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Old 05-27-07, 08:05 AM   #1
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Women! I need your expert advice!

If you were (or have recieved) an engagement ring, would getting a stone rarer than a diamond (which isn't very rare in the gem world) be much more personal to you?

Or, bring on the diamonds?
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Old 05-27-07, 08:12 AM   #2
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If you were (or have recieved) an engagement ring, would getting a stone rarer than a diamond (which isn't very rare in the gem world) be much more personal to you?

Or, bring on the diamonds?
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take it from a 39 year old "old-fart," no matter how unconventional or contemporary or progressive your future fiance might be.....in 20 years, she's going to want to show off a BIG ASS diamond to her friends.
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Old 05-27-07, 08:32 AM   #3
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To me an engagement doesn't have to be a diamond. A diamond everyone gets, some thing different is a good thing.
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Old 05-27-07, 08:45 AM   #4
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No diamonds. I don't like their appearance (plus they're dead common) and I have a problem with the history and infrastructure of DeBeers and the diamond industry in general. At 41, I couldn't care less about showing off a ring based on the fact that there's a white rock in it, and neither do my friends care to see it based on that criterium (I'm lucky that way ). I'd much rather have something with a unique setting (from a metalsmith, not from the jewelry store in the mall) and a stone that actually means something to me (I've always been partial to emeralds, for example). I was married when I was in my 20s and my engagement ring was a beautiful 19th century band and the most gorgeous setting with a nice-sized diamond (and it was worth a bundle). I always wanted to ditch the diamond and put something else in there. When we divorced, I considered giving him back the rock and keeping the ring.

If you're going to go the untraditional route, though, I highly recommend that you let your fiancee choose the stone and the setting and let her take her time with it.
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Old 05-27-07, 08:48 AM   #5
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I would think that a stone with some sort of personal meaning might be a better choice than a diamond. But a rarer stone in and of itself is not necessarily more meaningful.

Then again, I'm not a woman...
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No diamonds. I don't like their appearance (plus they're dead common) and I have a problem with the history and infrastructure of DeBeers and the diamond industry in general. At 41, I couldn't care less about showing off a ring based on the fact that there's a white rock in it, and neither do my friends care to see it based on that criterium (I'm lucky that way ). I'd much rather have something with a unique setting (from a metalsmith, not from the jewelry store in the mall) and a stone that actually means something to me (I've always been partial to emeralds, for example). I was married when I was in my 20s and my engagement ring was a beautiful 19th century band and the most gorgeous setting with a nice-sized diamond (and it was worth a bundle). I always wanted to ditch the diamond and put something else in there. When we divorced, I considered giving him back the rock and keeping the ring.

If you're going to go the untraditional route, though, I highly recommend that you let your finacee choose the stone and the setting and let her take her time with it.
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Why have rings at all? I will personally never get married, but even if I were to, I would never wear a ring. I hate jewellery. Surely there has to be many more like me!?
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Why have rings at all? I will personally never get married, but even if I were to, I would never wear a ring. I hate jewellery. Surely there has to be many more like me!?
Well, that's a very valid point to consider as well. Does she even want a ring?
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I'm a wimmins, and I chose not to receive an engagement ring (though I'm sure that I'm not exactly normal). I don't have anything against jewelry, but didn't see the need to spend the money.

I think that it's really the thought that counts when it comes to something like that. If it's something special or meaningful, it doesn't have to be expensive. It also doesn't have to be a ring. What's she into? Personally, I'd rather get biking gear
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Old 05-27-07, 09:36 AM   #10
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Why have rings at all? I will personally never get married, but even if I were to, I would never wear a ring. I hate jewellery. Surely there has to be many more like me!?
Im a little like this and a little different about this too, I really dont care to show off diamonds, I got a little turned off after the engagements on how many wanted to see the ring and how much and all that crap. I dont wear flashy jewelry, maybe earings and this silver ring my kid bought me.
I havent worn my wedding ring in 15 years, simply because it gave me a rash, my hubby saw this and really doesnt care if I dont wear it, he knows Im a bit different and joke about it, when he buys me expensive things it's for my bike and he always laughs and say "most girls would want diamonds, you know"
anyway, cant help you OP, if i was to get engaged all over again, Id tell him to keep the money and spend it together someone nice but realise Im a bit different.
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Old 05-27-07, 09:40 AM   #11
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Pure alexandrite is nice.
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Old 05-27-07, 09:48 AM   #12
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Another ringing in (pun intended) for no engagement ring. Didn't want one the first time. Don't see a need for one ever. I'd rather spend the money on something practical and useful (like a TT bike ).

I did enjoy wearing my wedding ring. No matter what very mundane thing I was doing, say laundry or gassing the car, I'd catch sight of that ring and smile. Every time.
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I already have diamonds, as well as a ruby, sapphire, and pearls. A couple of my great grandmothers liked their jewelry. A wedding band with both gold and platinum (I wear both gold and silver jewelry.) would be sufficient.
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Old 05-27-07, 11:24 AM   #14
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Why have rings at all? I will personally never get married, but even if I were to, I would never wear a ring. I hate jewellery. Surely there has to be many more like me!?
My GF and I have been together longer than most people stay married. Neither of us wears any jewelry, but we have an awful lot of very specialized athletic footwear.
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Old 05-27-07, 11:26 AM   #15
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when he buys me expensive things it's for my bike and he always laughs and say "most girls would want diamonds, you know"
Hey, those new wheels he got you are carbon rings, just not in a diamond structure.
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Here's some rings she migh enjoy more:


In seriousness, go a route like black pearls or whatever her style might be.
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Old 05-27-07, 11:51 AM   #17
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I did enjoy wearing my wedding ring. No matter what very mundane thing I was doing, say laundry or gassing the car, I'd catch sight of that ring and smile. Every time.

I love the idea of matching and unique wedding bands...round as in love Eternal.

Engagement rings? engh...
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I like the idea of some kind of ring - but I'd rather have a really nice wedding band. Not so hot on the diamonds. Seems like such a waste of money.

I think the big diamond to show off is the equivalent of guys comparing the engines in their cars.....
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Diamonds are one of the biggest con tricks of modern times.

A decent girl won't be offended because you didn't follow the cliché rulebook. If anything she should be impressed - it's a personal thing, why not be personal?

(my kinda girl would find diamonds as loathesome as I do)
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I've never in my life wanted to get/be married (no offense to the married folk or the institution), so really, IMHO, you can love me, be my partner/best friend/lover, go on long "bikes" by the ocean with me, share your inner most thoughts, desires and dreams with me...but skip all that engagement crap.

However, I'll take diamonds in any shape, size or form - the bigger, the better.
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My wife enjoyed picking exactly what she wanted from Blue Nile. She chose a diamond but had some very particular ideas regarding cut, color, inclusions and the like. It was also somewhat cheaper to go that route than any of the local jewelers.
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I don't care for diamonds. I think the huge rocks are ridiculous as well as unethical, and I wouldn't want to wear one. I don't have an engagement ring, and I'm fine with that. It seems a ginormous ring with a huge rock on it is more of a status symbol, hey look how much I bagged kinda thing. That's just my opinion, of course. I don't wear jewelry too often anyway. We are going to have wedding rings, but they are going to be very simple. I wouldn't mind some type of other jewel or semi precious stone, as long as it was very small and simple. And yes, I happen to think that something besides diamonds is more personal, but I'm pretty biased on the subject.
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Hey, those new wheels he got you are carbon rings, just not in a diamond structure.

Hmmm....... Diamonds = Carbon .......hmmmmm........................
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(I wear both gold and silver jewelry.)

Not at the same time I hope.
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