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    Why do most guys like things, and woman don't?

    Why is it that most men seem to develop hobbies, while woman don't? Most men seemed to get emotional involved in a hobbies such as cars, politics, or bicycles, while woman don't seem to do this? Is it because men find the particular interest a means of representing themselves and a vehicle for bonding with other men? Any other ideas?
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    How do you figure?

    I can think of several females on here that are more passionate and own more bikes than me.

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    I don't I agree with the premise of the question.

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    Not quite sure where you get that idea. You're probably just choosing hobbies and sports that are dominated by men.

    Edit: In general, men bond by being competitive; women bond by finding similarities.
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    They are just different hobbies.

    Men usually get more into mechanics, woodwork, sports, etc...

    Women maybe things like needlepoint, crochet, crafts, etc...

    I don't mean to stereotype people....was just using it as illustration.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KingTermite
    They are just different hobbies.

    Men usually get more into mechanics, woodwork, sports, etc...

    Women maybe things like needlepoint, crochet, crafts, etc...

    I don't mean to stereotype people....was just using it as illustration.
    You didn't mean to, but ya did.
    One thing that might have influenced the OP's question is the age of women he is thinking about. Hobbies cost money. Before about thirty or forty years ago, women didn't have a lot of money; they lived off of their family's/husband's income. They couldn't have expensive hobbies.
    Now it is a little different, but stereotypes persist. Or the OP knows some very boring women.
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    Quote Originally Posted by barba
    I don't I agree with the premise of the question.
    I don't, either. I know a lot of guys who don't have any particular interest, and I know a lot of women who do have hobbies.

    It seems like it's really meant to get general info that might apply to a specific situation with someone the OP knows and has to deal with, maybe?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Flippin Sweet
    Also, question:
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    i think it's cause guys generally get frazzled by the complexities of the opposite sex and we find it much easier to bond with something that won't bust our chops. it's also much easier to rebuild an engine than to 'officially' win an argument with a girl. :-)

    ........or maybe it's just cause we like to take stuff apart and halfway put it back together again or punish other sporty types with our supposedly mad sporty skills. what do i know?

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    I totally agree with Hopetoditchcar... While there are some exceptions, it seems to me like a lot of women have no lives outside of their jobs and relationships. I've dated a few girls where I've felt like I was their only source of entertainment. Most of my married friends who I hike, bike and golf with, have wives who have no hobbies or interests and they resent their husbands spending time away from them.
    Again there are a lot of exceptions, most of the women on BF are probably exceptions, but I agree, overall women as they get older seem to have less activities and hobbies they participate in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by efrobert
    I totally agree with Hopetoditchcar... While there are some exceptions, it seems to me like a lot of women have no lives outside of their jobs and relationships. I've dated a few girls where I've felt like I was their only source of entertainment. Most of my married friends who I hike, bike and golf with, have wives who have no hobbies or interests and they resent their husbands spending time away from them.
    Again there are a lot of exceptions, most of the women on BF are probably exceptions, but I agree, overall women as they get older seem to have less activities and hobbies they participate in.
    it's a cultural thing...even young women are encouraged to focus on things that aren't hobbies or even their jobs. Family, friends, tv, magazines, etc. reinforce that they should be nurturing relationships, family, etc. rather than activities. And if they do something other than that, well...let's just say, questions are asked.
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    Okay lessee....hmmm.....my hobbies:

    Currently -
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    Muscle cars
    Martial Arts


    In the past -
    Mountain climbing/rappeling
    Guns
    Auto crossing for SCCA
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    I don't know how to knit/crochet, I don't do scrapbooking, I don't do pottery. I sew if I have to. I can cook darn good when in the mood but I like to grow veggies in my garden.

    I'm not your typical girly girl.

    Unless the time is right....

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    For one, guys (in general) tend to be more materially oriented. We like getting our hands on things. We're also more obsessive. Not many women could aptly be described as "tools."

    For another, most girls invest quite a bit of time in a hobby that most guys tend to appreciate more than they'll admit: fashion and beauty. Somewhere I read that the average American woman spends 2 years of life in front of a mirror.

    Sorry ladies, I don't mean that in any negative way, and I know there's plenty of exceptions.
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    Quote Originally Posted by iamlucky13
    For another, most girls invest quite a bit of time in a hobby that most guys tend to appreciate more than they'll admit: fashion and beauty. Somewhere I read that the average American woman spends 2 years of life in front of a mirror.

