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Old 08-07-07, 01:18 AM   #1
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Ignorance is bliss...

My sister uses my laptop frequently, she is 16...

She left open a message board post of hers in which i learned she is looking for ideas about "car sex" and in her sig mentions that she "smokes pot, because she likes how it feels".

Neither of this surprises me too much, i was her age just a short while ago. Her older sibling smoked dope all through high school (except myself) and most dropped out of high school. Her sister, my "ex"-step-sister (yes...my family could be on Jerry Springer) got herself pregnant a few years ago.

I always hoped that my sister had learned...apparently not.

Is this something i should talk to her about myself? Should i tell her parents?

She has had a boyfriend for a while, he's kind of a turd, but he's 16...they are always creating drama for them self. I don't dislike this guy, but i'm not sure she really knows what she sees in him. And i certainly don't like the idea of her losing her virginity in her car (which she just got, how convenient) to this turd...especially at 16.

Regarding the pot, i don't have any issue with people smoking, but i do have my limits. 16 year olds don't need to be smoking in my opinion...especially one with her maturity, or lack of it rather.

This is that moment i always imagined would come but hoped would never.
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Old 08-07-07, 01:20 AM   #2
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This wont "fix" anything by any means...but i certainly don't want her talking about this **** on my computer either my laptop or my desktop, through my router and on my keyboard/mouse...

So my router is now blocking that website
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You can't keep teens from having sex, it's that simple.



But you can dress in all black wearing a balaclava and scare the **** out of the boyfriend so he's to afraid to take a poke at her. Confront him outside in a threatening manner and don't let him figure out it was you.
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I thought this thread belonged to P&R? What do you want; meaningless fluff, or invaluable wisdom? Make up your mind.
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I thought this thread belonged to P&R? What do you want; meaningless fluff, or invaluable wisdom? Make up your mind.

Invaluable wisdom, which is why i removed it away from javna, i never meant to post it in P&R anyways.
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Sounds like the rest of your family's just a shambles. If she hasn't learned from the examples already around her, well yeah I wonder how useful it would be trying to confront her. Try anyway, what do you have to lose? Rat her out if you want, again what do you have to lose?

Where are her parents?

It does sound like the whole family is stuck in some Springer-like vortex of self-perpetuating trashdom. Once you've done all you can to relieve your conscience, get some popcorn and sit back and watch the show. You can delight in knowing that one day you can appear on Springer as the lone, sensible relative.
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Thats a can of worms you really don't want to open i think. Keep in mind that the majority of the siblings i mentioned are the kids of her mother, who is not my mother.
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Children can only be nudged along the road to sanity. I always thought peer groups and television to have an equal input to positive family influences. A heart to heart with those she respects would be a good start . Excessive authority figures can turn them off by being too firm. Who might she respect and love , other than her boyfriend.
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Thats a can of worms you really don't want to open i think. Keep in mind that the majority of the siblings i mentioned are the kids of her mother, who is not my mother.
okay, what are you doing awake right now? Didn't even let me finish editing my post!

But yeah, that does explain a few things.
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My sister uses my laptop frequently, she is 16...

She left open a message board post of hers in which i learned she is looking for ideas about "car sex" and in her sig mentions that she "smokes pot, because she likes how it feels".

Neither of this surprises me too much, i was her age just a short while ago. Her older sibling smoked dope all through high school (except myself) and most dropped out of high school. Her sister, my "ex"-step-sister (yes...my family could be on Jerry Springer) got herself pregnant a few years ago.

I always hoped that my sister had learned...apparently not.

Is this something i should talk to her about myself? Should i tell her parents?

She has had a boyfriend for a while, he's kind of a turd, but he's 16...they are always creating drama for them self. I don't dislike this guy, but i'm not sure she really knows what she sees in him. And i certainly don't like the idea of her losing her virginity in her car (which she just got, how convenient) to this turd...especially at 16.

Regarding the pot, i don't have any issue with people smoking, but i do have my limits. 16 year olds don't need to be smoking in my opinion...especially one with her maturity, or lack of it rather.

This is that moment i always imagined would come but hoped would never.


Both hilarious! I especially like the one where you imply she's a virgin. 16's not what it used to be man.
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You might want to confront her about it (yeah, it will be awkward) and just be sure she is using protection. Neither pot or safe sex will screw up her life, especially at 16, but an STD or unwanted pregnancy can really suck. Don't be preachy, just make sure she knows that there are people who have realistic expectations of her and that you are only looking out for her interests.

