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Old 03-12-07, 05:44 AM   #1
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Marissa Miller or...

I've got a really big problem here. I have a friend who I swear looks just like Marissa Miller! No joke. I mean everything, same eyes, face, hair, except for my friend is not as well-endowed up top. Everything else is spot on. So, here is my dilemna. For the past couple years while I fantasized about her from a distance, she was always attached to some big, burly, knucklehead. I'm not gonna lie. I've been to the bathroom & back.

Anyway, I have been getting some serious body language vibes recently that she is interested in me. Perhaps, not as a long-term deal since she already has a boyfriend, but I am sure that I'd at least have 1 night with her. The thought of that makes my heart skip a beat. Now the problemo. I am committed. I am totally not the type to cheat. I don't really know what to do. I can't sleep. This is literally a once in a lifetime opportunity. What to do?

This is a pic of the real Marissa which really isn't far off from my "suddenly interested in me" friend.
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Old 03-12-07, 05:53 AM   #2
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Take that enthusiastic dream and bang the hell out of your beloved. <serious Vega look>

Honestly, would foolin' around with Marissa-girl be worth jeapordizing your current relationship? If "meh," bang Marissa-girl, but let current "commitment" know about it so that she can leave this relationship with some dignity, if she doesn't choose to be a third wheel for some strange reason.

If not, then love your gal all the more.

Did you really have to ask us about this, BWM? <concerned Vega look>

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Don't do it man. You alreay answered your own question "you're committed".
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Temptation happens man, get over it.

Since you are committed, then you really shouldn't be doing anything more than looking. If you think she's worth screwing up your current relationship then go ahead, but keep in mind that such an action would pretty much assure that you never can get very serious with her.
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I can't help it. I just can't. I love my girl sooooooo much, but my suddenly interested tall blonde friend has been very flirtatious with me recently. The last time we went to go hang out at Happy Hour over a couple of drinks she put her hand on my knee and was giving me that "i want you" look. I swear. Nothing happened, but I'm really afraid I'm getting in too deep. I just don't have the courage to tell her no to all her advances. Sigh.....
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Old 03-12-07, 06:18 AM   #6
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Sometimes a really hot person (won't say woman, cause men do it too) will put out some serious flirt vibe with no intention of following through. Maybe she's not getting all the attention she wants at home, maybe it's ego gratification or maybe she's just goofing off. Who cares? Just sit back, enjoy the show, but don't do anything about it.
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I can understand your confusion, BWM. "Loving" someone at your age is still a difficult concept. The hormones still rage. I suggest that, if you are very committed to your "girl" (who, may in fact, actually be a WOMAN), you limit your HH excursions without her presence. Either have her join you, or get your @ss home to her. Forget MM.

That being said, if you're still not yet sure what "love" is, then go for the "MM hot night." But do respect the gal who thinks you're tops enough to tell her that you don't think she's all that. Dig?

And if that's too much to handle, talk with Danno about how to be a successful playa, and quit hurtin' the gals who take being your "girlfriend" seriously.

Meh, well, you asked us, didn't ya?
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Werd... But you're gonna do what the little head says regardles. Trust its judgement.

If it errs in the cheatin' way learn a lesson from the fallout so that when you say "I do" you have it out of your system and your not tempted again.
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I can understand your confusion, BWM. "Loving" someone at your age is still a difficult concept. The hormones still rage. I suggest that, if you are very committed to your "girl" (who, may in fact, actually be a WOMAN), you limit your HH excursions without her presence. Either have her join you, or get your @ss home to her. Forget MM.

I don't understand. I'm definitely not a playa and not that jerky-boy type of guy. I am actually a good guy and faithful. I haven't even done anything yet. I mean, all that's happened is a little flirting over some drinks. It's not like I've gone out to dinner with the other girl. No way I can tell my girlfriend about this. She would be pissed!!! Seriously. I know she would take a swing at me if she knew what was going on (which is not a whole lot). And what do you mean, have my girlfriend join us? Have my girlfriend join my Marissa look-a-like friend and myself at Happy Hour?! Oh dear god. That would be a cat fight waiting to happen, not to mention the screaming and punching my girlfriend would do to me.

OK, so here's the deal. I can't stop thinking about this other girl. And she is my friend. I'm just going to have to talk to her and tell her that I cannot get her out of my mind and my fantasies with her are driving me nuts. Of course, I will have to tell her that it can't go any further than that. I will see her again soon. I hope this works out.
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Have my girlfriend join my Marissa look-a-like friend and myself at Happy Hour?! Oh dear god. That would be a cat fight waiting to happen, not to mention the screaming and punching my girlfriend would do to me.

