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Old 03-25-13, 08:01 AM   #1
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Not what I was expecting on Sunday's ride.

I've waited to post this a day because I couldn't find words.

Yesterday I saw a rider stopped and attempting to remove her rear wheel. I thought she must have a flat. So, as I am prone to do, I slowed down and asked if she needed anything. She shook her head yes. I stopped and walked over. She says she has changed flats before, but her hands are so cold she's not sure she can get the tire off and then remount it. I offer to assist. As we're working on the flat, a group of five or six riders go by. About 200 yards after they passed, one of them circled back. He unclips, walks over and literally grabs the wheel out of my hands saying, "Give me that old man. I'll do it." I was stunned. I mean I was stunned enough that I couldn't say anything for a few seconds. When I finally replied, I simply stated that I had it under control and was doing fine. He looks directly at the woman and says, "This job call for someone with some real hand strength." She's looking at me and rolling her eyes. The guy struggles with it using two tire irons and can't get the bead to break free. I simply said, "Excuse me. Let me try." He glares at me and says he'll do it. We're now another two or three minutes into this, and he hasn't yet been successful. At this point, the woman says, "I asked this gentleman to help me. Would you please give him the wheel." He thrusts the wheel in my face while saying she can do what she wants. He was just trying to be helpful. With that, he stomps over to his bike and pushes off. I’m still trying to figure out what deamons this guy has inside doing battle. After the flat is repaired and the wheel remounted, the woman asks how far I'm going; she's worried about running into this guy again by herself. It turns out, I'll be riding right past the apartment complex where she lives. So, I agree to ride with her. As we come to the entrance of the complex, I see she's crying. This whole thing has upset her much more than I could have imagined. We stop for a moment and she apologizes for crying and tells me she hates when men act that way. She also says that she's sorry that she put me in that situation. I tell her she didn't put me in any position. If anyone needs to apologize it's the other rider. On that, she heads to her apartment and I continue down the road.
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Old 03-25-13, 08:09 AM   #2
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Men are idiots.

Well, not all of us, not all the time. And women are idiots too (although not as often but they're making a push to equal us here, too).

You did the right thing all the way around.
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Old 03-25-13, 08:22 AM   #3
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The other guy needs to schooled for his actions towards the young lady and towards you. He was just trying to "impress" the young lady thinking that making you look bad he was being some type of slick and sophisticated strong man. You showed a lot more patience towards him than I would have, but that is for the best. She was upset enough as it was and you were the gentleman in this case, doing the correct and right thing for her. It was nice of you to ride the remaining way with her after she asked for your escort, that was a classy thing to do. I really hope she takes away a positive memory of your actions in that scene with the jerk. His type are what can give bicycling a bad name and image. If he acted that badly towards you, he has deeper problems than just his machismo complex.

As Charles said, "you did the right thing all the way around", good for you NOS, but it doesn't surprise me at all that you were the gentleman.


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Old 03-25-13, 08:30 AM   #4
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Sad that the flat and the uncalled for actions by the other fella ruined what could have been a great day on the bike.
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Old 03-25-13, 08:33 AM   #5
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Congrats on keeping your composure. That's about all you can take away from the experience, too bad the woman wasn't able to do the same. The are nutty people in the world, nothing to cry about and nothing to lose sleep over.
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Holy crap! So villainous, it sounds like something out of a B movie. I thought you were going to remark at how many people went by and didn't offer to help!

All that would make sense (but still be over the top rude) if the two of them were a couple and split under bad circumstances. Are you certain she didn't know this guy?
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Old 03-25-13, 08:57 AM   #7
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Holy crap! So villainous, it sounds like something out of a B movie. I thought you were going to remark at how many people went by and didn't offer to help!

All that would make sense (but still be over the top rude) if the two of them were a couple and split under bad circumstances. Are you certain she didn't know this guy?
I seriously doubt it. The interaction had no hint of familiarity.
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Old 03-25-13, 09:04 AM   #8
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I seriously doubt it. The interaction had no hint of familiarity.
Whoa ... that is bizarre. That's so over the top, I'd suspect someone was off their medication.
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Jerks are everywhere. You did the right thing. Maybe he'll see what he really looks like to others someday.
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Sounds like a visitor from NJ.Thats the norm here.What a jerk!
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Old 03-25-13, 09:53 AM   #11
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Disreguard it-----------the young guy has too much ego, and probably just wanted a better look at the girl. The manners of some young guys just need more development.
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whoa ... That is bizarre. That's so over the top, i'd suspect someone was on steroids.
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Some guys have too much testosterone for their own good, and unfortunately many of them show up for group rides.
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Whoa ... now that is a strange bug. Try to post a grinning emoticon by itself, and the website changes a capital D to a lower case. Add other text, and you get the grin.
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Seems like the ranks of the mentally ill are increasing daily........

