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    staying friends with an ex

    so...how did that work out for ya?

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    Never did....Everytime we ended up back in bed and someone being hurt.

    These were long term relationships. The short term ones we usually never got beyond the "this is the fun period" so being friends with perks was never not a far stretch to friends without perks.

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    worked out good for me.
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    I stayed friends with several of my exes, until we lost touch for other reasons.

    Except for Crazy Mary. No point in even trying to stay friends with her.

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    nope...although i become friends with someone i intially started dating. we went out a few times, but nothing romantic was happening so we just migrated into friendship. since we are both in seperate relationships now the friendship has endured.

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    Depends...sometimes it works out well, othertimes it's a total trainwreck.

    The worst of it is when the ex starts dating some of your close friends, and you now get the weird sexual questions

    "Dude, about her...so how do you.."
    *GAAH SHUT THE SPORK UP, QUIT TALKING ABOUT MY EX'S GENITALS!**
    "but dude..."
    *but? but??....have you ever had to have a boot removed from your backside surgically?*
    "no..."
    *you're about to, unless you disonctinue this course of discussion, figure it out on your own, Capt Kirk...*


    ....those are the times that make me wonder if dating is actually some kind of twisted joke created millenia ago...
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    that's exactly why i only dated women outside my circle of friends. most of my good friends all did the same thing. we kept a tight circle amongst ourselves. friends that date other friends exs just doesn't sit well with me.

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    For the most part it does not work for me either. One of my exes and I can hang out for a weekend or so every couple of years. It takes a few days for us to remember that we broke up because we grate on each others' nerves.

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    No problems so far.

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    It dpends upon the person and the relationship. I have had several develope into good friends. If noboody really got hurt in the breakup and the other person does not try to make you jealous every time you seem them it can work.

    In my experience, the longer you have been apart the easier it is to be friends. Of course I have had more failures at friendships afterwards than success stories.
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    of my long-term relationships (3), only one I'd be cool with hanging out. Haven't spoken to her in a long time, but there's no animosity. The other two, well, let's just move on, shall we?

    I'm currently decent friends with one girl whom I dated for a little over a month. She's since become a neighbor and borrows my lawnmower and I watch her dog and crap. And she has a new guy that may be moving in with her soon. She's happy, I'm happy, it's all good. She's rare, though.

    I'd say on the whole, it just doesn't work out so well. Shrug.

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    Quote Originally Posted by edp773
    Of course I have had more failures at friendships afterwards than success stories.
    that means you're normal. these things are usually unsuccessful. it's worth a shot to try, but really people need to decide if it's worth it or not to stay friends. often times, it's just not worth it. a clean break is usually the best method IMO.

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    women usually hate me when I am done with them. My ex wife and I are on "friendly" terms, but there is a child involved, otherwise......I would hate her.

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    Mine are all in the box freezer downstairs.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SaabFan
    Mine are all in the box freezer downstairs.
    Speaking of which, when's the next chili cookoff?

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    Nope. She seems to have fallen off the face of the earth.
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    I stay friends with most of my ex's. One of my old ex's cut my hair for years and fixed me up with another of her friends. She also cut my wifes hair up until she moved to West Texas.. I met my wife through another old ex, and we still do stuff with her and her husband.
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    I've had some that worked and some that didn't.

    One of my best friends in this world is an ex. I'm great friends with her and her husband. They even made me god father for their 2nd child.
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    Quote Originally Posted by blonduathlongrl
    so...how did that work out for ya?
    I made an attempt to ask out a girl who i work with and still work with and it is a battle, worst decision i have made while working there.

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    I play scrabble with my exes and let them win. We're cool like that.

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    Better than slaying friends with an ax.

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    I have had 4, two of which had been serious relationships. And I'm working on a 5th ...grrrrr.
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    Quote Originally Posted by scottogo
    Better than slaying friends with an ax.
    that is a matter of opinion. Maybe that is why all my exes still want to stay friends with me. all but one that is!
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    For me, it seems to turn out based upon the circumstances of the relationship before the break-up. The ones that were great friends before we hooked up had a better chance of being friends afterwards. And the relationships where I broke things off first tended to have them still hang around, whereas when they broke things off, they disappeared.

    My mum once told me something along the lines of... "lovers will kill each other, but friends won't hurt you".

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    ehh, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt
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