I've gotten to the point where the first response to the question, "Why are you with her?" is that I've already been with her for so long. I can't see myself with another girl, but I can see myself by myself, and I kind of like the way it looks.
Long story short, we were never really "right" for each other in the first place, but for whatever reason we were both committed to making it work. But the problems that were there in the first place just keep growing and growing. I don't think they'll ever go away.
We're supposed to get married in a little over a year. I bought a ring not too long ago, and once that ring was right in front of me I thought, "Wait a minute. Do I really want to do this?" That ring might make us happy for a while, but before long she'll be moping around again, getting upset at everything I say. I'll be going for a ride and she'll be sitting around watching TV. I'll wake up in a happy mood, and she'll slowly suck my energy away as the day goes on. She might say she's bored. Ok, then let's go for a ride. No, she doesn't feel like it. Ok, then what does she want to do? She doesn't know. Do I really want to go through this the rest of my life? Do I want all of my happiness slowly sucked out of me?
But how do you break up? How can you hurt someone you love? How do you know you're not making a mistake and blowing normal relationship issues out of proportion? How do you deal with it when she finds someone else? How do you deal with it when you find a new girl, but she has been with someone else in the past? How do you know when it's time to give up on something that you've spent years working on?