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    Beauty Everywhere snowy's Avatar
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    Why am I SO Stupid??

    Why am I so nice to guys only to be walked all over??? Yeah yeah so I like this guy and thought we had a good thing going, but everytime we would make plans he either doesn't call me or just plain ignores me. It all started about a month ago, we were doing the long distance thingy he lives about 100 miles away from me. Things started out great and now well I'm sitting here feeling stupid cause he said he would come to visit me for 4 days and nothing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I called once and left a message no return call back nothing. I feel USED!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by BugsInMyTeeth View Post
    You need some bugs in your teeth...
    Oh is that what it is?? That will bring the nice guys to me??
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    No, she needs some Eboo in her...shoe.

    Take heart, snowy. He didn't deserve you in the first place. At least you discovered this only a month in; now you don't have to waste any more time on the ****** nozzle. You will totally find someone who worships at your feet on a daily basis, I PROMISE.
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    Will they be snackrificed on a roll of sourdough?

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    Beauty Everywhere snowy's Avatar
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    Awww I feel ya Bugs.

    Thanks Eboo. Just sucks. I'm frustrated with the whole dating scene.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BugsInMyTeeth View Post
    I hate when my flirt is misinterpreted. It was really romantic n everythin too...

    Ok, I'm done.
    BWAHAHAH, you guys are too funny.

    Um, sorry - I didn't mean to mis interpret. an all. ya know.

    <leaving now>

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    Quote Originally Posted by snowy View Post
    Awww I feel ya Bugs.

    Thanks Eboo. Just sucks. I'm frustrated with the whole dating scene.
    Fah, dating scene.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tude View Post
    Fah, dating scene.
    Yeah, screw the dating scene for a little while. It's frustrating and, shockingly, not always a whole barrel full o' jsharrs of fun. Ride yer bike. Forget men and/or women for awhile. One will just fall into your lap. And then he had better buy you a drink, because, dude, you fell in my lap.
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    Will they be snackrificed on a roll of sourdough?

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    You're not stupid, Snowy, he is. Stupid ****** nozzle. (that's a fun phrase)

    +1 on forgetting the dating scene. Enjoy being single.

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    Forget the dating scene, Snowy.

    Try stalking.


    Actually, I don't think it would be stalking to call him one more time in a few days. Maybe something happened? A missed message? A misunderstanding? An emergency in his family? You could even say that you'd like at least an email if it's over, and no hard feelings if it is. Sounds like you deserve that much.
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    Give him one chance. He flunks, he's gone. You gotta let people know immediately what is acceptable behavior and what isn't.
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    oh, sorry, Snowy. I think you are wrong, though, you are far from stupid. You are quite smart and quick to pick up on the fact that something isn't quite right. Smarter still let him go and move on.

    All that being said, perhaps Krink is right? maybe the dude accidentally dropped his cell phone in the commode and doesn't have a quarter for a phone and his dog ate his car keys. All valid excuses for leaving a cool chica like you hanging.
    Where am I going?......

    ....and why am I in this handbasket?

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    You just don't have enough KT in your life. That is your problem dear.
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    - it's pretty well established that Hitler was an *******.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CycleMagic View Post
    oh, sorry, Snowy. I think you are wrong, though, you are far from stupid. You are quite smart and quick to pick up on the fact that something isn't quite right. Smarter still let him go and move on.

    All that being said, perhaps Krink is right? maybe the dude accidentally dropped his cell phone in the commode and doesn't have a quarter for a phone and his dog ate his car keys. All valid excuses for leaving a cool chica like you hanging.

    I was thinking more like he misplaced his brain for a few days. We know zero about the dude, or the relationship, so I'm just wondering if he and she might have different ideas/standards about what the relationship, well, is. Standards that might be a matter of negotiation and discussion.

    I know that misunderstandings have never happened in male-female romantic relationships before, but there is always a first time.
    They told me to wear more lycra, and I said "no, no, no."

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    Quote Originally Posted by snowy View Post
    he lives about 100 miles away from me.
    Gas is too expensive for 100 mile relationships these days.


