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    turning down money

    My family and I own a restaurant, dont assume too quick, for now it just means more bills till years of hard work pays off.
    I just got a call, my family had a meeting I couldnt attend to because of engaments I had.
    They want me to step down from general manager to take over all banquets, in my world.. that means more then a full time job and about triple the pay. Which should be good news, withought hesitation I said "no thank you"
    Im not weathly, Im comfortable. Of course the thought of making more money ( way more)sounds appealing, but to what extent?
    The way my life is now, I can take good care of my kids and have time for them.( and they will be gone before I know it)
    I can train and race.
    I have a roof over my head and food on the table.
    Im happy and well balanced between making time for work and making time for life and no money can buy that.
    If I had accepted I would be very well off money wise but that cant buy how i feel to be able to be home after school for my kids or how I feel when Im fortunate enough to be outside doing the things I love.
    My family thinks I'm making the biggest mistake.... I, in the other hand, feel like I finally understand what life should be about.

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    Mo' money, mo' problems.

    I did similar a couple years ago while in college. I quit my good paying job with full benefits, 401k, etc. and took up a part time minimum wage job on campus. I instantly took a 75% pay cut. I just got tired of working 40 hours a week, taking 15 units and trying to have a life outside of work and school.
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    I just took a new job at less pay...sometimes we make decisions based on quality of life, not money.
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    Way to go BDG!! I think you made the right decision.
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    time is more valuable than money.
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    I know what you mean. If I had stuck with heating and cooling I could have made 6 figures. Problem was I hated HVAC work. Sometimes its not worth it.
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    Quality of life is what it's all about. Of course, you may re-think your decision when it comes time to buy some ultra-expensive bike parts...
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    I hear you loud and clear BDG. I could bust my hump and go into management, but I'm kind of comfortable with where I'm at for now work-wise. Maybe in a couple years, it will get old and I'll need to move on to another role, but I'm not going to kill myself until after my youngest is out of High School.
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    Quote Originally Posted by blonduathlongrl
    My family thinks I'm making the biggest mistake.... I, in the other hand, feel like I finally understand what life should be about.
    + eleventybillion!

    Every time I get close to a client, they try to hire me. It's usually the same sort of situation you've described - two to three times the money, but it would either mean moving to a city (yuck), or working a ton more hours (double yuck!)

    To this day, I've managed to refuse. I have a roof over my head and an enjoyable lifestyle. I'd take that any day over a huge house with a garage full of sportscars that I never drive because I'm working 24/7.
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    Glad to hear that you found that happy medium BDG. I agree its not money in the end that will make you happy, (just ask all those lottery winners whom are now poor). Learning that your family and your work is a balance and that you choose to be with family. Your children will appericate you for this one day.
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    I left a job about 5 years ago in which I made almost twice what I make now. The hours were pretty much the same but the stress level was at least double. I love what I do now and am waaaaaaaaayyyy happier. Money isn't everything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jyossarian
    Quality of life is what it's all about. Of course, you may re-think your decision when it comes time to buy some ultra-expensive bike parts...
    I think about this in times like today for example.. i want a new set of wheels whom I'm afraid are more money than my bike, it would be nice to be able to just walk to the store and buy them, but I can't.
    But here's the difference.. how would I feel about getting them if all I had to do was say" I want that", and poof, i can get it. And how will I feel when I save and slowly work my way to earning them. Sometimes it's also nice to not be able to affort things right away, it makes you appreciate getting them even more.
    How much money is too much? what if you had so much that everything became in your reach, then what would I dream about? or long for?
    Id rather save loose change and get excited at the extra at the end of the year.

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    "Happiness is not about having more, but about desiring less"
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    Quote Originally Posted by blonduathlongrl
    My family and I own a restaurant, dont assume too quick, for now it just means more bills till years of hard work pays off.
    I just got a call, my family had a meeting I couldnt attend to because of engaments I had.
    They want me to step down from general manager to take over all banquets, in my world.. that means more then a full time job and about triple the pay. Which should be good news, withought hesitation I said "no thank you"
    Im not weathly, Im comfortable. Of course the thought of making more money ( way more)sounds appealing, but to what extent?
    The way my life is now, I can take good care of my kids and have time for them.( and they will be gone before I know it)
    I can train and race.
    I have a roof over my head and food on the table.
    Im happy and well balanced between making time for work and making time for life and no money can buy that.
    If I had accepted I would be very well off money wise but that cant buy how i feel to be able to be home after school for my kids or how I feel when Im fortunate enough to be outside doing the things I love.
    My family thinks I'm making the biggest mistake.... I, in the other hand, feel like I finally understand what life should be about.
    Its a mixed ting. My parents went through the same thing. But if she had stayed and kept making 100k a year their marriage would have been destroyed.
    Its always important to know what is important in your life and when to make sacrifices for the better and when you don't have to.
    Life is about hanging onto what you think is important and finding out what really is important.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Michigander
    I know what you mean. If I had stuck with heating and cooling I could have made 6 figures. Problem was I hated HVAC work. Sometimes its not worth it.
    Yeah, my friend does HVAC and makes a lot of money... Only problem is that his job takes up all his time and the job itself sucks...
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    I'm proud of you hon, ya did good.