I was really afraid I was going to be in a similiar situation with my younger sister, but she is pretty smart and learned from my mistakes
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Whatever you do, don't take her to that Vince Neil show.

The bass player will probably give her the clap.
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You might want to confront her about it (yeah, it will be awkward) and just be sure she is using protection. Neither pot or safe sex will screw up her life, especially at 16, but an STD or unwanted pregnancy can really suck. Don't be preachy, just make sure she knows that there are people who have realistic expectations of her and that you are only looking out for her interests.

I was really afraid I was going to be in a similiar situation with my younger sister, but she is pretty smart and learned from my mistakes


Very awkward.....I would talk to her and tell her " it's not my place to tell you what to do ", but.....

Then give a little speech about if you're gonna have sex, make sure a condom is used (even if you're on the pill).

I don't want it to sound like condoning, but as WeThePeople said, if she wants to get it, nobody can stop her, she'll find a way. Just make sure she's thinking about safety because she doesn't want a pregnancy or an STD.
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Both hilarious! I especially like the one where you imply she's a virgin. 16's not what it used to be man.
You don't get your first car and then two days later make a post online about where they can hide safely to have sex if you are already having sex.
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I think the first step is to get her to stop using your laptop.
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I think the first step is to get her to stop using your laptop.

That just means she uses my desktop. Although i'm not really sure why that's a problem.
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I think the first step is to get her to stop using your laptop.
This is unwise.

The more she's using the laptop, the less time her boyfriend gets to use her laptop.
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got herself pregnant a few years ago.
Happened to me once.

That's the last time I do whipits in the shower.
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There really are only two paths - one which makes plans for tomorrow, the other lives for just today. If you don't change her world view - you are spitting in the wind.
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Happened to me once.

That's the last time I do whipits in the shower.
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You don't get your first car and then two days later make a post online about where they can hide safely to have sex if you are already having sex.
Yeah, you also don't get your first nipple clamps and then two days later ask how you can use them sexually if you've already had sex.

You also don't get your first hotel room and then two days later ask how you can use the hotel room to have sex if you've already had sex.

You also don't get your first morning after pill and then two days later ask how you can use it for sex if you've already had sex.

See what I'm getting at? Asking around the best way to use her car in the pursuit of sex doesn't mean she's a virgin. More likely she just wants more sex in a safer environment than in the bushes or behind the school or on the couch while the parents are asleep or out in the enclosed patio or in the bathroom or at your brother's place or just in the backyard hoping no one comes out... are you sure you were 16 once?
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The more strict you are about it, the more she will try to experiment. Just be cool about it, and make it about her bf being a young ******, not about a guilt trip on her.
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I know a very successful woman (it could be me, I'm not saying for sure) who engaged in coitus at sixteen, and also may have smoked a little (or a lot of) reefer.

Yet now, as an adult, she's a taxpaying, responsible member of society, happily married for 7 years.

Perhaps it may be better to invest some time in your sister by being a loving big brother; just feeling loved by someone does wonders for making people better humans. And you might get something out of it, too. Who knows, maybe the extra attention from you will make her feel so confident that in the future she'll pick guys who are as wonderful as you. With the way things sound about your "Jerry Springer" family, she might not have the most confidence in the world.

And yes, as KingTermite said, advise her to always use a condom, weather she's on the pill or not.
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Yeah, you also don't get your first nipple clamps and then two days later ask how you can use them sexually if you've already had sex.

You also don't get your first hotel room and then two days later ask how you can use the hotel room to have sex if you've already had sex.

You also don't get your first morning after pill and then two days later ask how you can use it for sex if you've already had sex.

See what I'm getting at? Asking around the best way to use her car in the pursuit of sex doesn't mean she's a virgin. More likely she just wants more sex in a safer environment than in the bushes or behind the school or on the couch while the parents are asleep or out in the enclosed patio or in the bathroom or at your brother's place or just in the backyard hoping no one comes out... are you sure you were 16 once?
I can assure you that she's a virgin based on what i read, it doesn't really matter though because she probably wont be in a few weeks.

The reason she's interested in doing it in the car (which, by the way, if she thinks she can just go do it in a compact car no problem she's to another thing coming...i've tried it and it aint easy!) is because she lives in a house with 8 people...
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