If only we could be around when those guys get their comeuppance. (I was, once: a guy in his early 30's was giving my 65 year-old friend a hard time...when my friend had enough, he started throwing the 30-something around like an inflatable punching clown. Knowing my friend, I was impressed that he exercised great restraint, and didn't really beat the crap out of the jerk- but rather just gave him a taste. My friend is a maniac)
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I agree with posts 1 through 15 inclusive.
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Old 03-25-13, 11:06 AM   #18
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I have no words for that guys behavior... first of all, good for you for stopping and asking. Nothing wrong with the other guy stopping until he opened his mouth...

Funny, I find men don't stop that often. In fact, all too often I have stopped for other men or women when men have ridden by... I stopped one time for an older gent that needed help. He told me tons of people rode by without even saying "you OK?". I am fairly self sufficient but have had my moment where I needed help but since i am not young and attrctive, everyone whizzes by...

Anyway I feel for the gal... I hope one jerk doesn't stop her riding...
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Funny, I find men don't stop that often. In fact, all too often I have stopped for other men or women when men have ridden by... I stopped one time for an older gent that needed help. He told me tons of people rode by without even saying "you OK?". I am fairly self sufficient but have had my moment where I needed help but since i am not young and attrctive, everyone whizzes by...
My experience is that the stereotypical Serious Cyclists never do anything that might impede their performance on their current Strava segment, but that people who are clearly just out for a nice ride on the bike will generally throw at least a "You OK?" as they pass by - even though I'm a middle-aged graying Fred with delusions that I can do a rear tube swap in three minutes flat. ;-)
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Good for you. I don't know that I could have maintained my composure as well. I think "Give me that old man..." might have been the last thing he said before his nose broke.
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My experience is that the stereotypical Serious Cyclists never do anything that might impede their performance on their current Strava segment, but that people who are clearly just out for a nice ride on the bike will generally throw at least a "You OK?" as they pass by - even though I'm a middle-aged graying Fred with delusions that I can do a rear tube swap in three minutes flat. ;-)
Well thank goodness for all you middle aged graying Freds! When I was a club rider, there was this whole "keep up; keep up; keep up" mentality... get a flat and the group was long gone... on a ride we came across another bike club (I will give them a shout out as it was deserved - Riverside Bicycle Club) and everyone was standing around while someone was changing a flat. I stopped and commented sarcastically "well... how many cyclist DOES it take to change a flat?". They politely responded "only one but we dont leave that one behind...". I realized that day I was riding with the wrong club.

I would like to think we cyclists are all a friendly bunch looking out for other cyclists but sadly that is not true... especially within the last 5 years. I love all the new people getting into the sport but that Strava thing has to go (don't I sound old now?).

BTW I did a mountain bike ride on Saturday. After, one of the riders told me Strava says we did 1100 of climbing. Hard to believe on a basically flat ride so I pulled out my Garmin GPS... and it said 600' don't trust Strava!
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Old 03-25-13, 01:15 PM   #22
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Hi, I wonder where he gets that from , rgds, sreten.
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I know I've said this before on these pages, but I tend to feel sorry for people like that. I always try to keep in mind that I'll wake up the next day and not have to deal with them. They'll wake up and still be an idiot.
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I know I've said this before on these pages, but I tend to feel sorry for people like that. I always try to keep in mind that I'll wake up the next day and not have to deal with them. They'll wake up and still be an idiot.
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I would never have thought, but it's true! You actually seem to have run into an actual real-life Gaston! I guess that makes her Beauty, and you.... (I'll not pursue this metaphor or is it a simile? any further!)

He was probably angry because he embarrassed himself and knew it. As a member of the species, I can fully attest to the fact that, yes indeed, Men truly are Idiots.
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