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Old 12-04-12, 10:24 AM   #1
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Lost a Good Friend

I got a call this morning from Liz, her husband and my friend, Joe, passed away early this morning from a torn aorta. He was 61 with no signs of poor health or heart problems in his family. Joe was a kind man with a wry sense of humor and generous to a fault. I especially enjoyed the fact that he always paused to think before answering a question or offering an opinion - almost the complete opposite of my natural inclination. When we first moved into the neighborhood he noticed my bikes and was eager to go riding with me. Our first ride together was one of the most memorable rides I’ve ever had. We hit it off immediately, and after 40 miles it seemed like we had known each other for years. I’m going to miss him a great deal.

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Old 12-04-12, 10:35 AM   #2
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Sorry you lost a friend and riding partner. My regrets to his family and friends. There is no substitute for living each day as if it's your last. One day it will be.
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Old 12-04-12, 01:13 PM   #3
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Sorry to hear about your friend. No matter how much you think you are ready, you are never ready to lose someone important to you.
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Old 12-04-12, 01:14 PM   #4
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Sorry to hear about your loss. It sounds like Joe was the kind of person who would be an important person in many people's lives. May we all be inspired by his example, to cultivate and cherish our family, friends, and community.
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Old 12-04-12, 01:25 PM   #5
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We have no choice about being born or when we die. Between those two crucial events we have nearly unlimited choices. What a fine thing it is that your friend can be remembered for choosing to enrich the lives of those around him.
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Old 12-04-12, 01:43 PM   #6
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Deepest sympathies for your loss.
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Old 12-04-12, 02:11 PM   #7
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I am sorry to hear of your loss. These sudden, unexpected deaths are hardest on those left behind -- but often the kindest for the one who passed. May he rest in peace. He will live on in your memories and thoughts and the way he has impacted your life and the lives of others.
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I am sorry for your loss of such a fine friend. I lost a dear friend in September to Lung Cancer. A strapping 6' 4" inches, it took him in just three months. Although he didn't ride, he was a good friend I could always count on for advice and counsel as well as for sharing the occasional drink and dinner. I sorely miss him, so I know what you are going through. And you are right about doing things now and not waiting. I have started using the crystal wine glasses daily and not waiting for special occasions, a small thing but just one of many. Be thankful that you had such a good friend, many do not.
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My condolences and prayer for you and his family to cope. Life is so fragile. This puts things in perspective.
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Old 12-04-12, 04:28 PM   #10
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May your memories of him bring you some level of joy, in this time of rememberance, GOD Speed to your friend.
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Old 12-04-12, 05:20 PM   #11
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Oh geez man, that's horrible. Sorry for the loss.
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Not enough Joe's around thats for sure.RIP
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I am so sorry about your loss. It was a great friendship. Remember the good times together.
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It sounds hollow since the others put the pain you are having in perspective but I am so sorry you lost a close friend so suddenly. His family will be in my prayers for strength in the coming days and for you too.

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I am sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. I hope the memories of the rides you had together can help ease the immediate pain.
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Old 12-04-12, 07:27 PM   #16
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A real shock for you - and your impulse is to remember and pass on the most important idea in life - to fulfill what is most important to you, or at least attempt to. Peace.
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I don't know if this helps but your friend is not gone. All of the atomic matter that made your friend was actually formed at the beginning of the universe and will always be here. He's just in a different form now, but still here.
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Condolences to his family. Your memories of him are cherished and will live on. That is the solace from this.

We are travelling around the world because we can, right now in our lives. We don't know what might happen next week, next month or next year.

And yeah, so what if I never retire. Working to pay for it can be as much fun as the travelling, too.
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Sorry for your loss. You were very fortunate to have someone like him in your life, someone that you can so easily connect with. He was fortunate to have you, too! How wonderful for that... a friendship unlike no other. Very special indeed.
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I am so sorry about your loss. It was a great friendship. Remember the good times together.
+1, and let's pray and hope that the family has the strength to go on.
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Old 12-05-12, 01:57 AM   #21
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Thank you for sharing. It is a good reminder to us of how fragile life is.
Manny happy memories. This time is bitter sweet.
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Old 12-05-12, 05:43 AM   #22
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So sorry for your loss.
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Old 12-05-12, 08:37 AM   #23
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Sorry to hear this, NOS.
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I'm 61... this is hard to read... losing a friend or family member is never easy; it always makes one think about their own situation and how life should be lived - better; we alway must do better.

Sorry for the loss and thank you for the little reminder to try to do better...
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I’m going to miss him a great deal.

Whatever it is for which you have a passion or have been “meaning to do”, do it today. There might not be a tomorrow.
Earnest sympathy. I trust you'll be a kind friend to his wife.

Your counsel to us is timely. We're on the edge of saying, ok, we'll do another couple of years in a place we don't like, and then....
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