OK, so here's the deal. I can't stop thinking about this other girl. And she is my friend. I'm just going to have to talk to her and tell her that I cannot get her out of my mind and my fantasies with her are driving me nuts. Of course, I will have to tell her that it can't go any further than that. I will see her again soon. I hope this works out.
Hm.... Sounds like you already know the score here.

As far as your second paragraph, why tell MM anything unless you're hoping she feels the same way?

You are so not ready for a steady relationship. And, there's nothing wrong with that BWM. Just be honest with yourself, and with your "girlfriend." In a few years, when you are looking to be more "settled," you'll find the right woman. <dead-serious and straight-up Vega look>
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Old 03-12-07, 07:03 AM   #11
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I don't understand. I'm definitely not a playa and not that jerky-boy type of guy. I am actually a good guy and faithful. I haven't even done anything yet. I mean, all that's happened is a little flirting over some drinks. It's not like I've gone out to dinner with the other girl. No way I can tell my girlfriend about this. She would be pissed!!! Seriously. I know she would take a swing at me if she knew what was going on (which is not a whole lot). And what do you mean, have my girlfriend join us? Have my girlfriend join my Marissa look-a-like friend and myself at Happy Hour?! Oh dear god. That would be a cat fight waiting to happen, not to mention the screaming and punching my girlfriend would do to me.

OK, so here's the deal. I can't stop thinking about this other girl. And she is my friend. I'm just going to have to talk to her and tell her that I cannot get her out of my mind and my fantasies with her are driving me nuts. Of course, I will have to tell her that it can't go any further than that. I will see her again soon. I hope this works out.
Sounds like justification and the little head is gonna win.
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stay put in your relationship, fantasise about the other one. it's normal to be attracted to other people but to go and ruin what you have with someone you said you love soooooo much! not worth it.
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Lead her on then shut her down. There's nothing quite as sweet as playing with, then rejecting a woman who is used to getting what she wants based on her looks. It's food for the ego. Then dump your current girlfriend if what you're saying about her being pissed off at you not even cheating on her is true.

That is, of course, unless you can manage to pull a threesome out of this.
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Lead her on then shut her down. There's nothing quite as sweet as playing with, then rejecting a woman who is used to getting what she wants based on her looks.
Explody, man, this woman looks like Marisa Miller.

I suggest body painting as a fun social activity
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Explody, man, this woman looks like Marisa Miller.
Meh. With the lights out, every woman looks like Marisa Miller.
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I likes me Explody's advice.
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Meh. With the lights out, every woman looks like Marisa Miller.
You, my good man, are quite the discerning romeo, aren't you?
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Yes. He really should be working the threesome angle.
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Yes. He really should be working the threesome angle.
So it's all about the angles? Hmm... maybe that's what I've been ignoring.
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So it's all about the angles? Hmm... maybe that's what I've been ignoring.
Absolutely. Threesomes can be tricky. If you don't attack from the right vantage point, you could seriously pull a muscle.
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A man's mind can easily be infiltrated because we go by looks - a lot.

Get over it. Find an outlet like learning how to love your serious girl even more. There may be a reason you two are together. Don't destroy it by 5 minutes of pleasure.

And c'mon as it sounds you're really hot for this one. It'd be a two pump hump and she'd tell her gal pals what kind of wheeze you were. Then later she'd get all guilty and tell her gorilla boyfriend and hunt you down like a dog and beat you to an inch of your life.
So you'd get laughed at and beat up. Then lose the girl that loves you when she finds out as well. By then end you'd walk the streets looking for a bus to step in front of.
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A man's mind can easily be infiltrated because we go by looks - a lot.

Get over it. Find an outlet like learning how to love your serious girl even more. There may be a reason you two are together. Don't destroy it by 5 minutes of pleasure.

And c'mon as it sounds you're really hot for this one. It'd be a two pump hump and she'd tell her gal pals what kind of wheeze you were. Then later she'd get all guilty and tell her gorilla boyfriend and hunt you down like a dog and beat you to an inch of your life.
So you'd get laughed at and beat up. Then lose the girl that loves you when she finds out as well. By then end you'd walk the streets looking for a bus to step in front of.
Thanks, sub. I coudn't have said it better, though I tried, from a female POV.

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