Last year while watching the Tour de France my girlfriend made a odd comment when one of the riders crashed. I don't remember the rider but his crash injured him and put him out of the race and he was very emotional about it. As I was sitting there watching it and feeling badly for the guy she blurted out "Oh how stupid! Get off the road and quit crying!" I looked at her and said "Your joking right?" Well she wasn't. After a short talk I figured she just didn't understand how much some athletes put into what they do and how emotional it can be at times.
Well I guess I gave her too much credit because recently shes made several more simular comments. Several of our female friends had been training for a century ride. 10 miles from the finish they had to be sagged in due to exaustion. They were at an altitude they had not properly acclimated to and they had far more climbing than they had trained for. They knew they were in trouble 40 miles into it but they kept trying. They had tried their best but just couldn't make it any further. Afterwards they had a short cry but they got over it quickly. My girlfriend wasn't there to see it but when she heard about it she blurted out "That's silly they need to just grow up and quit being babies!" I looked at her and said "Well since you feel so strongly about it I think you should go tell them what you just told me!" She didn't have the guts to.
So the other day while watching a few clips from World Cup Soccer she started making simular comments when they showed a clip of an emotional player. I asked her what it was that bothered her about this and she said that they should be more like American football players. "They would never cry!" What? That's not even true. Not only am I figuring out she's cold and non-compassionate she also doesn't know what she's talking about.
I'm seeing her attitude as a red flag. I just can't quite put my finger on what it is that bugs me about this though. Could I be seeing the tip of the iceburg for more underlying emotional problems? She's a nurse and a sunday school teacher. You'd think compassion would be one of her strong points. Have I missed something or am I making too much of this?