Before typing this message, I want to clear the air that I am not to be a person seeking gossip or drama; however, I am an advocate of all that is wrong with drama, especially in the workplace. After seeing my boss and other co-workers today, I thought I would get public testimonials to see as what I am doing is wrong or if people are overstressing the situation. About a year ago, my bigger boss, brought her daughter to start working at the Shell Oil Station. At the time, she was 17 and I was 20 and now that I am in college I typically work during the winter and summer vacations I have, an average of 4-5 months of the year. From what I learned later, my bosses' daughter established a crush on me.
I starting hesitating towards the situation, reassuring that I did not want drama nor do relationships within the workplace, adding the fact that this girl was in still in fact my bosses' daughter. Now a year later and halfway through my summer break I learned she still has a crush on me, now that she is 18 and I am 21 (I will be 22 before she turns 19) my other boss has been has been pressuring me to take her on a date, as friends; so they would like to think. Like any other workplace, gossip travels faster than anything I can ponder at the moment and within days the entire store brings up the situation whenever possible.
After talking to my boss, she recommended that I take her on a date. I reluctantly agreed but did not disclose when I would take her out. For added information I work third shift on a full time basis because it pays well and all I need to do is clean all night. So without really using my opinion this girl, who may I mention is 18 and does not have her license, plans the date for this past Sunday, basically giving less than a weeks notice. The next day I talked to a co-worker and a good friend of mine and I told him that I did not believe I would be in any condition to take her out on Sunday, especially seeing how I would only be getting 4-5 hours of sleep after working my shift. The following day I told the girl that it'd be easier to do it when we both have prolonged time off so I can sleep and be in better condition to go out. With her going to California for 2 weeks, I mentioned that after she gets back in August it'd be much easier. She disagreed but in a jokingly way so I played it off.
So Sunday morning comes and I am wiped after a long night of work and a lack of sleep the following night and tell her that the Sunday she planned would not be a good idea because I didn't feel well nor had I gotten sleep in awhile so I would need my only day off in awhile to sleep. She told me it was fine and we'd do it another time. So I was on my bike ride this morning and I usually pass by my work and I went to go grab a water and my boss came up to me and angrily told me that postponing "our date" was stupid and that "I better not break her heart" and to add to the fire the girl's mother, and as mentioned earlier my "bigger boss" was there, who is usually very open to talk to me and friendly with me, chose not to talk to me at all while I was there.
To conclude, my boss is basically ticked off at me because she is taking it that I am going to break this girlís heart when I have been reluctant to the whole situation from the start. Other co-workers donít appear to be too happy either about the situation and what I have supposedly done. I donít want the situation to escalate to a relationship when she canít drive and I go back to college in about a month. The question to you all; is my boss and co-workers overreacting to the situation and drama and relationships truly donít belong in the workplace or is what I have done wrong? Thanks for your patience and help all. Time to go on another bike ride to relieve some stress before going into work .