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    I can't believe I just got dumped right before the holidays

    So the girl I've been seeing just tells me she's confused about her feelings, etc. and can't see me. Worse part is, she tells me that to me through an email. I kind of saw it coming though, she was only occasionally returning my calls lately. Thing is, up until about a week and a half ago, things seemed to be going great.

    Trying to seem cheerful and festive around everyone is going to be pretty tough, I'm really not looking forward to it now.

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    Hey guyz? Guyz? Wait up!! Siu Blue Wind's Avatar
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    Oh crap. You and me. Coffee. Now. We need to talk.
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    aww... that stinks!!!! wow... Im sorry!

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    Quote Originally Posted by nick burns
    So the girl I've been seeing just tells me she's confused about her feelings, etc. and can't see me. Worse part is, she tells me that to me through an email. I kind of saw it coming though, she was only occasionally returning my calls lately. Thing is, up until about a week and a half ago, things seemed to be going great.

    Trying to seem cheerful and festive around everyone is going to be pretty tough, I'm really not looking forward to it now.


    Ever watch "Cheaters"? That will give you your first clue.

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    End of a serious relationship or just a short fling? In either case stay positive.
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    That happened to one of my daughters a few years ago, just before christmas. She was a mess.
    Why isn't 11 pronounced onety one?

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    Take back her Christmas gifts.
    Why isn't 11 pronounced onety one?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nachoman
    End of a serious relationship or just a short fling? In either case stay positive.
    Friends for many years, just started getting closer recently.

    And, thanks, I'm trying.

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    Mind if I give her a call?

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    It always hurts and there is not really anything anyone can say to make
    it 'better', but I have found someone 'better' eventually comes along making
    you forget whatsthiername........As much as relationship ending stinks, the
    new beginning and all the cool stuff that goes with it is always something to
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    Hang in there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nick burns
    So the girl I've been seeing just tells me she's confused about her feelings, etc. and can't see me. Worse part is, she tells me that to me through an email. I kind of saw it coming though, she was only occasionally returning my calls lately. Thing is, up until about a week and a half ago, things seemed to be going great.

    Trying to seem cheerful and festive around everyone is going to be pretty tough, I'm really not looking forward to it now.
    how old are you two? HS/College/early-mid 20s/late 20s/30s?

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    Awww that sucks. ((HUGS))

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ritehsedad
    Take back her Christmas gifts.
    Right before the holidays? VERY popular time to dump someone, as it saves the 'dumper' from having to buy a gift & face the whole New Year's thing. Better you got dumped now, rather than after you gave her a nice gift! And, there's still plenty of time to get out & about & find that NY's date! Go buy yourself a nice present & feel better
    As with mud, life, too, slides by.

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    Yes! Good idea, ap!
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    I have no real idea of this woman's character. That said, breaking up through email? I think she unintentionally did you a big favor.

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    Gee, Splody. You have feelings?

    Saves you the humiliation of crying in front of her. If not cry, the hurt in your voice.
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    Quote Originally Posted by explody pup
    I have no real idea of this woman's character. That said, breaking up through email? I think she unintentionally did you a big favor.
    Yeah, that's the part that is really messed up. Not having the decency to confront me in person or at the very least by phone is pretty disappointing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Siu Blue Wind
    Gee, Splody. You have feelings?
    No. They were getting in the way.

    And I think you're part right, Siu. Except, I think she was more concerned with saving herself from her own pain than his.

    Anyway, nick, sorry. This is a ****ty time and way to break up. Keep that in mind when you think about her. Also, keep in mind that you have 2 big fun holidays to look forward to. Don't let this stop you from making the most of them.

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    she obviously wasnt worth being this upset about if she did this to you. you may not see it that way now...but you will.
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    Is there ever a good time to get dumped?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jerseysbest
    Is there ever a good time to get dumped?
    Right before her birthday. Or at least before you buy the present.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nick burns
    Yeah, that's the part that is really messed up. Not having the decency to confront me in person or at the very least by phone is pretty disappointing.
    I'm with EP on this one. Sounds like a passive-aggressive behavior, and communication would have been a recurring issue if the relationship had continued. It would have been worse if the relationship continued and she was too timid to tell you how she really felt about things. Sounds like her issue, not hers.

    Sorry your feelings got hurt Nick. Chalk this one up to experience, learn from it, move on and be happy.
    The search for inner peace continues...

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    Quote Originally Posted by botto
    how old are you two? HS/College/early-mid 20s/late 20s/30s?
    Nick burns is 41.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nick burns
    Yeah, that's the part that is really messed up. Not having the decency to confront me in person or at the very least by phone is pretty disappointing.
    you know why right?
    that's guilt, not being able to tell you face to face indicates she knew she was being a little ****, the girl is a coward! a coward I say! tell her to meet me out back!

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    Quote Originally Posted by nick burns
    So the girl I've been seeing just tells me she's confused about her feelings, etc. and can't see me. Worse part is, she tells me that to me through an email. I kind of saw it coming though, she was only occasionally returning my calls lately. Thing is, up until about a week and a half ago, things seemed to be going great.

    Trying to seem cheerful and festive around everyone is going to be pretty tough, I'm really not looking forward to it now.
    Sorry to hear! Some people can just be A-holes! Rise above, the best form of revenge is to live well!
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