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Old 07-25-07, 12:30 AM   #1
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How do you feel about public speaking?

I know this is one of mankind's top fears. I was wondering how you felt about it (and if you had a related story about why you feel that way...)
I enjoy speaking to groups. I'm not sure why; probably because I'm a little egotistical and like having attention focussed on me... especially when I feel I have something interesting, funny or important to say.

Plus I know I'm good at it; it's nice to be good at something so many people aren't good at.

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Old 07-25-07, 12:35 AM   #2
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I'm just the opposite...I hate speaking to groups...because I generally have nothing interesting, funny, or important to say. The odd thing is...is that I am really good at it...
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Old 07-25-07, 12:46 AM   #3
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I'm nervous to start...but once I get going on a topic I'm interested in and knowledgable about (normally biology), I forget my nervousness and feel comfortable again.

I deal with large rooms by treating them no differently than small ones. I 'forget' that I'm not speaking to an individual.
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I love being the focal point of attention, but only when I take it. If I'm expected to be the centre I hate it. Weird, I know.

I'm very gregarious, outgoing, and talkative - yet I hate public speaking. Go figure.
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Old 07-25-07, 01:47 AM   #5
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one time I had to speak before a women's group about my plant. Felt not quite 100% prepared. I had a brandy before I left. The speech just flowed.
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I love it! Doesn't matter what the topic. It's a challenge to organize a speech and deliver it effectively. I actually look for opportunities with various companies and groups.
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Old 07-25-07, 02:18 AM   #7
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I'm scared, uncomfortable and very self-conscious when I speak to a bigger group of people. It's horrible. I imagine, if I practiced more I'd get better at it, but as of now I try to avoid it
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I've always been pretty good at it, and its never bothered me too much. Obviously the more knowledgeable about the topic the more comfortable I am.

Interesting how its one of the biggest fears of people, but so far it seems that FOOsters are scared by it in general. Are we all major type "A" personalities?
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I hate it, I feel like the room is closing in on me.
I dont know who to look at, my voice starts shaking and my accent gets even worst.
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I hate it, I feel like the room is closing in on me.
I dont know who to look at, my voice starts shaking and my accent gets even worst.
yep. same here. i hate it. start sweating, face gets flushed, voice gets quieter. just try not to have to do it. and the funny thing, most of the time where i've had to get up and speak - the people are all my friends/co-workers, so i should be relaxed, but i'm not.
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I used to hate it but once you have done it alot, it gets easier. The main thing you have to do is be prepared before you talk. There is nothing worse than talking to a group and stumbling through your speech.
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I hate it. Everyone tells me I am a good speaker, but I don't feel that way about it. I am always afraid I'll have a brain fart up on the stage and completely forget what I'm talking about...hasn't happened so far but it probably will someday. I dread that day.
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Old 07-25-07, 06:44 AM   #13
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I loathe public speaking in a way that cannot be described in words or pictures. It is best described through interpretive dance, so watch carefully....





There, done, hope you understand my inner pathos better now.
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Old 07-25-07, 06:50 AM   #14
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Public speaking got real easy for me after working for FEMA. When they put you in a shelter full of people and you have to explain disaster aide it gets tense or when they send you to visit a mayor of a city to tell him the limits of the federal government's assistance. Nothing seems to bother me anymore.
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I'm just the opposite...I hate speaking to groups...because I generally have nothing interesting, funny, or important to say. The odd thing is...is that I am really good at it...
I'm the opposite opposite. I generally have lots of interesting, funny, and important things to say. The odd thing is...is that I really suck at it (or at least I get scared/nervous).
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I loathe public speaking in a way that cannot be described in words or pictures. It is best described through interpretive dance, so watch carefully....





There, done, hope you understand my inner pathos better now.
+1, not much of anything I loathe more than public speaking. Even speaking up in a meeting at work is painful for me. I usually just try to hide in a dark corner and hope nobody notices I'm there.

Speech was a required class for my degree and I held off until the last semester hoping the requirement would change, but no such luck. I'd sweat, mumble, stutter and my hands would visibly shake the whole time I was speaking. I wouldn't sleep the night before and the feeling of relief when I finished was almost orgasmic. About halfway through the class I started taking 2-3 shots of tequila before class and that helped a lot but it was still pretty awful. Funny thing is I managed to pulled an A. I guess the prof just felt sorry for me.

So to answer the question, I don't care much for public speaking.
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I've been doing it for so long (I'm a university prof), I've long gotten over the nervousness I used to have when I started my career. Now, it's second nature- it's just what I "do." I believe that one can get over the shakes with increasing experience, not just because I did, but because countless others with whom I've had this discussion agree with me. But for those who don't have a chance to get much experience, there are exercises and techniques to help relax and be effective. Check out the Alexander Technique for starters.
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I like your creative use of tequila though! Give me three shots of tequila and I might become a toastmaster extraordanaire!
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Old 07-25-07, 07:11 AM   #19
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I don't mind it at all. But you could probably figure that out about me by now.
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Because of the activism that I had been involved in (and more to come), I have to speak in front of large groups. Like KT had mentioned, if I am more educated about the subject the more comfortable I feel. But then again, I won't speak on something unless I am a very firm believer in what I am there to represent.
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I never enjoy feeling as if I'm the center of attention. Wierd, because for 3 years in college I was a Music Ed major and solo performances was a pretty big part of that. I don't like public speaking per se, but I love it when I get the chance to teach, which I guess is a kind of public speaking.
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Funny thing is that I used to be so scared of people, my voice would crack, croak and stutter when speaking to another person sitting in the chair next to me at school !
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It depends on the type of speaking. As a project manager I needed to lead meetings all the time and it's no problem. However, getting up in front of people to give a "speech" is a different story. I'm still at the "butterflies in formation" stage.
For those who don't like it there is hope. I failed it the first time in high school, but as an adult had to give speeches getting people to back a missions project that was going to cost them money and our church had some heavy hitters. Then got called on cold in a business retreat to speak to the general managers and controllers of our company's 30 subsidiaries when the scheduled speaker said, "...well, Kevin knows a lot more about this than I do. Come up here and tell us about it"
Anything is easy after those types of speeches.
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I know this is one of mankind's top fears. I was wondering how you felt about it (and if you had a related story about why you feel that way...)
I enjoy speaking to groups. I'm not sure why; probably because I'm a little egotistical and like having attention focussed on me... especially when I feel I have something interesting, funny or important to say.

Plus I know I'm good at it; it's nice to be good at something so many people aren't good at.
I enjoy speaking in groups. Parties, socializing etc. Speaking to groups never. I have turned down some good jobs because they required me to speak publicly. I have no interest in it. Even in highschool I would always opt for the essay. The public speaking was critically easier, but the essays were my forte. If I was forced to speak I would always get a D...essay I always got 95% and higher.

That said, in a group of my peers where I am manager, no problem. Speaches to randoms...no chance
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