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    Do you discipline your kids for poor grades?

    Why, or why not? Or if you plan to be a parent, do you think you will?
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    No way... What do you mean by "poor"? I'd give them incentives for getting "good grades" instead.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DannoXYZ
    No way... What do you mean by "poor"? I'd give them incentives for getting "good grades" instead.
    I mean if your kid is not working up his ability level. If your kid should be getting A's and you know it, and is getting a D or even failing. Do you make a cut off point like, grounded if your grade is below a C-? That type of thing.
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    In elementary school, our principle used to whack my rear end with his bare hand in front of the class after reading aloud our report cards. I still got bad grades....in fact, I flunked 5th grade.
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    Discipline? As in punishment?

    For poor grades, I'd expect to take some privileges away, such as TV or video game time.

    I'm not a fan of $$$ or prizes for grades. "$20 for an A" or whatever. Good grades should be expected, not bargained for by parents.

    BTW, I was too scared of disappointing my parents to get anything below a B. And I was competitive with other kids for good grades, so my parents rarely had to hound me about studying or bad grades.

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    My son is only in kindergarten, so no real grades yet. However, when the teacher informs us of bad behaviour on the part of our child, we try to get both sides of the story and discipline appropriately. For instance, if he is disruptive in class, and he tells us it was because he was tired, he would go to bed early and he would have to apologize the his teacher the next day.

    If it is a situation where he is not getting his work done or seems to be below the teachers or shcools districts expectations, we meet with the teacher and find out what we as parents can do at home to help her do her job. This may involve more time reading together, or working on his writing skills or math skills, etc. Luckily, he seems to be doing quite well and is already reading above grade level.
    Once our kids advance to the point where they are getting graded for their work, we will come up with an accepted standard and reward for over standard performance and penalize for sub standard performance. By penalize, I assume we will limit priviledges, like TV/computer/gaming time, etc and increase study time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Fixer
    In elementary school, our principle used to whack my rear end with his bare hand in front of the class after reading aloud our report cards.
    As discipline or as a reward?

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    Never had to think about it. My only daughter might have made one B in her life. She's working on her Masters now. I don't know where she got it either. Bs were the upper end of the grades I got. And never very many of them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by explody pup
    As discipline or as a reward?
    you naawty little minx, you.

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    they know they disapoint me if the grade is not good and they hate that more then anything.
    They also know i will reward good grades, not only with stuff. we do special things that only they like for rewards and sometimes I will buy them something they have been talkig about for a while.
    it's been working fine for us.

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    I lock 'em in the closet for a week.
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Fixer
    In elementary school, our principle used to whack my rear end with his bare hand in front of the class after reading aloud our report cards. I still got bad grades....in fact, I flunked 5th grade.
    - i'll never forget getting royally spanked for forgetting my spelling book for class... except in our school, the principal administered the punishment using a flat paddle, drilled out with holes and wrapped in electrical tape...

    - didn't do much for my grades, IIRC, but i learned to stay out of the principal's office...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ritehsedad
    I lock 'em in the closet for a week.
    As discipline or as a reward?
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    I would rather take a 30 second taser jolt to the testicles once a week and every week for 30 years rather than have kids.
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    I also got spanked for forgetting to bring back some money I borrowed from the school office the day before for the trolly fare. He also made me write the word "money" on the blackboard a 1,000 times after school. I'm completely debt free today and I always pay my credit card bills in full each month.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Michigander
    I would rather take a 30 second taser jolt to the testicles once a week and every week for 30 years rather than have kids.
    Seems like a few weeks of this punishment would insure that you would never have kids or go nude in public.

    BTW, Mich, If you ever get to hold ld your own son for the first time, I think you might change your answer! Being a dad is HARD, harder than I could have ever imagined and I fail at some aspect of it every day, but it is so rewarding and fulfilling that I will never regret having kids.
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    Its a biological fact, after you have kids your brain gets rewired and your kid(s) become the most important thing in the world to you. I bet it feels nice, but somehow I think a CAV GT40 would be nicer.
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    If a parent is taking action after the grades are in they are not doing their job. The time for action is before exams, not after. Make sure homework is done and that the kid studies is the way to improvement. Not punishment after the fact.

    Now if the grades, or perhaps more exactly the teacher conference afterwards reveals that the kid has been lying about classwork and progress that could be a different story.

    Personally I think parents should try to make learning, if not fun, at least not a total bore. But kids should also learn that some classes and teachers just s*ck and that they still have to do well in htat situation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Michigander
    I would rather take a 30 second taser jolt to the testicles once a week and every week for 30 years rather than have kids.
    Again, as punishment or reward?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Michigander
    Its a biological fact, after you have kids your brain gets rewired and your kid(s) become the most important thing in the world to you. I bet it feels nice, but somehow I think a CAV GT40 would be nicer.
    Will it be able to change your diapers when you are an octagenarian?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Keith99
    If a parent is taking action after the grades are in they are not doing their job. The time for action is before exams, not after. Make sure homework is done and that the kid studies is the way to improvement. Not punishment after the fact.

    Now if the grades, or perhaps more exactly the teacher conference afterwards reveals that the kid has been lying about classwork and progress that could be a different story.

    Personally I think parents should try to make learning, if not fun, at least not a total bore. But kids should also learn that some classes and teachers just s*ck and that they still have to do well in htat situation.
    very well said!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by jsharr
    Will it be able to change your diapers when you are an octagenarian?
    I'm guessing that means when I get too old to wipe my own ass. When such a time comes, I will seek the help of Remington to fix the problem.
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    Quote Originally Posted by goldener
    Again, as punishment or reward?
    I'm guessing you've never been shocked by any substantial amount of voltage if you could possibly consider a taser to the nuts to be a form of reward.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Michigander
    I'm guessing that means when I get too old to wipe my own ass. When such a time comes, I will seek the help of Remington to fix the problem.
    That sounds a little abrasive to me.

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    Not until my middle boy got into higher grades did I take the TV away from him for bad grades. That's all he wanted to do is watch TV and not do his home work.

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