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Old 01-05-07, 07:49 PM   #1
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Asking her dad first

How exactly does one ask a young lady's father for his blessing?

It's more complicated because they're 150 miles away and I have no car. Is phone OK? Mail (USPS, not electronic of course)? A personal visit?

Do I need to send them a pie?
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Don't ask. Tell. Now send me the pie.
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How exactly does one ask a young lady's father for his blessing?

It's more complicated because they're 150 miles away and I have no car. Is phone OK? Mail (USPS, not electronic of course)? A personal visit?

Do I need to send them a pie?
Ride your bike over there and show up in the most incredibly eye searing combination of Pinstripes and check pattern cycling togs and ask!
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Send me the pie, send them an email stating:

I knocked up your kid, gonna marry her, no shotguns required, I'll send you the bill for the wedding...maybe even an invitation.
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If you have to ask about how to do this, you're not at the point where you should even be considering it... I've found it's better to hit up mum first, she usually opens up easier and quicker to the prospects. In fact some of the chics have been jealous at how much their mothers like me. Send mum a card on her daughter's B-day saying something sappy like,
"Thank you for giving birth to such a wonderful person on this day."

Then mum will soften up the dad for you...
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How exactly does one ask a young lady's father for his blessing?

It's more complicated because they're 150 miles away and I have no car. Is phone OK? Mail (USPS, not electronic of course)? A personal visit?

Do I need to send them a pie?
what's with everyone getting married? it's not even spring yet!
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She can tell the parents.
I agree.
I don't think you need to ask her parents first. It's about you and her
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I sent him a letter from Guam while overseas, he wrote back and said he approved and a few more years would be a fine time. I then called my HER and asked her long distance (two different time zones). She said yes before I asked her. :0)
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what's with everyone getting married? it's not even spring yet!
she won't let me past 2nd without a ring


I want to ask her dad first because I think she would appreciate it. I already have my "too damn bad" speech ready if he says no, which I can't imagine since her family likes me more than they like her anyway
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she won't let me past 2nd without a ring


I want to ask her dad first because I think she would appreciate it. I already have my "too damn bad" speech ready if he says no, which I can't imagine since her family likes me more than they like her anyway

yikes...move on buddy...it ain't worth marriage...there are plenty of ladies that will let you past 2nd...haha...i've found quite a few and i didn't have to get married...haha
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I think that's a bad reason to get married, but that's just me.
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that's what i was trying to get at...
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I think that's a bad reason to get married, but that's just me.
It would be. I was just kidding. I was hoping 3 s would turn into a , but you can't win em all.

Our physical relationship is private, but rest assured we are both happy with where it is.
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I think that's a bad reason to get married, but that's just me.
Is there ever a good reason to get married???
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It's funny as long as it's a joke. What's sad is that there are actually guys that will do this for real.
The only reason to do that is if you couldn't get one of the promiscuous hot girls.

With a body like mine, it's all choice.
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I heard someone say once that the only reason to get married was to have someone to take you to the hospital when you couldn't yourself.....thought that was funny
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Do I need to send them a pie?
Yes a pie would be a good dowry.

If you want to do the old fashioned way of asking her father for his daughter's hand in marriage, you should do it in person.
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I think asking for a parent's permission or for good blessing is old fashioned and outdated. Some people might be impressed with that, but I sure wouldn't. Let her talk to them herself. That whole ritual of getting a parent's permission for his daughter is just swimming in negativity to me. Why does someone need to ask permission? It might seem like a nice gesture, but the way I see it is that the woman is being seen as property who can't handle talking to her parents on her own. No one needs anyone's blessing before you ask her first. Her parents don't own her. She is, or should be an independent being capable of independent thought. She can talk to her parents about it. Ask her first.

Sorry about that little rant.
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I think asking for a parent's permission or for good blessing is old fashioned and outdated. Some people might be impressed with that, but I sure wouldn't. Let her talk to them herself. That whole ritual of getting a parent's permission for his daughter is just swimming in negativity to me. Why does someone need to ask permission? It might seem like a nice gesture, but the way I see it is that the woman is being seen as property who can't handle talking to her parents on her own. No one needs anyone's blessing before you ask her first. Her parents don't own her. She is, or should be an independent being capable of independent thought. She can talk to her parents about it. Ask her first.

Sorry about that little rant.
On that note...Shadiyah....will you marry me?!? haha
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not necessary, IMHO. her parent's don't "own" her, so there's no need to ask if you can "have" her for a few dozen years.
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On that note...Shadiyah....will you marry me?!? haha

Huh? What? What was your name again? You haven't been talking to my dad, have you?
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can't say that i have....oh well...
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I think asking for a parent's permission or for good blessing is old fashioned and outdated. Some people might be impressed with that, but I sure wouldn't. Let her talk to them herself. That whole ritual of getting a parent's permission for his daughter is just swimming in negativity to me. Why does someone need to ask permission? It might seem like a nice gesture, but the way I see it is that the woman is being seen as property who can't handle talking to her parents on her own. No one needs anyone's blessing before you ask her first. Her parents don't own her. She is, or should be an independent being capable of independent thought. She can talk to her parents about it. Ask her first.

Sorry about that little rant.
sounds like someone ordered the feminachos with a side of guacaholymole.

We have talked about it - she would like me to ask her dad. Being strong, independent, and free-willed has nothing to do with appreciating tradition.

Besides, as somebody has mentioned, though I'm not sure it was in this thread (might be in the one about proposing), in a situation like this where both parties are very close to their families, you are uniting more than just two people - I believe it's respectful and polite to do my part to earn the right to one day call her dad "dad".
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feminacho? Meh, its just my opinion.
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feminacho? Meh, its just my opinion.
It's understandable. Just been too long since I've used "guacaholymole".
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Well I do love avocados. Seriously though, if you've both discussed it and think its cool go for it.
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