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Old 03-20-07, 12:15 AM   #1
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What would you be willing to do?

What would you be willing to do for a good friend who was having a really hard time? Male, or female?

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Old 03-20-07, 12:24 AM   #2
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well, If I had a really good friend, then I would be willing to do whatever for whatever...
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Old 03-20-07, 12:28 AM   #3
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A hard time? Like how hard?

I help my really good friends out in any way I can.
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Old 03-20-07, 12:30 AM   #4
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Ah, dauph! The bold first poster to a nonsense thread.

Seriously, would one be there if the friend is sick? Had surgery? Was dying? Think of the various situations in which you'd be willing to lend a hand, and possibly, those in which you'd tend to shy away and hope someone else would help out.... No criticism, no faulting. Just curious. Y'all know me. <curious Vega look>
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sometimes you can help someone but not save them...or their soul...some folks are the way they are no matter what you do for them.
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Old 03-20-07, 12:41 AM   #6
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Depends on the person and situation. I had a close friend whos wife left him for another guy. Sad situation but he was in the dumps and stayed in the dumps for months and months and months. He started drinking to much. I took him out for a night of drinking. A ******** crazy night of drinking. I paid for every drink, every shot, I encouraged more shots and more shots on top of that. But I was drinking water mostly.

The next day he called to ask what the hell happened. I said sometimes the only person that can help you is you . As cruel as this sounds its what he needed the most. He quit drinking and pulled himself together. We are still best friends to this day.

Another time a friend at work was out of work for a kidney transplant. He was out of sick time so a bunch of us chipped in to pay his salery until he returned. I actually quit drinking and donated my beer money to his fund for 4 months .

Every case is different.
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I'm not British, but pissed seems like an excellent way to describe the way I feel.
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I believe the most important thing is to remember not to neglect your own well being. Whatever you are willing or capable of doing for a friend, you will need to take care of yourself if you want to be any good to others.
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Old 03-20-07, 12:43 AM   #9
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Listen, let them vent, but not enable them. Try to help them stand on their own feet.
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glenng, that's inspiring. Thanks for sharing that.


dauph, have another glass of pinot noir. <passin' the bottle>
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I believe the most important thing is to remember not neglect your own well being. Whatever you are willing or capable of doing for a friend, you will need to take care of yourself if you want to be any good to others.
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thank you vega...
I must retire at the the pumpkin hour.....
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I'd pretty much do anything that was within my ability for my friends. Resources such as money is no object. I'll give them what I can spare. If they're good for it, I'll even loan them larger amounts. Time is more crucial and I'll spent time with them as needed. Easy enough to invite them along on outings.

However, I won't do things that would harm my life too much. I won't sacrifice my own health & well-being in a large way. No need for both of us to die..
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Listen, let them vent, but not enable them. Try to help them stand on their own feet.
<note to self: Must wake up earlier>

Exactly my answer. We were give two ears and one mouth for a reason.
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Old 03-20-07, 05:55 AM   #15
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+1 to what Tom said, but when it's nut cuttin time, sometimes you gotta stand for your friends and an old Bryan Adams song comes to mind:

"I would fight for you - I'd lie for you
Walk the wire for you - ya I'd die for you"

In other words, you do what's gotta be done.
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What would you be willing to do for a good friend who was having a really hard time? Male, or female?

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Bake them a cheesecake. Pretty much anything else, too. I don't bother with mild friendships. I have very few and I take them seriously.

But first thing I'd do is bake a cheesecake.
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Old 03-20-07, 07:24 AM   #17
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I have only a few very good friends, but were any of them in need I would do anything that was not illegal* and did not compromise my principles**. I missed a chance many years ago to stop a friend from suicide, and I never want to make that mistake again.

* I might let minor infractions slip.
** Understand, I don't claim to be a perfect example of moral rectitude. But if, for an extreme example (and this has never happened) a married friend asked me to set him up with another woman, I would decline.
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Listen, let them vent, but not enable them. Try to help them stand on their own feet.
Very good. I wouldn't have thought of that.

When a friend, or any fellow human or most animals, needs something I'll do whaterver I can. And as far as jumping in or waiting I try to always look at it as if I'm the only one who can help. I believe that's why we were put here.
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For a really good friend I'd be willing to do pretty much anything. I am very loyal to my good friends.
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I'd take him to the emergency room because priapism is something to take serious.
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I'd pretty much do anything except the majorly illegal/immoral things. I'll save that for the blood relatives
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Old 03-20-07, 12:44 PM   #22
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i don't think i'd go out of my way for anyone to help them out
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Old 03-20-07, 12:55 PM   #23
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I'm good to my friends, perhaps too good sometimes. I have a hard time saying no. I'm very giving and never greedy when it comes to my friends.
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Old 03-20-07, 12:59 PM   #24
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I just took my friend to the emergency room yesterday from work. He was having what seemed to be a mild heart attack. But you never know so we erred on the side of caution and rushed him to the hospital anyway. Looks like it was a heart palpatation and not an attack. But he still has to undergo a stress test to really pinpoint the problem.

A long time ago I also accompanied a good friend to get an abortion since her "boyfriend" wasn't there. The doctors were doggin' me until they found out I was a friend and NOT the boyfriend that knocked her up. It was pretty sad and so was she.

On the other side of the spectrum I also accompanied a good friend to her breast augmentation. She needed someone to drop her off and pick her up afterwards.

I've also been told I am a very good listener, specifically by a good female friend. She'd call her life a "Novela" because she always had some sort of drama in her life. She would vent to me about life and the bad men in her life and I could do the same about my life and my wife. She finally met the "right" guy before I moved so I was leaving her in good hands.
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Depends on the person. I have loaned/given money, I have given a place for someone to stay for almost half a year. There have been many times I have done what just needed to be done.

There have also been times where I said the person couldn't be helped anymore, in fact a situation like that is coming up.
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