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    To be or not to be... a gentleman?

    Sort of a morning rant from an incident that just happened...

    I walk in the front door and a lady is walking close behind me. So, as a gentleman, I hold the door open for her. She thanks me and we go on to the elevators. The elevator comes and I let her and the others go in first and see an older lady in her commuter cycling gear walking up so I hold the elevator door for her. More than just being a gentleman I do it out of common courtesy. I would have done the same for anyone, man, woman, child...

    But as she gets on she rants: Come on...!! this ain't The 1950's, it's 2007... I don't say anything cuz I'm trying to get my security badge into the slot to select the 2nd floor. But as I leave it hits me what she just said. WTF!?!?!

    When did it become passe to be a gentlman or to just be courteous? I don't care what year it is!

    But I'm the guy that still opens the car door for his wife...

    That seems to be a big problem nowadays, the lack of common courtesy in this country.

    What are your thoughts?
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    I agree with you. I'm really happy that my boyfriend still opens the car door for me.

    Too bad she just couldn't be happy that someone was just being nice and respectful
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    Don't change - much.

    I'd be tempted to say "good morning sir.", or "good morning fellow earthling", or something the next time holding the door for her. Sounds like she's the one with the attitude here.
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    I would have said - next time you hold it for me unless going from 1950 to 2007 just means we are all rude to each other. Surely you didn't think I did it because you are a woman? After all, it IS 2007 you know...

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    Next time, kick her in the nuts!

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    OMG!! You committed common courtesy & got dissed for your effort. I would have invited that commuter cyclist clad person to get out and be PC while waiting for the next elevator, and apologized profusely to her for placing courtesy above PC!
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    This world needs more gentlemen and common courtesy.
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    I hold the door all the time. What annoys me is I hold the door for women at my son's school and they walk in and take a place ahead of me in line to sign out their kids. If you hold the door, should you not at least get the place you deserved in line if you were rude? Same holds true at fast food places, or the bank.
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    I had something similiar one time, I had held the door open for a lady, she turns round and has ago at me for doing it.

    So I told her to B**w me, and said if you want to behave like a B***h I will treat you like one.

    Turned around and got a round of appluase from the people waiting for the evelator.

    I will always hold a door open, I was taught to do so.

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    No good deed goes unpunished, but there ain't no excuse for bad manners.
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    wow, you did nothing wrong!
    I love a gentlemen!
    it's more rare these days but whenever a men opens a door for me at a store and such, i always mile and say thank you soo much!
    I sure wouldnt of told you off!

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    1. Tell that dried up old crone to jump in front of a train.

    2. "Common courtesy" is an oxymoron.

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    The Birkenhead Drill is always women and children first. The door is held because YOU are a gentleman not because she is a lady. I wonder if she were on a sinking ship and was put on a lifeboat first if she would make such a comment.

    Remember that you can only control your behavior. You were civil and she was a jerk. It happens.
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    I'm a door-holder as well....even for other guys. If someone is right behind me or otherwise, I hold the door for them, it's just good manners.
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    Nothing personal to any ladies here....because I don't mean this as a general accusation of women, just the few that spoil it for the rest.

    The women that annoy with that stuff the most are the "fair weather women libbers". The women who constantly spew rhetoric about women not being treated equally, but then turn around at the drop of the hat and bat eye lashes to ask you to pick up something heavy or do something for them that is "unwomanly".

    These women make men not want to act like a gentleman most times.
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    All that being said....I'm with Cat. I'm typically a door holder and all that too.
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    Just shrug at her, and keep being yourself. No need to teach her any kind of lesson. Everyone on that elevator now knows which of you is the one with manners and maturity.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KingTermite
    Nothing personal to any ladies here....because I don't mean this as a general accusation of women, just the few that spoil it for the rest.

    The women that annoy with that stuff the most are the "fair weather women libbers". The women who constantly spew rhetoric about women not being treated equally, but then turn around at the drop of the hat and bat eye lashes to ask you to pick up something heavy or do something for them that is "unwomanly".

    These women make men not want to act like a gentleman most times.
    Nah, these types of people don't make me want to change myself. I'd like to think I'm a gentlemen, yes I am a goofball, and immature or whatever. But I always try to hold a door open. In fact usually I do it male or female, it's just a nice thing to do. When someone's right behind you, how selfish is it to open the door and let it close in their face?

    Don't worry about the few who don't appreciate it, be yourself. Me gentlemen like if that's who you are. Not a big deal. Ignore it if someone gives you a hard time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PATH
    The Birkenhead Drill is always women and children first. The door is held because YOU are a gentleman not because she is a lady.
    EXACTLY! My response to the femi-nazis is always, "Just because you're not a lady, doesn't mean I can't be a gentleman..."...

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    That was a perfect chance to yell 'psych!' and slam the door

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    Punch her in the mouth next time then tell her it's 2007.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gee3
    When did it become passe to be a gentlman or to just be courteous? I don't care what year it is!
    It didn't become passe. She's just a curmudgeonly feminist. Next time something like that happens, push her out of the elevator or door you just held for her, and slam the door or quickly press the elevator door close button while making some kind of derogatory comment.

    Honestly, I would have replied with something along the lines of "Oh ****! I must have overslept!"
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    Same here, I always hold doors open for anyone man, woman or child.

    I would have looked at her and said,"I think the word you are looking for is thank you."
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    Wow, she sounds extremely rude/and/or/beotchy. I think its just good manners to hold the door or elevator for anyone...male or female.

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