Don't ask, take action and make the moves. Chics respond to that a lot more favorably than guys fumbling around and stuttering... "... uh. umm... ah..."
1. First, set the context for the moves, the situation has to be right or else she won't go for it. That is... she has to be "attracted" to you first, then you make that kiss, or else it'll feel weird to her and she'll just want to be "friends". So.. how to turn on the attraction? Be the man, chics dig guys who are funny, confident, sure of themselves, challenging, attentive and responsive, etc. So... keep on hanging out with her, but have the attitude like she's your bratty little sister. You're doing HER
a favor by hanging out with her. Tease her, joke around, make her laugh. Then take it away, don't talk to her for 2-3 days, make her beg for more. Every once in a while, lock eyes with her a fraction of a second longer than normal... etc.
2. Find out what she wants, talk fantasies with her about her ideal life, her ideal mate, dreams, desires, etc. Have her close her eyes and imagine the future, what does it look like, etc. Be honest with yourself as to whether you can give her what she wants in a relationship. If not, don't bother, you'll be doing her and yourself a disservice if it's not a compatible match. Again, this process will turn up the "attraction" as she'd be dreaming about her fantasies and when she opens her eyes, she'll be seeing you right in front of her. Pull away for a couple days, make sure your life is in order and things are taken care of like school, grades, bills, work, etc.
3. Test the waters. It's a dance, two steps forward, one step back, two steps forward, one step back, etc. Chics don't like guys that come on too strong... they like to be teased, have the heat turned up slowly until they're baking and can't resist any more. Go play, shopping, watch movies, ride bikes, but make it count. Find something that's really unique and wonderful about her and compliment her on it (look up why that's different than flattery). Then take a step back.. Hold her hands while crossing the street or walking through a crowd.. hang onto it a little too long... then throw it off... , look at your hand like she put grease on it, wipe it off on your shirt, smirk at her... (one step back)
Do it again later, she'll probalby hang on longer herself... two steps forward, one step back, etc.. back and forth, back and forth, etc...
4. To do the 1st kiss, chics always seem to want it to be a surprize, yet ultimately perfect as well. So you set up the situtation, someplace quiet, intimate, but not too suffocatingly close. Quiet dark corner of bar, cozy couch, etc. The right foods, the right music, wine/champagne/etc. Test her readiness by reaching out and stroking her hair near and little lower than her ears (she knows what that means, at least subconciously). See how she responds (don't pat her on the head, that's for dogs
). If she brushes your hand off, it's not a "no", but more of a "I'm not ready yet", take a step back, get more intimacy first. Rapport is just as important as humor. You know you've got it when she says, "Yeah, that's exactly how I feel"
, it could even be about breakfast cereals; you want to make that connection. You might even need to take two steps back and continue another day. Look up fishing metaphors...
Go back to stroking her hair, testing for readiness. She'll respond with her eyes, her jaw jutting towards you, her lips parting ever so moistly, she may cock her head sideways a little and rest it on your hand. Caress her soft cheek just ahead of her ear with your thumb. Stroke it ever so lightly and run your fingers below her ear and run it through her hair behind it. Cup the back of her head in your and and massage the back of her neck lightly with your fingers. "Hmmm..."
she closes her eyes and smiles and she gives you THE LOOK! YES! We're going in! Gently and tentatively pull her head towards you as you move closer, don't be scared or she'll pick it up and the moment will be ruined. You need to have that confident at all times...
If she's a flayer, you need to keep her on her toes. When you're 2-3 inches away, pause, look into her eyes, see her anticipation, her uncertainty, her anxiety, her burning desire. Then turn away with smirk, a little snicker, and motion to the bartender for a drink... look back at her with a knowing grin... heh, heh (two steps foward, one step back...)
There's a reason chics dig guys who can dance, who has rhythm, who knows how to feel a woman's body, to sense where she's at, what she wants, who knows how to lead her, how to respond to her response to his lead, someone who's flexible and resourceful, who can read her feelings and intentions, etc. Go back to chit-chat, build more rapport and intimacy, each time you pull back and pull in, pull back, pull forward, you'll draw her deeper, closer, it's that "connectedness" feeling that they so desire. Finally, put her out of her misery and kiss her already! Although most of the time by this point, they'll have thrown themselves at you anyway.
Good luck & have fun!