I've never been one for turning to forums for advice but at this time of night, I have nowhere else to turn. Not that the advice here wouldn't be good enough....I'm just not one for airing out personal issues.
Here's the story. My girlfriend's father lives 5 hours away. Her mother will be moving roughly 3 hours away. With the upcoming Father's Day holiday coming up, she is taking it extremely hard. She is lying in bed crying, unwilling to talk to me about it. She will not be able to see her dad for Father's Day because she doesn't have the vacation time available to take a few days and her father decided to go out fishing with some buddies while his wife is in the Philippines instead of making an effort to see his daughter. With not being able to see her dad on his day and the constant reminder that her mom is leaving too, she is quickly realizing that she will be the only one making an effort to visit and spend time with each other. If she isn't the one making the effort, then she may be able to see her each of her parents once or twice a year on major holidays and that is about it. She is dead set on believing that she will not see them unless she makes the effort. To top it all off, she is an only child with little or no immediate family in the area after her mom moves away. She would like to have her parents here to see her get married and see their grandkids when they come about. What is making her feel so strongly about being "left alone" is that her father and his wife are very well off, and her mother and husband are also very well off. It seems as though they have each married, moved away to start a new life with a new family leaving their only child behind and only casually acknowledging her out of moral standard, not actual love.
Now that I have gotten the story out of the way, my dilemma is this: Since my girlfriend is unwilling to speak up and voice her concerns because she feels she shouldn't have to, I feel that I should do something. I feel that I should talk to one or the other, or even both, in an attempt to entice them to actually give a ****, not just appear to give a ****. I just don't want to hit a nerve and have them thinking I am telling them how to be parents. I do plan on marrying Heather so pissing off her immediate family is the last thing I want to do.
Should I, or should I not speak up. Or better yet, would you, or would you not speak up?
Thanks for any responses, $.02, advice...whatever...I appreciate it all!