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    ~ Going the Distance ~ powerglide's Avatar
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    Foo Folks...please help!

    My beloved aunt is destined to become the "crazy cat lady".
    She's such a caring person, she spends all her free time going around rescuing cats and dogs and then tries placing them with homes and shelters. She's gotten to the point where theres at least a dozen (probably more) in her house and it's ruining her life. (its been going on for many years now)
    She spends all of her money on vet bills etc, she's totally broke.
    I was blown away today when she told me she's got 40$ to her name.
    The house is a mess (I visited today for the first time in years) I can't describe it. Smells like a zoo and looks much worse.
    She's going to get evicted and end up (god forbid) in a "van down by the river" full of cats...

    Her brother and sister are bacially not doing anything about it, but they are well aware of this problem but don't know what to do.

    Some sort of intervention is in order...but I don't know what to do.

    My uncle and I are planning on going over there this weekend and try to convince her to goto therapy for OCD. (It will be hard because she is very sensitive and stubborn)
    Then once she's seeing a therapist and has some support, I think we'll have to have animal control clear out the house (they are on her case already but so far just fines and no action)....I'm afraid she will wig out. But the cats are unpettable, totally wild. (i.e. unadoptable) and costing here thousands in bills. They must go.

    I feel very strange as the 33 year old nephew doing this for my 50 something aunt, but standing by and watch her destroy herself financially, socially and psychologically is no longer acceptable to me...

    Please advise...

    I can't find much useful info about this sort of disorder...
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    If she had puppies, I'd take one or two off of her hands.

    Cats though...

    "There is nothing in this world more replaceable than a cat" -anonymous

    Talk her into taking them to a shelter.
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    I am glad you are aware of what is happening early on.

    There was a story recently in Georgia of a woman who adopted about 100 cats. She got into trouble with animal control and was fined.

    I don't know much about mental disorders.

    Maybe should could volunteer her services at the local animal shelter.
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    She should become a groomer. All the animals she can shake a mustache trimmer at.
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    The problem is she thinks everytihng is ok.
    She thinks (rightly so) that if the cats are taken to the shelter they will be euthanised...that's her whole thing "rescuing cats" who would have otherwise been killed by nature or killed by animal control.

    Cypress, no puppies but one beautiful pure bred dog...(was a breeder dog, rescued from a life of just pumping out babies...) yours if you reeally want it!
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    Hey guyz? Guyz? Wait up!! Siu Blue Wind's Avatar
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    Powerglide, can you see if there are cat rescue groups around? I'm sure if you call them, they can send someone over to talk to her. They can explain that they will care for the cats, give them the medical care they need at no cost to her. Then those that can would be adopted out, and she will be able to call and check on her cats at anytime. Those that cannot will be rehabilitated until they can. Rescue groups do not euthanize any animals. She will be assured about their care and maybe she will be able to trust them.

    Round up a few relatives to come over and help her clean up a bit. Maybe make it a pizza and soda party, to get the younger ones out to help. She may feel a little embarassed but the rescue group will have by then let her know these conditions aren't good for cats let alone her.

    Good luck, Powerglide. Kudos for caring. ((hugs))
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    Quote Originally Posted by Siu Blue Wind
    Powerglide, can you see if there are cat rescue groups around? I'm sure if you call them, they can send someone over to talk to her. They can explain that they will care for the cats, give them the medical care they need at no cost to her. They those that can would be adopted out, and she will be able to call and check on her cats at anytime. Those that cannot will be rehabilitated until they can. Rescue groups do not euthanize any animals. She will be assured about their care and maybe she will be able to trust them.

    Round up a few relatives to come over and help her clean up a bit. Maybe make it a pizza and soda party, to get the younger ones out to help. She may feel a little embarassed but the rescue group will have by then let her know these conditions aren't good for cats let alone her.

    Good luck, Powerglide. Kudos for caring. ((hugs))
    Yes - there are lots of cat rescue groups out there, my ex-boyfriend adopted one from just such a situation where there were many cats/kittens - even outside of the local well named shelters. His name is Manny, and he is a much loved cat! And those people held onto those cats/kittens ensuring all of them were placed too! Well worth your efforts for family, and animals too!

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    Hey guyz? Guyz? Wait up!! Siu Blue Wind's Avatar
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    Here ya go, Powerglide. Hope this helps.

    http://www.rescuers.com/

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    Thank you Siu and Tude!

    I just had a little family meeting to discuss our game plan...we think she may need some psychiatric help.
    The problem is that if we get rid of the cats I think she'll just get more. I found some research papers on "animal hoarding" and she totally fits the profile of what they call a "rescue hoarder". The problem may be some kind of severe depression or other kind of disorder, with the hoarding being the manifestation. Some kind of medical + social intervention seems needed...sigh...

    Thanks again, the hugs help :-)
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    Quote Originally Posted by powerglide
    Thank you Siu and Tude!

    I just had a little family meeting to discuss our game plan...we think she may need some psychiatric help.
    The problem is that if we get rid of the cats I think she'll just get more. I found some research papers on "animal hoarding" and she totally fits the profile of what they call a "rescue hoarder". The problem may be some kind of severe depression or other kind of disorder, with the hoarding being the manifestation. Some kind of medical + social intervention seems needed...sigh...

    Thanks again, the hugs help :-)

    If you get rid of the cats without getting help for your aunt, she will get more. She sounds like a classic hoarder. I used to volunteer at a county animal shelter, and we kept track of them as DNAs or Do Not Adopts. We would not adopt animals TO them, but would take animals FROM them for possible adoption. They mean well, but are not giving the animals the good care they originally intended. They aren't bad people, just people that need help. Your aunt needs to seek mental help. Don't be embarrassed to help her seek help, for her and the animals. It is obvious that she wants to help the animals, but doesn't see that she is hurting them in the current sitiuation. Good idea bringing in the family to help. That's what families are for.
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