will probably end because he will just not have the time.

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    My daughter is soon leaving for college. She'll be the last of three moving out. I'm not loving it. I want her to be successful and happy and grow up and all, but I sure will miss her.

    We're keeping four bedroom house just because in todays economy you never know. Maybe I'll be longing for empty someday, but for now I'm giving them all a fall back position.
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    Be careful what you wish for.

    For several years, I didn't think we were ever experience the "empty nest". When 1 would leave, they did seem to find their way back. We ended up developing the 30-day rule because they didn't come home by themself. It seem there were grands involved, too and I'm not a built-in babysitter. However, when the last one finally left, we were a couple for the first time in our marriage. In my mind, it's my most treasured time period but that's because empty nest ended up being redefine. I went from a family of 4 to being totally alone, in a 31 days period of time. My world was turning upside down and side ways for awhile as I redefined my life. I've also learned a whole lot more of who I am and what I'm really capable of doing. The world is unlimited.

    I really think that the time period in our lives when the children leave to start their lives, is a special time for couples. Just enjoy it. It's "your time".
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