    Patience, Snowy. Patience....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Krink View Post
    I was thinking more like he misplaced his brain for a few days. We know zero about the dude, or the relationship, so I'm just wondering if he and she might have different ideas/standards about what the relationship, well, is. Standards that might be a matter of negotiation and discussion.

    I know that misunderstandings have never happened in male-female romantic relationships before, but there is always a first time.
    Where am I going?......

    ....and why am I in this handbasket?

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    Nice one Cylowe97

    It just sucks cause he said for the last 3days see you on Monday. Now its here and nothing. Still feeling used.

    Oh the joy of dating.

    KT I thought you were spoken for??
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    Snowy, did the relationship start a month ago, or did he start breaking commitments about a month ago?
    They told me to wear more lycra, and I said "no, no, no."

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    Quote Originally Posted by snowy View Post
    Nice one Cylowe97

    It just sucks cause he said for the last 3days see you on Monday. Now its here and nothing. Still feeling used.

    Oh the joy of dating.

    KT I thought you were spoken for??
    See, that is just it. Dating is supposed to be FUN. Of course we all run into the duds, the no-goods, the empty-promisers, but when we stop having fun, that is the time to stop dating those people. There shouldn't be heartache in just one month of dating; this should be the fun time. If he's already causing you to question things, then he's not right for you.

    Look at it this way, his behavior and your feelings are happening for a reason. This is where you get to be open to whomever the universe sends your way. You are a super cool woman, a super cool man will find his way to you; this I know.
    Where am I going?......

    ....and why am I in this handbasket?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Krink View Post
    Snowy, did the relationship start a month ago, or did he start breaking commitments about a month ago?
    No we've been seeing eachother for two months. I thought everything was going great we get along really well, biking was fun etc, then he just started acting strange on the phone with me, and I called him out on it, and since then its been no good.

    He said it was the distance thingy and not getting to see me but then why would you say your coming to visit and not show??
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    Quote Originally Posted by BugsInMyTeeth View Post
    There might be a chance that you're better off without a man at all at this point.

    Errr... I don't mean go lesbo or anything...

    Err.. wait.. let me think about that first...

    ...

    ..

    .

    Sorry I gotta say I love the the man.
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    The naysayers here are almost certainly right, because most dating relationships fail to continue. But some succesfull relationships do not start with TV-perfect first months.

    "Dating SHOULD be fun" but sometimes it isn't. It can be hard work. Rarely do two people move at exactly the same speed toward commitment.
    They told me to wear more lycra, and I said "no, no, no."

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    Quote Originally Posted by BugsInMyTeeth View Post
    So he made arrangements to come over, and you haven't heard from him for a few days now?

    What if he's lying broken in a drainage ditch somewhere, swatting away coyotes with the only unbroken limb remaining?

    Not the case, I spoke to him lastnight and very briefly this morning. I asked him this morning what time he was going to show and he said he would call later. I haven't heard from him yet.
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    You are right, Krink. I wasn't suggesting that it is all happy happy joy joy all the time, because I know that for a relationship to continue it takes open, honest, communication with dedication and work. It just seems like to me, that if two people really enjoy each other, and are truly into one another, then there will be much more fun than doubt.
    Where am I going?......

    ....and why am I in this handbasket?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Krink View Post
    The naysayers here are almost certainly right, because most dating relationships fail to continue. But some succesfull relationships do not start with TV-perfect first months.

    "Dating SHOULD be fun" but sometimes it isn't. It can be hard work. Rarely do two people move at exactly the same speed toward commitment.
    Yep we were definitely moving at two different paces.
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    Quote Originally Posted by snowy View Post
    No we've been seeing eachother for two months. I thought everything was going great we get along really well, biking was fun etc, then he just started acting strange on the phone with me, and I called him out on it, and since then its been no good.

    He said it was the distance thingy and not getting to see me but then why would you say your coming to visit and not show??
    I agree that the not showing is not as important as the saying he would and then not showing. Or, letting you know that he couldn't come. You should ask him exactly what you asked us here.

    What do you feel about the distance thingy, btw.
    They told me to wear more lycra, and I said "no, no, no."

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