I'm not a people person. It takes me a long time to trust people I don't know. When I'm around people I haven't known for very long, which I can usually define as under a year, my guard is always "up." I don't disclose personal information or feelings. Who knows when someone might use them against you?
Back when I was a teenager and instant messengers were new I used them as an outlet for my "softer" side. When you're talking to someone you'll never meet it doesn't matter if they betray your trust. Come to find out, I actually enjoy sharing stuff and being able to openly talk like that. I told myself I would try it more in real life, but I just couldn't do it. I couldn't change my ways.
Well, I recently met this girl that has made me break all of those trends. I've only known her for a couple of months, but I trust her completely. I don't know why, but I can talk with her and I'm not inhibited at all. Not only that, but we talk about things that seem like "intelligent conversation." Usually my emotions are pretty flat, but I'm more animated around her. I feel like I've known her for a long time and she's an old friend. We have "chemistry."
What's that all about? How does it happen? Is it just that we share common interests and viewpoints? It seems to be a lot more than that. Is it just her? I mean, she's real nice and she gives off a positive vibe all the time. But she can't be the only nice person I've ever met. It has to be more than that. Is it sexual attraction? She is attractive, don't get me wrong, but it's not like "Oh wow she's so hot." Besides, I have a girlfriend, so it doesn't matter anyway.
So what do you think? What causes this weird chemistry between people?