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    I have two single friends who would be great together. Should I play matchmaker?

    Two good friends who don't know each other since they live about 4 hours apart. They would be great together. Both are attractive and fun. Problem is, she is older by about 8 years though she doesn't act like it because she's a hoot. I don't know how he feels about older women (his ex was way too young for him). His age does not bother her. Both are looking for a lasting, meaningful relationship and are not having any luck.

    Should I set them up? Have you ever played matchmaker? How did it turn out for them and you?

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    Just get them in the same place at the same time....let the rest work if it works...


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    Just handle the introduction and that's it. Don't push for anything...

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    +1 on both. Sometimes being a good matchmaker is more about timing than planning.

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    Introduce them maybe and then let it be. You don't want to be the blame if anything goes wrong. And if it does work out you know they will both ditch you for each other, right? It happens all the time. The friends always get dumped for the romantic interest.
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    Throw a little houseparty for twenty guests with crudités, cheese platters, other light snacks, and drinks. Introduce them like this,

    "...Susan, this is my friend from work, Mike. Mike, this is my old college roommate, Susan. Susan, he just completed a century ride yesterday and I was telling him how you just purchased a custom Independent Fabrication titanium frameset with carbon fiber fork this week. Oh, shoot, my hors' doerves are burning! I gotta' run..."


    If there is anything there, nature will take its course.

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    Why ruin their happy lives by trying to force them into relationships?
    Truth is, or so it would seem to me, is that people who are looking for relationships, are really just looking for companionship and monogomous (sp?) sex, seriously, and not all the baggage that goes along with emotional relationships.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pj7
    monogamous sex
    good one.
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    NO, FOR GOD'S SAKE NOOOOO!@!!!!!!!!@#$w#$%%^^^&^&&

    My best friend is currently doing this with another good friend of hers who thinks we'd be perfect. It's a total turn-off.

    If there's attraction it will find its own way.

    Well-intentioned romanticising matchmaker buddinskis EFF OFF!

    Find a way to introduce them to each other sure, but people can smell an eager matchmaking attempt a mile off.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Blue Jays
    Throw a little houseparty for twenty guests with crudités, cheese platters, other light snacks, and drinks. Introduce them like this,

    "...Susan, this is my friend from work, Mike. Mike, this is my old college roommate, Susan. Susan, he just completed a century ride yesterday and I was telling him how you just purchased a custom Independent Fabrication titanium frameset with carbon fiber fork this week. Oh, shoot, my hors' doerves are burning! I gotta' run..."


    If there is anything there, nature will take its course.

    You've done this before.

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    Hi Bruce19-

    It's actually my introduction technique that I use at business functions, reunions, and general social gatherings...just slightly modified. A gracious host helps his/her party guests to have an enjoyable conversation, rather than saying, "Susan, this is Mike. Mike, this is Susan," and walking away to leave them fumbling & stumbling for words. The host has the advantage of knowing everyone at the party, so they can help kick-off the conversations among people whom might not know each other.

    Try this technique at your next party and people will rave to you about the event. All you're really doing is accelerating how quickly people become comfortable with each other, that's all...

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    Introduce them... yes of course. Play matchmaker...no. If they are going to hit it off, just introduce them and let nature take it';s course from there.
    Just Do It..

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    Danger Will Robinson!!!!!!
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    Oh Yes Just Send Them A Telegram Saying They've Won X Dollars And To Pick It Up At X Locaton At X Hour. Coordinate With Local Police Sting For Suspects Who Have Jumped Bail.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blue Jays
    It's actually my introduction technique that I use at business functions, reunions, and general social gatherings...just slightly modified. A gracious host helps his/her party guests to have an enjoyable conversation, rather than saying, "Susan, this is Mike. Mike, this is Susan," and walking away to leave them fumbling & stumbling for words. The host has the advantage of knowing everyone at the party, so they can help kick-off the conversations among people whom might not know each other.
    Try this technique at your next party and people will rave to you about the event. All you're really doing is accelerating how quickly people become comfortable with each other, that's all...
    That's almost exactly how the judge set up my incredible friendship with my parole officer!

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    They live four hours apart? That might be a bit of a commute, no?

    Unless one of them doesn't care for where he/she lives and wouldn't mind moving, down the road.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blue Jays
    Hi Bruce19-

    It's actually my introduction technique that I use at business functions, reunions, and general social gatherings...just slightly modified. A gracious host helps his/her party guests to have an enjoyable conversation, rather than saying, "Susan, this is Mike. Mike, this is Susan," and walking away to leave them fumbling & stumbling for words. The host has the advantage of knowing everyone at the party, so they can help kick-off the conversations among people whom might not know each other.

    Try this technique at your next party and people will rave to you about the event. All you're really doing is accelerating how quickly people become comfortable with each other, that's all...

    ~ Blue Jays ~
    remind me to never attend one of your "functions, reunions, and general social gatherings". then again, i doubt i'll be passing through Pleasantville any time soon.

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    Quote Originally Posted by botto
    remind me to never attend one of your "functions, reunions, and general social gatherings". then again, i doubt i'll be passing through Pleasantville any time soon.
    Sorry Blue Jays, you'll have to cross Mr. Sunshine off the list for this weekend's party.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Second Mouse
    Sorry Blue Jays, you'll have to cross Mr. Sunshine off the list for this weekend's party.
    pretty please.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blue Jays
    Hi Bruce19-

    It's actually my introduction technique that I use at business functions, reunions, and general social gatherings...just slightly modified. A gracious host helps his/her party guests to have an enjoyable conversation, rather than saying, "Susan, this is Mike. Mike, this is Susan," and walking away to leave them fumbling & stumbling for words. The host has the advantage of knowing everyone at the party, so they can help kick-off the conversations among people whom might not know each other.

    Try this technique at your next party and people will rave to you about the event. All you're really doing is accelerating how quickly people become comfortable with each other, that's all...

    ~ Blue Jays ~
    I'd rather not be raved to.

    I suppose it could work, but there's a lot of potential for disaster if the host makes any errors.

    OP - Even if you do just introduce them, if either one of them is on to what you're doing when it happens, it could be doomed - and one or both of the friendships with it.
    The search for inner peace continues...

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    Hi USAZorro-

    A host error such as what? You're simply introducing two people whom you know at a party you're hosting. The technique is the same whether it's business contacts or friends. A courteous host gives people unfamiliar with each other common ground on which to have a discussion. It's just good manners, nothing more, nothing less.

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    Hi botto-

    Stick with me and I'll have you all polished and proper in no time quick!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blue Jays
    Hi botto-

    Stick with me and I'll have you all polished and proper in no time quick!

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    No thanks. I have no interest in becoming a pedantic robot.

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