    Sorry ladies, I don't mean that in any negative way, and I know there's plenty of exceptions.
    Not taken in a negative way in the least. You've got a good point. That is where most women are encouraged to focus their spare energies. Not all women give into the pressure, and I suspect a lot of us who post on Bike Forums fall into that category. It's not an easy road, though. Depending on your social and ecomomic class, how you are perceived can range from "eccentric" to "unnatural". For me, it was downright hellish in high school and even college was pretty lousy. I've found it to be somewhat easier in my 30's, but not all that much. It's nice that you guys seem to want to have hobbies in common with the women in your life. My experience is that most guys are interested in women who engage in the more conventional female hobbies of fashion and beauty. We've either got time for that or for the other stuff. You can't have your cake and eat it, too. (unless you're involved with Superwoman) So which is more important to you?
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    I agree with the generalization you state, HTDC. Exceptions are, of course, many. And it's not such a black-white thing.

    But apparently some people have no resistance to political correctness. I'm kind of surprised more people haven't jumped on your butt so far in this thread.

    As for your question, this I don't have any great insights as to why. It's difficult to tell how much of this is socialization and how much is natural. As with many things it's a combination of both.
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    I'm not stereotyping as I'm talking from experience.

    My hobbies: cars, bikes, photography, reading, computers, politics.
    Wife's hobbies: watching dramas & cooking programs, cooking, phone, making sure no one is saying anything bad behind her back.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Minesbroken
    simply not true....Siu has incredibly beautiful...er...cars

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    Okay lessee....hmmm.....my hobbies:

    Currently -
    Bikes
    Muscle cars
    Martial Arts


    In the past -
    Mountain climbing/rappeling
    Guns
    Auto crossing for SCCA
    Motorcycles/racing

    I don't know how to knit/crochet, I don't do scrapbooking, I don't do pottery. I sew if I have to. I can cook darn good when in the mood but I like to grow veggies in my garden.

    I'm not your typical girly girl.

    Unless the time is right....
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    Quote Originally Posted by donnamb
    My experience is that most guys are interested in women who engage in the more conventional female hobbies of fashion and beauty.
    Same here. Nearly all the guys I've dated around here have never really been interested in knowing more about my sports/hobbies. They seem to go for the women that are more superficial. I take care of myself and try to look good, but I don't spend two hours (like some of my friends) every day doing it--but it seems like that's what the guys want?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hopetoditchcar
    Why is it that most men seem to develop hobbies, while woman don't? Most men seemed to get emotional involved in a hobbies such as cars, politics, or bicycles, while woman don't seem to do this? Is it because men find the particular interest a means of representing themselves and a vehicle for bonding with other men? Any other ideas?
    well.. I find that if woman dont have a hobbie, it is because they have to take care of everything else that needs to be done while thier hobby ignore it and go on thier hobbies
    seriously, all while the men might be out and about with his pals playing golf all day, who do you think has to stay behind taking care of the kids and house ect ect ect...

    sad, but it is the reality of a lot of woman I know, then one day.. kids are full time at school and if they dont have to work everyday then they wonder what do they like to do because for the past few years all they have done was holding everyone together and taking care of everyone but themselves.

    that's why some of them dont have a hobbie as much as the men does.
    I myself have many hobbies as much as he does, but when the kids were younger, I didnt have time to do anything but take care of them and thier hobbies.

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    My job is my hobby...so when I come home we both take care of the work...she likes to ride bikes, make jewelry and play family fued on the computer . I like to ride my bike, make crazy car stereo systems and chat away on bike forums....

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    Quote Originally Posted by blonduathlongrl
    all while the men might be out and about with his pals playing golf all day, who do you think has to stay behind taking care of the kids and house ect ect ect...

    sad, but it is the reality of a lot of woman I know, then one day.. kids are full time at school and if they dont have to work everyday then they wonder what do they like to do because for the past few years all they have done was holding everyone together and taking care of everyone but themselves.

    that's why some of them dont have a hobbie as much as the men does.
    Another good point. Not being a mom myself, it didn't come immediately to mind, but really, that is a huge reason for most women who are also mothers.
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    Hardly. I have too many hobbies (cooking, breeding fish, etc) - and most all concern the outdoors - kayaking, canoing, hiking, bicycling-road & mtb, etc. In fact I finally broke up with a guy I was going out with for 6 years as he seemed to have no other hobbies nor want to interact with human life other than DVD's, X-Box and just sitting. Blah. When we got down to basically just maybe seeing each other every 6 weeks or so and I didn't even like that --- it was time to go.

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    Alright, this whole thread is stupid and bigoted, but hey, I will respond to the troll bait anyway.

    I am a woman and have TOO many hobbies.

    Horses(driving and riding)
    Fresh water and salt water fishing
    Boating
    Biking
    Hiking
    Camping
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    Running
    Homesteading
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    Cooking
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