Well, I was half way broken up with just now. My girlfriend of 2.5 years, who I actually believe I loved, and loves me, has somewhat ended our relationship. She is unhappy with me now, because she says I am insensitive. And, often hurtful. Well, I never thought of myself that way. We are different people, very differnet. I always liked how we covered each others strengths/weakness's though. Nevertheless, she tells me she still loves me. She says that if I can fix my insensitiveness, lack of communication ability, we can be together again. Right now, I guess you could call it a separation.
So on Feb 17 (which would have been the 3 year mark), we will congregate. If we both still want to be together, and she feels I have indeed improved, she says we can be together again.
It's not necessarily what I THINK that hurts her. But, it is how I convey. She seems to interprete what I say in the most awful way sometimes, I must be pretty bad at communicating my feelings. She says that she will work on not interpreting things in such a horrid way, but right now she is miserable. I know, and she admits, that if she just knew what/how I was thinking, it would be okay.
With former people I have dated, I don't think I would have bothered. But, I am certainly going to bother this time. Going to make some attempts to be more sensitive, or at least, be more sensitive when I speak. But I just can't help but think it is a good amount her too. When I give my opinion about something, such as her family situations, she takes it as "This is what you must do" and argues about it, usually ending up with her crying. I try to stress that this is only my OPINION. Take what you want, chuck the rest.
Given that I am not a guy who falls for your typical highschool chick, I have a very difficult time believing that that would start in the interim. Ugh...
Any comments or suggestions to make this less of a sticky wicket?