Yesterday I received a phone call from my son's school. He is in the 4th grade. I picked up just as the aswering machine got it. They had already hung up but I could tell by the caller ID that it was the school. Since I was expecting a call from the counselor regarding a GT (gifted and talented) testing issue I called her back and left her a message.
About twenty minutes later my wife called me and said she just got off a 20 minute phone call from the school principal saying our son was very close to being suspended for the rest of the school year. He had been to see the principal the day before about behavior issues (he never mentioned it to us) and it had gotten worse that day. The principal was getting nowhere with him and then made the call home. My wife then talked to him on the phone and he sounded kind of strange and upset. He was making excuses about why he was acting up and said he didn't get enough sleep the night before because the band concert. My other son had a band concert and we didn't get home until late. As my wife is explaining this to me we are discussing how to handle it when he gets home in about 30 minutes. We have had a few behavior problems before but nothing major.
About 10 minutes before he is to get home my wife calls back and says that he is suspended for the rest of the year. The principal gave him a note to take home and he refused to take it and then tore it up in front of her. At some point during the discussion with the principal my wife had mentioned something about the GT test. She also mentioned that all of his teachers had said he was a pleasure to have in their class and that this was unusual behavior for him. At some point it didn't add up and the principal realized that this was not our son in her office. She had called the wrong parents. My wife even talked to this other kid and didn't realize it wasn't our son. She said he just sounded upset and noncomunicative.
If this had not been cleared up before my son made it home and I brought it up with him and he of course denied everything. I can't imagine how much trouble he would have been in. The principal was very appologetic about the mixup and would look into how it happened. Hopefully we will get more deatails today. I just had to share my hour of changing emotions.