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    To my stepdaughter:

    Dear V

    It's just a month a way from your fifteenth birthday! I can hardly believe
    it, we've known each other for six years already---five years as your stepdad.
    We've had something in common: you never had a father figure for the first
    ten years of your life, and my experience with raising children was limited
    to Father Knows Best reruns.

    The first two years were the toughest. How hard was it to share your Mom
    when you never had to before? "I hate you and I'll always hate you," (uttered
    in the quietest, steely-eyed Clint Eastwood delivery) made me shrink inside, yet
    somehow I never gave up. With the help of your mom and all the patience I
    could muster you gradually began to trust me.

    Together we began to find out about the biological father you never knew, who
    never even sent you a bithday card. You met siblings you had never known and
    even travelled to another state to be a bridesmaid for a half sister you had known
    for only a few months. You cried when you learned about the suicide of your
    father...you had long dreamed of someday meeting him and establishing a
    connection. Now it would never be possible.

    When you first said "I love you", I felt like I had won the Tour de Gruene: and
    you well know what that means. I'm not sure why fate brought me into your
    life but I do know I'm the luckiest stepdad in Texas.

    Whatever happens in our future you know I'll always be there for you---even if
    it's only changing the tire on you '98 Nissan.

    Love, Dad
    Im not familiar precisely with exactly what I said, but I stand by what I said whatever it was.

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    ok?

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    i was afraid to post anything, thought it might be rude or somthing but man, your the grattest dad ever.

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    Did you tell this to her?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pheard
    Did you tell this to her?
    Rehearsing. Thought about leaving a letter on her desk, but
    too impersonal. Sometimes girls still leave me tongue-tied!
    Im not familiar precisely with exactly what I said, but I stand by what I said whatever it was.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Poppaspoke
    Rehearsing. Thought about leaving a letter on her desk, but
    too impersonal. Sometimes girls still leave me tongue-tied!
    I think it will be appreciated either way. If you find yourself tongue-tied, I'd suggest just leaving it written out. Some people aren't the best speakers. She'll get the drift either way, and I'm sure it will be appreciated.

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    She's 15 and she has a car?

    BTW, good thing your her dad and not her biological father.
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    My dad wrote me a really sweet letter when I was 14 or 15. He left it tucked in a library book I was reading. It meant the world to me. Very nice!
    Last edited by MsVicki; 09-24-06 at 07:44 PM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jyossarian
    She's 15 and she has a car?

    BTW, good thing your her dad and not her biological father.
    The car is now our back up vehicle, but in due time she'll inherit
    it. Sunroof and standard transmission, it screams "My first car!"
    Im not familiar precisely with exactly what I said, but I stand by what I said whatever it was.

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    How incredibly sweet. Letters are wonderful, because you can pull them out and read them over and over again when you feel down and need to hear some kind words. You seem like a wonderful parent! I'm sure she's very lucky to have you in her life.

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    things like this make me wonder about leaving written messages to my step-children and my biological (sounds creepy) children. I sometimes wish my Dad had done something like that as we never really talked much. My family doesn't really talk much. I haven't written any such letters yet, but I have made it a point to hug my children daily and tell them I love them even though that kind of outward expression is sometimes difficult for me. It gets easier as the years go by. Still contemplating a letter for perhaps after I am gone.

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    Very nice. I think she'll cherish it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Poppaspoke
    Dear V

    It's just a month a way from your fifteenth birthday! I can hardly believe
    it, we've known each other for six years already---five years as your stepdad.
    We've had something in common: you never had a father figure for the first
    ten years of your life, and my experience with raising children was limited
    to Father Knows Best reruns.

    The first two years were the toughest. How hard was it to share your Mom
    when you never had to before? "I hate you and I'll always hate you," (uttered
    in the quietest, steely-eyed Clint Eastwood delivery) made me shrink inside, yet
    somehow I never gave up. With the help of your mom and all the patience I
    could muster you gradually began to trust me.

    Together we began to find out about the biological father you never knew, who
    never even sent you a bithday card. You met siblings you had never known and
    even travelled to another state to be a bridesmaid for a half sister you had known
    for only a few months. You cried when you learned about the suicide of your
    father...you had long dreamed of someday meeting him and establishing a
    connection. Now it would never be possible.

    When you first said "I love you", I felt like I had won the Tour de Gruene: and
    you well know what that means. I'm not sure why fate brought me into your
    life but I do know I'm the luckiest stepdad in Texas.

    Whatever happens in our future you know I'll always be there for you---even if
    it's only changing the tire on you '98 Nissan.

    Love, Dad
    CL MC k thx.
    Mes compaingnons cui j'amoie et cui j'aim,... Me di, chanson.

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