    Would you like me to submit a resume for the banquet managers position

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    Seriously "triple the pay"? Take the job and hire an assistant.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cooker
    Seriously "triple the pay"? Take the job and hire an assistant.
    or, this is a good idea too...

    never thought of this...
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    Quote Originally Posted by blonduathlongrl
    My family and I own a restaurant, dont assume too quick, for now it just means more bills till years of hard work pays off.
    I just got a call, my family had a meeting I couldnt attend to because of engaments I had.
    They want me to step down from general manager to take over all banquets, in my world.. that means more then a full time job and about triple the pay. Which should be good news, withought hesitation I said "no thank you"
    Im not weathly, Im comfortable. Of course the thought of making more money ( way more)sounds appealing, but to what extent?
    The way my life is now, I can take good care of my kids and have time for them.( and they will be gone before I know it)
    I can train and race.
    I have a roof over my head and food on the table.
    Im happy and well balanced between making time for work and making time for life and no money can buy that.
    If I had accepted I would be very well off money wise but that cant buy how i feel to be able to be home after school for my kids or how I feel when Im fortunate enough to be outside doing the things I love.
    My family thinks I'm making the biggest mistake.... I, in the other hand, feel like I finally understand what life should be about.

    Food business is extremely diffiuclt and time consuming with multiple problems stresses and pressures everyday rather as a a food service customer, or a foodservice Rest where appeasment of customers is essentil all the way around the ring to make the money and stay profitabe.

    If you did take the job as Banquet Manager, you are right mutilpe hours more shift work, menu planning time, organization, employee staffing problems it goes on and on.
    This is not to say you don't have problems as the manager but they do multiple in banquets.

    I have been involved in the wholesale Food tribution end for 30 years, Salesman, Sales Manager, National Accounts Director, owner of a wholesale food distribution company that specialized in fresh Meat, poultry, and fresh seafood. Average hours worked were well over 70 hrs a week including week-ends.
    2 years ago I moved out of sales do to some health issues that came back to haunt me from when I was in the Military.
    Easier,less stress, less hours and I still live very comfortably.
    I believe you made a good choice I would give all the money back that I made through the years to have spent more time with my kids and live a better quality life.
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    Quote Originally Posted by blonduathlongrl
    The way my life is now, I can take good care of my kids and have time for them.( and they will be gone before I know it)
    If I had accepted I would be very well off money wise but that cant buy how i feel to be able to be home after school for my kids
    My compiments to you for thinking about your children's happiness and time spent with them. Money cannot buy this.

    Many mothers must work two or three jobs just to make ends meet and therefore cannot spend as much time with their children. I have a great admiration for your ethics and decision. Hooray for you!!
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    Just based on what I know of you and what you've written...I think you made the right call in saying "Thanks but no thanks." Money isn't everything. Quality of life and free time are more important in my opinion.

    I work to pay bills and have a life ..... Not my life is my work. What fun would that be!?
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    The best job in the world is when you go to work and it isn't work. ( you enjoy it ). I just took a step down myself. I didn't realise how much stress and work I had until there was less.

    You did good, BDG. Only YOU know what your needs are.
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    Money isn't everything! (anybody want to explain that to my ex ) I have been accused of: being lazy, uninspired, unmotivated, juvenile, imature and a few other unprintables. I will take quality of life over quanity of life anyday.

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    Once again i agree with you, if your life is great now then don't fix anything that is not broken. Money is not everything .

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    Quote Originally Posted by Siu Blue Wind
    The best job in the world is when you go to work and it isn't work. ( you enjoy it ). I just took a step down myself. I didn't realise how much stress and work I had until there was less.

    You did good, BDG. Only YOU know what your needs are.

    +1....right on.

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