Here's a few examples:
1. I was talking with a new neighbor recently and while she was talking about her old neighborhood, she made a face and her tone changed a bit and she said "there were a lot of blacks moving in".
2. Yesterday I was talking with a man who said the schools in his small community outside the city are better because "the kids are all white".
In the first example my friend (another neighbor) and I both said something like "Hey, we don't care what color you are as long as you are a good neighbor". In the second example I ignored the comment, but I'm not comfortable doing that - by ignoring a statement like that I feel that I'm condoning it. These people would never make those statements in front of a black person, but they think it's okay to say it to me because I'm white. I'd like to be able to say something to people like this that would make them realize how hurtful and ignorant there comments are. Obviously, becoming confrontational and calling them an ignorant racist would not be a productive approach. I'd like to say something to them that would not put them on the defensive, but would slowly get into their conscious and make them examine there prejudices and leave the conversation thinking "Hmm, maybe he's right..."
How do you handle such situations and are you comfortable with the way you handle them?